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Number of ratings14 Number of reviews14 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Estonian, Russian Listener sinceApr 7, 2023 Last activein last 6 months GenderFemale PathStep 222 People helped74 Chats283 Group support chats63 Listener group chats313 Forum posts168 Forum upvotes352
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Hello! I'm Avaria.

My current responsibilities/roles on cups:

- Anonymous Evaluator

- Peer supporter

- Academy's Internship Program mentor

- Listener verifier

- Listener discussions host

- Peer appreciation team's smile spreader

7 cups Academy progress:

- Quality Listening Program Graduate (honors)

I am an INTP (logician).

Recent forum posts
Internship Program AMA
7 Cups Academy / by Avaria
Last post
 February 16th
...See more 🎓 Hello my sweet fellow 7 Cups Academy peers! 🎓 What's happening? An AMA (ask me anything) session for anyone who's got questions about the Academy's Internship Program. Hosted by me (Avaria)! ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 For who? 🎓 Everybody's welcome! ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 When? 🎓 This Sunday (18th of February) at 12PM ET. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 Where? 🎓 The 7 Cups Academy chatroom.  PSST! This event will be monthly from now on. It'll start taking place every month on the third Sunday at the same time. I will try to announce it in a post from a week to at least a few days prior, but do note that if I do not announce it, it's likely that it will not be taking place that specific Sunday. Feel free to reply to this post if you've got any additional questions regarding the AMA session and I will get back to you ASAP. I can't wait to see you guys on Sunday! ------------------------- Best of wishes, Avaria
Openness and learning mindset
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Avaria
Last post
 February 9th
...See more Prologue / My story: Ever since I was quite young, I have been looking up to my mother’s side of the family in terms of being open to learning new things. She has been walking my road of education with me my whole life, she taught me the importance of learning and I couldn’t be more grateful for it as knowing how to learn, looking forward to learning and knowing that I am constantly doing so is now is one of my core strengths and something that gives me a reason and meaning. I have always known this and wanted to share my thoughts on it, so now I can do this in the form of contributing towards the completion of the IDG course [https://www.7cups.com/forum/idg/General_2633/InnerDevelopmentGoalsCourse_318284/]. Isn’t that convenient? Learning is something we do our whole life, regardless of whether we’re currently a student, employed, a parent, a family member or simply existing. I have had plenty of rough patches with my education throughout my life, as I also started struggling with clinical depression in my last years of primary school. At the time I thought this is it. I thought that  I won’t get anywhere in life, my learning is gonna be stunted forever and I will not be able to continue. Although, now, looking back at it, I will gratefully say that I was learning all along: I learned how to best take care of myself, I learned what mental health is and I learned to navigate life when things got difficult. It never truly stopped. Additionally this helped me realize the truth in what my mother has been telling me ever since I can remember - you learn your whole life. This is something a lot of people know but cannot truly understand in the sense of what happens outside of years of schooling and raising awareness of this in my close family and friends’ circle has been a silent mission of mine for years. ------------------------- ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ  What is a learning mindset? By definition, a learning/growth mindset is when someone considers every new experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. The IDG course guide [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1upCGL7DbiyNi6ZRWmWJz75jc9MuraCw7BEMMEbf0kUU/edit] describes it as follows: “Having a basic mindset of curiosity and a willingness to be vulnerable and embrace change and grow:” ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ How do I achieve a learning mindset? Remember, developing a growth mindset is an ongoing process. Be patient with yourself, stay persistent, and view challenges as opportunities for personal and professional development. This mindset is not just about acquiring specific knowledge. It's rather something that enriches your life, fosters personal development, and helps you to thrive in a fast-moving world. Learn the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.  Learning is a transformative skill and it’s possible to achieve a learning mindset by letting go of beliefs that stunt or hold back curiosity. Explore to understand, cultivate curiosity. Learning is quite literally seeking to understand things you didn’t know, understand or perhaps even previously didn’t try or want to understand. Keeping an open mind along the road is what opens the doors to learning. Celebrate effort, not just the end result. Effort is a very big part of learning, without it, none would take place. You can never predict the true outcome of things, but the fact that you tried is what matters. Self-reflect and stay positive. Reflect on what could be done better and what is done well, use positive self-talk, set new learning goals (break them down into small, manageable steps) and learn from mistakes. Gracefully accept feedback. Accepting feedback, negative or positive, is a very important skill in life and especially in leadership positions. Positive feedback is good and it shows you your strengths, negative feedback and constructive criticism give you another chance to learn something more in-depth. Understand setbacks. Understanding that setbacks aren’t there to do you harm but rather there to help you grow. Setbacks aren’t a true reflection of your abilities, they are another chance to learn. Develop a love for learning and do what you truly enjoy. It goes without saying that doing things that you love is what keeps one happy, so everything you do is ultimately up to you. If you learn against your will, you won’t get much out of it. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ Side note: Here’s a post about how to cultivate a growth mindset [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/General_2432/HowtoCultivateaGrowthMindsettoIncreaseOverallWellbeing_313619/], by our own 7 Cups’ counselor Lisa Meighan [https://www.7cups.com/therapists/profiles/Lisa-Meighan-LisaMeighanMScGMBPsS/?redirect=true], this post is also mentioned in the IDG coursework guide. It has very many similar points to my own post, so any credit for any of the points that I might have accidentally mentioned here have to go to Lisa. I’m not going to gatekeep. I found the post very informative and thoroughly enjoyable, so I highly recommend reading it for any additional information and things I might have missed. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ ------------------------- Discussion: 1) Do you have a learning mindset? How did you cultivate it/what has prompted you to have one? 2) How do you deal with setbacks? 3) What would you tell someone who wants to learn something new but is afraid of setbacks?
Executive dysfunction
General Support / by Avaria
Last post
 January 20th
...See more EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION KEY POINTS Executive (cognitive) dysfunction aka executive function deficit aka executive function disorder (EFD) ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ What is executive dysfunction? Executive dysfunction is a behavioral symptom that impairs goal-directed behavior (actions, thoughts) and emotions. It can also be used as a reference to a neurocognitive deficit. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ Who does it affect? It is most common in people of any age with neurodevelopmental disorders, mood disorders, behavioral disorders, addictions, etc. Examples include (but aren’t limited to): ADHD, depression, trauma, conduct disorder, russell-silver syndrome, cerebral hypoxia, anxiety, autism. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ Why bring attention to it? Executive dysfunction is an extremely prevalent symptom in many people’s lives, especially those who struggle with certain mental health disorders. Though it is often mostly recognized and talked about in people with disorders such as ADHD, ASD and depression, I personally find executive function deficit very interesting on its own and I think it could be worth bringing attention to it in the context of educating and perhaps even people with the prenamed conditions find comfort in putting a name on their feeling, because I did. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ Executive dysfunction and dopamine People who don’t struggle with executive dysfunction get a set level of dopamine after they complete a task, which makes it worth it for them. The task may be hard but the reward makes them satisfied. For people who do struggle with executive dysfunction, they get significantly less levels of dopamine after they complete a task which is why their brains deem it undoable because there is no reward to make it worth it for them after.  ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ Executive functions Executive function is a set of mental skills that include working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control. Executive function skills fall into two main categories: organization and regulation. Organization uses skills to pay attention to details, plan and solve problems and regulation uses skills to regulate behavior, emotions, monitor thoughts, control impulses. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ How to improve your executive functioning? Addressing executive function difficulties as part of a comprehensive treatment approach for depression, for example, may involve therapeutic interventions, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and, in some cases, medication. To improve your executive functioning skills on your own, a few examples of what could be done include visual aids such as making lists, using calendars and reminders as well as relieving stress by using healthy coping mechanisms (breathing techniques, meditating and learning new things (also: managing your time more effectively, listening to music). However, it is important to note that what works for one person may not work for another and I am only bringing out a few general examples. If you’re struggling with EFD and you cannot manage it on your own, it’s important to see a medical professional about it. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ My experience For the longest time before starting to major in psychology, I thought that executive dysfunction is just me being lazy (which is a very common assumption about EFD). None of my therapists explained this feeling to me and I couldn’t help but feel like something was wrong with me. I felt anxious and stressed about things I wanted to get done but just physically couldn’t do any of it and I know a lot of others struggle with the same feeling, so I figured it might be a good idea to bring it up. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ DEFINITIONS: Working memory “Working memory is a cognitive system with a limited capacity that can hold information temporarily. It is important for reasoning and the guidance of decision-making and behavior.” - Wikipedia, “Working memory” Flexible thinking “Flexible thinking is the ability to think about things in a new or different way. It helps us deal with uncertainty, solve problems, adjust to changes, and incorporate new information into our plans and ideas.” - Child Mind Institute, “Helping kids with flexible thinking” Self-control “Defined more independently, self-control is the ability to regulate one's emotions, thoughts, and behavior in the face of temptations and impulses.” - Wikipedia, “Self-control” ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ DISCLAIMER: This post in no way is meant to be a diagnostic tool and I am only writing this for educational purposes. Executive dysfunction isn’t considered to be a lone medical condition or an official diagnosis by most medical professionals. It usually walks hand in hand with different disorders instead and is only considered a symptom. If you suspect you may be suffering from executive dysfunction without having any previously diagnosed disorders, please contact a medical professional and talk it through. This also goes for people who do have (either previously named or altogether unnamed) mental health conditions and want an explanation for this symptom and/or a diagnosis regarding it. If you do struggle with executive dysfunction, just know that there is nothing wrong with you and you’re perfect as you come.
Internship Program AMA
7 Cups Academy / by Avaria
Last post
 January 20th
...See more 🎓 Hello my sweet fellow 7 Cups Academy peers! 🎓 What's happening? An AMA (ask me anything) session for anyone who's got questions about the Academy's Internship Program. Hosted by me (Avaria)! ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 For who? 🎓 Everybody's welcome! ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 When? 🎓 This Sunday (21st of January) at 12PM ET. ｡ﾟ•┈୨♡୧┈• ｡ﾟ 🎓 Where? 🎓 The 7 Cups Academy chatroom.  Feel free to reply to this post if you've got any additional questions regarding the AMA session and I will get back to you ASAP. I can't wait to see you guys on Sunday! ------------------------- Best of wishes, Avaria
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Reading & Writing / by Avaria
Last post
 January 30th
...See more 𝑈𝑛𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑑 #𝟏 𝑈𝑛𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑑 #𝟐 𝑈𝑛𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑑 #𝟑 𝑃𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑛𝑜𝑡𝑒: 𝐼 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑚𝑦𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓 𝐼ˊ𝑑 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑛 𝑡𝘩𝑒 𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑢𝑚 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑝𝑜𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑖𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑤𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑔𝑎𝑖𝑛٫ 𝑠𝑜 𝐼 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑡𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑎 𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑡 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑚𝑢𝑛𝑖𝑡𝑦 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑟𝑡 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚. 𝐼 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑜 𝑡𝘩𝑒 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑤𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑐𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑔𝑜𝑟𝑦٫ 𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑎𝑦 𝑏𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑖𝑔𝑔𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑙𝑒 𝑡𝑒𝑥𝑡𝑠 𝑑𝑜𝑛ˊ𝑡 𝑒𝑥𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑙𝑦 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑒 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑖𝑡𝑖𝑣𝑖𝑡𝑦٫ 𝑠𝑜 𝐼ˊ𝑚 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑡𝑜𝑜 𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝘩𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑠𝘩𝑜𝑢𝑙𝑑 𝑔𝑜. 𝐴𝑛𝑦𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠٫ 𝐼 𝑤𝑟𝑜𝑡𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑎 𝑦𝑒𝑎𝑟 𝑎𝑔𝑜. 𝑇𝘩𝑖𝑠 𝑤𝑎𝑠 𝑠𝑢𝑝𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑤𝘩𝑜𝑙𝑒 𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑟𝑦 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑖𝑡 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑠 𝑖𝑛𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑡𝑒٫ 𝑠𝑜 𝐼 𝑟𝑒𝑓𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑚 𝑎𝑠 𝑜𝑛𝑒. 𝐼 𝘩𝑎𝑣𝑒𝑛ˊ𝑡 𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑦 𝑜𝑓 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒. 𝑀𝑜𝑠𝑡 𝑜𝑓 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑚 𝑤𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑤𝑟𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑒𝑛 𝑖𝑛 𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑜𝑛𝑖𝑎𝑛٫ 𝑠𝑜 𝐼 𝑤𝑎𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑙𝑎𝑧𝑦 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑙𝑒𝑡 𝑐𝘩𝑎𝑡 𝐺𝑃𝑇 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑚𝑒. 𝑇𝘩𝑒𝑟𝑒 𝑚𝑎𝑦 𝑏𝑒 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑛𝑠𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑚𝑖𝑠𝘩𝑎𝑝𝑠 - 𝐼 𝘩𝑜𝑝𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑎𝑡ˊ𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑎 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑏𝑙𝑒𝑚.  𝐼ˊ𝑑 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑑𝑏𝑎𝑐𝑘٫ 𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑎𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑛𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑠٫ 𝑒𝑡𝑐. 𝐴𝑛𝑦 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛. ------------------------- 𝐼𝑚𝑎𝑔𝑒 𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑘𝑠: https://ibb.co/bKc88jS [https://ibb.co/bKc88jS], https://ibb.co/SVmgCGC [https://ibb.co/SVmgCGC], https://ibb.co/m8rdVgB [https://ibb.co/m8rdVgB] 
50 things to appreciate or live for
Positivity & Gratitude / by Avaria
Last post
 May 3rd, 2023
...See more I decided to try a little something... Yes, I am writing this as I go. No, I am not sure if it belongs here, but I'll give it a shot anyway. 1. Your family 2. Your friends 3. Your pets 4. A good book/a book you never finished 5. Potatoes 6. Netflix 7. Inside jokes 8. Snacks 9. Your morning coffee 10. Animal videos 11. Gifts (giving/receiving) 12. Your dreams 13. Naps 14. Your significant other 15. Electricity 16. Wifi 17. Fresh air 18. The sun, the stars and the moon 19. 7 cups 20. Advertisers' emails 21. Birthday cards and wishes (orbiting around the sun once more!) 22. Times when you check your clock and it's 11:11 23. Your favourite streamers videos 24. Finishing all the shows you've ever wanted to watch 25. Cartoons 26. Your favourite pillow 27. Music 28. Laying on the floor 29. Your hobbies 30. Ice cream cocktails on a hot summer day 31. Traveling 32. Umbrellas 33. Rainbows 34. Sentimental moments 35. Family photos and yelling "cheese" 36. Swimming 37. Parties 38. Laughter 39. Google Chrome 40. Learning something new 41. Art 42. Love 43. Fruits 44. Freedom 45. Road trips with your potentially annoying siblings or cousins 46. Forests 47. A successfully painted table 48. The meals your parents used to cook you when you were a child and recreating them 49. Target and Walmart 50. Yourself. Live for yourself and appreciate yourself. You are awesome, beautiful, kind, adorable human being. I love you. <3 Like, come on. When's the last time you saw a close up of the sole of your croc, when did you dust under your laundry basket. or when did you see your kitchen chandelier from above? There's a lot to life that you still haven't seen, done or things that you have simply forgotten to appreciate! Love yourself and love life. You deserve it, I'm proud of you. You have come a long way and there's nothing that can take you down now.
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Good listener, with a formal tone, but they listen and make you feel valid.
Brilliant listensr ava is I m proud of her. Her listening journey is inspiring
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Very helpful and super caring! Did feel so much better after talking. Thank you!
Truly great listener! Thank you!!!
Listens to problems very patiently, and tries to give possible solution for that situation instead of some generic statements. Very helpful
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Very nice listener. Very easy to communicate with Avaria.
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