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How can I put down my phone and go to sleep?

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Last Updated: 06/01/2022 at 3:04am
How can I put down my phone and go to sleep?
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Profile: Rebekah
Rebekah
May 9th, 2020 10:51am
Sometimes, we can get REALLY into what we're reading/playing on our phones. Everything is about technology these days - some people can't even make a living without it. The technological world is forever changing! However, having our phone on for a long time and it depriving us of sleep is not great. Our health needs to come first - occasionally, we need to just put our phones down. How? Perhaps by setting a time limit for having the phone on, or maybe leaving the phone downstairs overnight and perhaps doing homework or reading instead could work. It can be hard to put our phones down, though it is important to know our limits!
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1Here4You
May 23rd, 2020 3:25pm
There are apps you can download with help keep your phone locked during the hours you want to sleep. Even setting a personal goal for a certain time you want to put it down for can be a great start! Usually an hour before the time you want to go to sleep is a good goal to set, this gives the body enough down time to calm itself ready to go to sleep. You can also try charging your phone on the other side of the room do you have to physically move the get the phone making it less appealing to grab it before getting to sleep. Hope this helps ☺️
Anonymous
June 11th, 2020 10:18pm
Set alarm for putting down your phone. I've used this technique to remind me that it's time to sleep. And I play soft music as it helps to calm my nerves and thus I sleep . Don't think about something that bothers you much or creates anxiety before sleep. Try to stay as much calm as possible and be grateful. Also avoiding coffee before a few hours of sleep time helps in sleeping. Also stop using whatsapp or any other sites before going to sleep it decreases chance of falling asleep. As they say early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise.
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MillenniG
June 28th, 2020 1:07am
Having your sleep time in mind is important. An hour before sleep leave your phone aside. Within the hour take the time to relax like making a to-do list for the next day. By doing this I find myself more organized and prepared for the next day. Another thing that helps me is having the television on. Although I am not watching the television, by listening to it I dose off. One more idea why putting your phone aside is it becomes less of a distraction. Being on your phone for a second can lead to hours which affects your sleep cycle. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2020 2:23pm
Putting your phone in the kitchen, bathroom heck, even basement to charge overnight will help discourage you from checking it during the night (especially if you're basement is particularly spooky). If you’re worried that you may miss a call in case of an emergency, set it so that it only rings when certain people are calling, but still place it out of bed and out of reach just in case you get tempted. Your mind can stay active and engaged long after you’ve scrolled through Instagram or responded to a few work emails. Going to bed and falling asleep should be a peaceful, happy and relaxing experience. Engaging with your phone too close to bedtime can negatively impact those feelings.
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brightbubbles88
July 8th, 2020 5:44pm
I know something that helps me put my phone down so that I can go to sleep is I usually put it across my room, the furthest I can away from my bed before going into my bed-because then it requires too much effort to get to it and in the morning it would force me to get out of bed to turn my alarm off (otherwise it would just keep ringing). Also if you can't sleep and using your phone is a way of winding down (because I relate) it can be helpful to have other activities near your bed that you can do until you fall asleep that does not involve your phone (ie reading, colouring, writing in a journal, making a to do list for tomorrow).
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 12:41am
This is something I struggle with all the time. Everything on our phones, especially social media, is designed tone addicting and not allow you to let go. When it's time to sleep, this becomes especially difficult. One can set a screen time limit or turn on a blue light filter to prevent damage on your eyes and brain from the light. It can also help to set an alarm an hour before your desired bed time to remind yourself that it is time to wind down. setting your morning alarm and leaving your phone in another space until you wake up can also help many. I hope you find success in sleeping and putting away your phone. Good Luck!
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Zarkhy
August 22nd, 2020 6:43am
A foolproof way is to lock up your phone somewhere else [Like another room and such] and just lay down to sleep in another room. This way, after you lay down comfortably to sleep, there won't be uncontrollable urges to use your phone. That said, it is great to get completely rid of the phone addiction and set away a small amount of time for phone leisure activities like social media/games/YouTube and such. Some much more productive leisure activities that are actually good for you are reading books, listening to good music, taking a walk, gazing at the stars and such.
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Fergie12299
August 22nd, 2020 10:17pm
well for one you phone will probably enjoy being charged so help you phone. Going to bed should be an enjoyable thing and habits you carry with you to the bed room should be fixed. Bed room is exactly as it says Bed and a bed should be to sleep. Associating bed with sleep is the first step. You have to look at the bed room as this is where i go to sleep, not to look up my phone and rspond or talk to people. This room is where you go to be quiet and get rest which is a necessity and to maintain your health
Anonymous
September 11th, 2020 5:49am
One thing that I have tried is automatically putting my phone to sleep. Basically how it works is you set a time you want to get off your phone and once that time has come, all apps on your phone will stop and your phone will go to sleep. I struggled in the beginning, but it helped me limit myself. Plus, my sleep schedule improved! A friend of mine told me that she would try taking breaks and doing a quick activity, such as stretching or pouring herself a glass of juice, and it helped her limit the time she goes on her phone by getting her out of the zone she was trapped in when on her phone. Maybe try taking a break before you plan on sleeping?
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Teage
October 1st, 2020 3:56pm
I used to struggle with this quite a bit. What I did first was I started doing a bedtime routine. I would try to brush my teeth, wash my face, and read a chapter of a book at night. When that wasn't totally working, because I kept getting sucked into my phone- I started using an app that notified me when it was bed time. It would dim my screen, and sound an alarm, first at 10, then 10:05, then 10:10, and so on. I also use a sleep timer to listen to music before bed. I can turn on Spotify and then the sleep timer will turn the music off after a determined amount of time.
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mkm1982mkm
October 8th, 2020 9:11pm
I think in this modern society, we are all so addicted to information and social media feeds that we feel fear of missing out (FOMO) and this is a part of the problem of not being able to put down phone and go to sleep . I find these steps helpful. • While going to bed, leave phone in another room to charge so you don’t get distracted by like , comments and shares popping up on your screen ! • If you need to keep phone with yourself put it in airplane mode so you don’t get call or text message while transitioning to bedtime routine. • Use internet blocker apps so you will not get any distractive emails or messages or social media feed right before going to bed. • If you simply must use your phone in bed prior to sleep, one solution for reducing screen effects includes activating night mode.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2020 7:01am
When I'm having trouble putting my phone down before going to bed, I like to listen to soft music or even ASMR videos. These calm me down and help me get ready to go to bed. I would recommend you do these activities as you close your eyes and lie in bed. Find a rhythm for yourself and take deep breaths as you take in the music or the voice of the ASMR artist. Over time, you would've fallen asleep doing this. Something else you can do is maybe find an app that automatically shuts down your phone at a certain time so you can go to sleep without worrying about the phone being a distraction.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2020 11:48pm
There are many different ways to stop the temptation of grabbing you phone at night. I've seen some leave their phone far from their bed and get comfy so eventually you will feel too lazy to go get your phone. This can prevent you from sticking to your phone and not sleeping. Also, in the morning you can force yourself to wake up when your alarm goes off and you'll have to get off your bed to turn off the alarm. This can persuade you to wake up instead of laying there. Same thing with at school, keeping you phone in your backpack can help with concentrating on talking with your friends and not always on your phone.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2020 5:56am
A good idea is to place the phone across the room, or better yet, to place the phone in a completely different room! I personally use an actual alarm clock to wake up in the morning, so there is no need to have my phone in my room at night. This way, I will not be on my phone in bed at night and I will be able to get some sleep. I also am sure to not be looking at screens at least an hour before I go to bed. I often read a book to help me fall asleep.
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HappySnapingTurtle
November 6th, 2020 4:13pm
There are many ways to put your phone down when it's time to go to bed. I am going to provide a list of things that can help. 1. Invest in an alarm clock- If you use your phone for your alarm, it isn't a good idea to completely power off. If you power your phone completely off, there won't be any distractions from it and your alarm clock can wake you up. You can get alarm clocks at resale stores, places like Walmart, and possibly dollar stores. I got my alarm clock at Goodwill, for $2 and it works great. 2. Phone detox for a week. I know it seems like a hard thing to do, but if you get rid of social media, and distractions that are on your phone for a week, you can definitely see a change in your overall efficiency. 3. Make yourself a bed time- Sleep scheduling is very important for the sleep cycle. 4. Use hypnosis- You can download a hypnosis app, and play it on your phone before you go to sleep. It's really relaxing and will help your life in a positive way. 5. If you're up all night texting friends, let them know that you're going to bed at an exact time. They can help support you going to bed. I hope this was convenient! Feel free to contact me!
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crispautumnday
November 8th, 2020 2:56am
I struggle with shutting off at night. Since I usually check social media before I go to bed, I have an especially hard time turning it off and going to sleep. However, I have found that setting a time that I have to stop helps me. I made a time that I always cut myself off, because I know myself well enough to keep going until I am uncomfortably tired but still looking though things on my phone. I have friends who also suggest setting the limits on your phone so it stops you from using apps after a certain amount of time. I haven't tried myself, but I imagine it is helpful shutting off at night as well.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2020 8:30pm
The best way to over come being addicted to your phone is by taking small steps towards what your goal is which is not having to rely on your phone. Maybe trying to read a book right before you sleep can help take your mind off of your phone. Exercising, taking walks right before you sleep are all helpful tips in order for you to sleep better without using your phone. Phones can actually cause us harm. It makes individual stay up all night due to the amount of stuff we have on our phones. The light on the phone does not make it better instead it keeps us up all night.
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jayvian
December 2nd, 2020 9:48am
Good question. I think many people struggle with not being able to put their phone down. A solution could be to download a time management application. They work by making certain functions of the phone inaccessible. You can set them on an automatic timer so that they come on every night before you go to bed. That way you won't be able to be tempted. You can also try to keep your phone away from your bedside. That way if you feel the urge to go on your phone, it won't be near you and you will have to get up to go get it.
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Scarlightxx
December 10th, 2020 4:55pm
That can sometimes be difficult when you are all buzzed about the day or the next day. Some helpful tips are meditation, setting a goal bedtime, and putting your phone down 30 minutes before you want to go to sleep. The blue light emitted from devices can keep the brain awake and make you feel restless. You can also do online research. Also when trying to sleep, try not to distract yourself with your surroundings. You should put your phone and other distracting items out of the way. It will make you less likely to grab them. What do you think? What techniques do you think will help you stay off your phone and fall asleep?
Anonymous
December 16th, 2020 8:02pm
It can be hard to sleep when we feel tied to our phones and devices. There are a few solutions which can help us get more sleep time. Firstly, we can excuse ourselves from conversations on our phones by the same time each night and let those who it impacts know that we have to sleep. Sleep is a biological need, like drinking water or eating, so it's likely they will understand, since they have similar biological needs. Another option is to use "Do Not Disturb" settings on your device so that no one can contact you past a certain time outside of an emergency. A third option involves setting your device down to charge at night in a place you will not feel compelled to reach for it, such as placing it in another room or in an inconvenient place, like across the same room. If you are concerned you will forget to look something up, or feel you want to remember to do something on your device, you can keep a scrap of paper and a writing implement near your bed so that you can remind yourself to check in the morning. This will prevent you from getting up to get your phone, which would cause you to lose additional potential sleep time.
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PegasusPatrol
December 19th, 2020 7:10pm
I try to set the alarm on my phone set to ring when I want to put my phone down and go to sleep. This helps keep me accountable because the alarm reminds me of the goal I set for myself-- to get off my phone and get to bed. Silencing the alarm forces me to stop mindlessly scrolling and gives me a second to reflect on why I am using my phone. Also, I find that having my phone charger plugged in away from my bed prevents me from being on my phone all night. If my battery dies, I take that as a sign that I should go to bed. Having my phone plugged in away from my bed prevents any temptations to pick up my phone and continue scrolling while it is charging.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2020 1:23am
It was the moment of realization that my daily performances were not as active as my teenage years. I was a phone addict for 4 years and the blue light emitting from it really affected my eyes, leading to the uncomfortable feelings when I tried to focus in classes but had to blink my eyes a lot to see properly. The day I reduced my phone usage was the day I promised myself that good sleep is important for my body to function better as well as patching up my loss memories from exhausting mind used during daytime. I tried to listen to bed time stories in my native language and found that really helpful to fall asleep faster. I'm not convincing anyone to follow the same method I did as each person is different. Thank you, Anonymous (No Winter Country)
Anonymous
January 14th, 2021 4:19pm
I tend to find for me personally that sometimes when I go to my phone and cannot sleep something is not quite at ease with me. For instance, physically if I'm too warm or cold this can throw off my sleep pattern. Other times, it could be that I need to burn some energy and take the time to work out. Sometimes restlessness for me had been caused by considering everything that I need to do in the morning. In this case, I sometimes need to do a task as simple as make a list. When having my personal difficulty putting the phone down is hard to identify, I tend to try to separate myself from my phone or keep it in a place where it would not create a distraction for me, and I found this to be useful for me personally.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2021 9:43pm
Self discipline is so important! Establish it in your mind, tell yourself repeatedly that you will. Then, simply put that phone down. If it helps turn it off, shut your notifications, place it on do not disturb, put it in silence, airplane mode, whatever it is you need to do to stop yourself from going on it. What helps for me is that I put my phone far from me, or at least not within my bed's reach. That way, I can get to sleeping rather than reaching over for my phone and being stuck on it for hours on end.
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CompassionateDreamer8522
January 20th, 2021 5:21pm
One great way that I make sure I put my phone down is to put a timer on my phone and have a journal or other activity ready for me to do that I enjoy. It's important to have boundaries when it comes to phone usage/social media exposure, as it can lead us down rabbit holes and take up more time than we think. Once that alarm goes out, turn the phone to silent. If you have something you're interested in, write a note to check it out tomorrow, instead of "snoozing" that alarm. Setting an alarm for 10 mins or 5 mins before as a self-warning can also help you "finish up" your phone usage before the ending time.
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esthalley
January 30th, 2021 10:16pm
This problem is pretty tough, and many struggle with it, but there are some solutions. First, the easiest one, but one that can be frustrating: If you have someone you can trust with that task, you can ask them take away your phone at a certain time. It will be easier to respect your sleep schedule this way. Otherwise, you can also download an application like sleepcity or Foreest, to motivate yourself to not touch your phone with a game system. I find these pretty effective! Then, you can substitute other things for stimulation, like a lamp changing colors, a plushie or stim toys, or reading a book. Finally, you can try to imagine things : a story, comfort characters, a safe place. Something in your head that is more "attractive" to you than your phone. Then each night while falling asleep you can imagine this thing or place, that will soothe you and help you sleep, but also maybe keep you from using your phone.
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radiantRobin949
February 18th, 2021 2:20am
One strategy that works for me is gradually reducing the number of things I do on my phone. The most important thing is to not look at the blue light on your screen, so I start by turning my phone screen-side down and just listening to music or podcasts at a relatively low volume. I usually opt for something more relaxing, and I try to avoid anything suspenseful. If you have a speaker or wireless headphones you can try putting your phone away from arm's reach while still listening to something. I personally can usually fall asleep at that point.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2021 5:22am
Tell yourself that it’s time to put it down and then if you don’t, remind yourself that if you don’t get some sleep you won’t be able to use your phone the next day. You could also try to have a ‘official’ time to put down your phone before bed, and maybe make a reward for yourself if you put it down before that time, or don’t let yourself use your phone the next day if you don’t turn it off. You could also try not picking it up after dinner or something like that, because if you don’t have the phone you don’t need to put it down. Hopefully this helps :)
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SimontheWayfarer
March 19th, 2021 2:49pm
I think I went through a period where I just could not put down my phone...Most of the time it's not because the content/activity is interesting, but that I was anxious and was using electronics to avoid the anxiety (before I fall asleep, I would think/feel lots of stuff that I don't want to. But I have to confront them before I fall asleep...) So I just keep using the electronics to avoid them. So I think the way to put it down is really to examine the anxiety and confront it; it's either confronting it or avoiding it. What I do is to try to write a list of things that's anxiety provoking and promise myself that I will deal with them in a later time, but now is the time to go to sleep.