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Note: I am now an active volunteer for the Crisis Text Line. I will only return to this account for notes or information. :)

Hello there! Look at that, you're able to read this, which is something to be truly grateful for! I'm a graduated intern with Honors (twice),  peer supporter, group moderator, former member of the Depression and Anxiety Support team, a subcommunity leader, and a verified Listener here on 7 Cups! I also founded and lead my own mental health club on my campus! In my life, I've struggled with many complex scenarios (both personal & situational), but I've learned how to cope and still have the ability to slap a smile onto not just myself, but others around me. As a student in training, I'd love to listen to what types of scenarios I'll be working with in the future and try my absolute hardest to help you out with the sharpest of my ability. Even if you just need to vent or someone to chat with, I am completely willing to listen with an open & understanding heart and will ensure I have absolutely NO bias. Don't even worry about being judged, as that is not what active listening is for! I have a sincere motivation to help out others, regardless of whether they give me anything in return. 
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Borderline Personality Disorder - Information (Honors Project)
Personality Disorders Support / by HummingWisdom179
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August 5th, 2017
...See more Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Hello, ya lovely peeps!! I know theres already a lot of forum posts on here about BPD and how to manage it (and has its own forum segment in our community!!), but since I personally dont feel very informed, I hope you can join me throughout this post and learn what I learned!! - What is BPD? - According to the National Institute of Mental Health, borderline personality disorder is a mental disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning. (Borderline Personality Disorder). In turn, this can result in capricious (or impulsive) actions and unstable connections with other people. ★ Interesting Fact: Also stated by NIMH, many mental health experts today believe the term borderline personality disorder can be very misleading, but as of now, a more accurate term still hasnt been found yet! - What are the symptoms? - As quoted from PsychCentral and NIMH, these are the most common: → Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment → A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation → Identity disturbance, such as a significant and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self → Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating) → Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats, or self-mutilating behavior → Emotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) → Chronic feelings of emptiness → Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights) → Having severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality ★ Important Note: These symptoms can also be triggered by significantly common events. - What are the causes? - Though the direct causes are not exactly known, psychologists take the biopsychosocial approach toward understanding the roots of the illness. (Bressert, Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms). Therefore, were led to pinpoint causes to: ► Genetics - BPD is about five times more likely to occur if a person has a close family member or relative with the disorder. ► Environmental & Social Factors - Many people with BPD report having experienced traumatic life events, such as abuse or abandonment during childhood. Others may have been exposed to unstable relationships and hostile conflicts. ★ Important Note: However, some people with BPD do not have a history of trauma. In addition, many people with a history of traumatic life events do not have BPD. ► Neuroscience (Biological factors) - Studies show that people with BPD have structural and functional changes in the brain, especially in the segments that regulate impulses and emotional stability. ★ Important Note: Some people with similar changes in the brain do not have BPD. More research is needed to really understand the relationship between brain structure and function and BPD.) - How can it be treated? - ✔ Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT can help people with BPD identify and change core beliefs and/or attitudes that build inaccurate perceptions of themselves and others (which leads to problems interacting with others.) CBT may help reduce a range of mood and anxiety symptoms and reduce the number of suicidal or self-harming behaviors. ✔ Dialectical-Behavioral Therapy (DBT): This type of therapy grasps the concept of mindfulness, or being aware of and attentive to the current situation and moods. DBT also teaches skills to control intense emotions, overcome self-destructive behaviors, and improve relationships. ★ Side Note: DBT differs from CBT in that it integrates traditional CBT elements with mindfulness, acceptance, and techniques to improve a persons ability to tolerate stress and control his or her emotions. ✔ Schema-Focused Therapy: This type of therapy combines elements of CBT with other forms of psychotherapy that focus on reframing schemas, or the ways people view themselves. This approach is based on the idea that BPD stems from a dysfunctional self-image—possibly brought on by negative childhood experiences—that affects how people react to their environment, interact with others, and cope with problems or stress. ✔ Systems Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem Solving (STEPPS): A type of group therapy that aims to educate family members, significant others, and healthcare professionals about BPD and gives them guidance on how to interact consistently with the person with the disorder using the STEPPS approach and terminology. STEPPS is designed to supplement other treatments the patient may be receiving, such as medication or individual psychotherapy. ★ Important Note: Families of people with BPD may also benefit from therapy. The challenges of dealing with a loved one with BPD on a daily basis can be very stressful, and family members may unknowingly act in ways that worsen their relative's symptoms. - Questions & Conclusion!! - If youve read up to this point, I sincerely thank you!! I believe this is a very very important topic that is very often misunderstood, and as a community, were already making a difference in shaping it, so lets keep at it!! <3 If you know anyone with BPD or you yourself have it, please please please consider receiving help!! You and others going through this truly deserve it!! :D Before you go, though, I do have some questions for yall! ◘ Do you have any friends or family members with BPD? If so, how is it like? ◘ What common stigma about the disorder would you wish to crush if you had the chance? ◘ How did you find out about BPD for the first time? ◘ If anything, what did you learn from this post? Thank you!! I hope you have a marvelous day! Take lots and lots of care, peeps!! - Sources - ✫ https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml#part_145387 ✫ https://psychcentral.com/disorders/borderline-personality-disorder-symptoms/ @EssenceOfHope
6 Tips To Combating Depression
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
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April 3rd, 2017
...See more Long ago, I put together some tips when I was working on a project dedicated to coping with depression! Whilst these tips are obviously nothing new, I hope some of you can learn at least something from these tips!! ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- TIP #1: A study found that our brains are normally hardwired to focus on the negativity in our lives. That sucks! However, one of an optimist's secret to happiness is to challenge negativity with positivity. How does one accomplish that? Through gratitude and mindfulness. To really open up your perspective and look around. Many times, when we start treating life like a blessing, it starts feeling like one! No one said that would be an easy task, so if you find yourself struggling to be mindful for a couple of weeks, don't give up! Standing up against your wiring was never meant to be simple! SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wired-success/201406/are-we-hardwired-be-positive-or-negative TIP #2: WHOO! EXERCISE! Who doesn't love to get all sweaty n' stinky? Well, in order to become mentally healthier, it doesn't have to be that way. You can walk your dog, ride your bicycle, or take a stroll in your neighborhood's park! Refresh your mind and let go of all your worries, allowing each and every step you take to be therapeutic. :) SOURCES: - http://www.webmd.com/depression/features/does-exercise-help-depression - http://www.webmd.com/depression/features/exercise-and-depression-expert-q-a TIP #3: Loving yourself is a struggle many with depression endeavor, and even for the average person, it was never meant to be an easy task; we are constantly forced to recognize our flaws by other people or certain situations. However, never allow your flaws to define you! You have far more strengths than weaknesses, believe it or not. Heck, sometimes our weaknesses even serve as a peculiar form of strength! You have enough strength to walk, to read these ver words, and to breathe, but you can't draw. See what I mean? Go as basic as you can; light doesn't have a size, but it always has the same effect. :) SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201004/loving-yourself-how-important-is-it TIP #4: Who would've known that translating your feelings into words could be so therapeutic? You know why that may be? This is because feelings are almost unexplainable, but when we have the ability to describe them as how we interpret them, relief pours upon us like rain. The pencil/pen/writing material and the paper will not - and never - judge you. It's effects may or may no be limited if you type your feelings on a computer or phone rather than writing with a pencil or pen on a lined sheet of paper, but find whichever way works for you! (: SOURCES: - http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Putting-Feelings-Into-Words-Produces-8047 - http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-health-benefits-of-journaling/ [http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-health-benefits-of-journaling/] TIP #5: Many with depression tend to lose interest in hobbies or activities they once enjoyed and staying at home seems more convenient to them, but if they can find something they love to do at home, they can slowly branch off into the outside world, and so on! Since everyone's cases are different, it isn't this easy for everyone. Remember that these methods won't always work the first time you try them; you have to keep trying and allow the effects to come eventually. Those who wait patiently tend to exhibit more in the end, whether positive or negative, than would an impatient individual. Difficult paths often lead to beautiful destinations. :) Also, coloring and doodling have, in fact, been proven to reduce stress and anxiety! It won't completely take it away, but don't let it discourage you: it shall grant you a sense of relief when you realize that it helps in SOME shape or form. (Don't always color those complicated designs in coloring books; they tend to stress you out even more. If you want to, though, go for it!) SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/arts-and-health/201401/doodling-your-way-more-mindful-life http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2015/07/doodling-for-cognitive-benefits/398027/ http://bebrainfit.com/anti-stress-coloring-books/ TIP #6: MUSIC!! YASS!! Some people don't like it, but I'm sure most do! Music can release dopamine and other positive chemicals in our brains! Did you know that your favorite songs tend to be your favorite because they have an association to an event in your life? Singing along with your music, dancing, or becoming involved is even MORE beneficial, as you are now literally becoming PART of the music. Music is also known to help people out in stressful situations and/or depressed situations, so make sure you use it to your own advantage! (: SOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-musical-self/201101/why-music-listening-makes-us-feel-good https://www.psychologies.co.uk/music-makes-you-feel-better I hope some of these tips were able to help out at least ONE person, or someone who needs a small push to continue smiling! Below are some statistics on depression, too! :) SOURCES: http://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-By-the-Numbers http://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI-Media/Infographics/GeneralMHFacts.pdf Oh, and by the way, you're an amazing person. Did you know that?
Quotes!!! :D
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
Last post
January 31st, 2019
...See more I realized I was practically spamming the subcategory by making a thread per quote... And that is no good! Therefore, I shall continue to post them on this thread & my feed! Today's quote: "The darkest nights produce the brightest stars." - John Green
Quote #5
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
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March 4th, 2017
...See more "You may be small to the world, but to someone else, you are their world." - Unknown
Quote #4
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
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March 3rd, 2017
...See more "Don't wait until the end of the storm to see the rainbow." - Unknown
Quote #3
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
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March 2nd, 2017
...See more "Insults are compliments wrapped in spikes." - Anonymous
Quote #2
Depression Support / by HummingWisdom179
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March 3rd, 2017
...See more "New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings." - Unknown
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