Whenever I go home, my parents treat me like a teenager again - how can I stop this from happening?

I think you should start by sitting them down for an indepth conversation about how you feel about them treating you that way. Some people may feel that it is rude and annoying, while others may take it more personally. It's important to remember that they love you and are just trying to do what they think is right for you. Your parents love you and only want what is best though that can sometimes come off as being over controlling. Considering how they might feel is also important which is another reason why having an open dialogue with one another can be very important.

For parents we are always kids, Even if cross age of 80 still we are kids for them. all we can do is just let them enjoy the way they are. we never know how long they live their lives... atleast they feel happy that they can still control there kids. And we know we are not under control. Buy whats wrong if we act in front of them? Just that makes them feel good. Let your parents keep loving you. Nothing wrong to be kid in front of your own parents. all they can do is just loving their own kids.

This is absolutely very frustrating, and overwhelming for me, because even at my age, my parents still treat me like they have to tell me what to do, and give me orders whenever I visit them. There is supposed to be a healthy way to establish boundaries with parents - however you need to really watch how you word your sentences and how to speak to them, and how you are responding and reacting to them. It can help to state what you are observing with I statements such as "I feel.... (very frustrated when you say this. Can you explain why you say...") It is exhausting to always go home and receive the same treatment - it can come from an older generation thinking that they know best and also telling you what to do. I have found that it the parents have issues with letting go of their children growing up, and their parenting style, and if they manipulate the situation to make it seem like that they are always right, and you are always wrong - sometimes these situations cannot be fixed... you have to constantly try not to offend your parents yet you also have to stick up for yourself and have healthy boundaries. There is no clear answer except to continue to speak up for yourself but try to avoid arguments about your reasons for not being treated like a teenager.

Just like any other relationship, it is important to set boundaries- but this can be particularly difficult when it comes to your parents, because you will always be their child. If I had to suggest any strategies, it would be communicating honestly about how you feel and remembering that your parents want the best for you. Maybe your parents do not realize how much this is bothering you and would be open to a discussion? I think that this is a common problem for people returning home, especially from school, but hopefully it will resolve with some more time.

Depending on what age you really are, your parents might address you as a teenager because you have just recently become an adult and are not yet aware of the world around you. Showing them that you are responsible and taking independent decisions can make them treat you more like an adult. If some recent incident triggered it then maybe try having a talk about it and address their concerns and give heed to their advices. Showing and proving to them that you have grown to be a adult is more important that constantly telling them that you are.

Try to flip the situation upside down. Instead of allowing the way THEY treat you to affect you, stand in your "solid ground", your knowledge of who you are - in this case specifically a mature, adult person. It seems to be that when we stop focusing on how the others might see or treat us we start to exude the very trait that we wanted validated in the first place. My answer in short is, when it stops to matter how your parents treat you, you will be victorious. Because either this will help them see you as a grown person, or it will just stop bothering you.

I can understand that it's not a good feeling when your parents don't see the level of maturity you have gained and still treat you like a teenager when you have clearly grown from the experience. I can't say that I know what would stop this from happening because my parents too, treat me like a teenager who doesn't really know everything. And the thing I have learned is, they won't stop until I give them a very strong example that I'm no longer a teenager. Our parents are just scared because they have seen the world far more than us (I know it sucks to hear it, but it's true). They think we are not ready because teenage years is often the time around which we seek independence from our parents, we create our own world that doesn't revolve around them. It's new for our parents. You may not be able to completely stop your parents from treating you a certain way but you can speak about it with them - tell them that you appreciate how they look after you but you need space for yourself so that you can grow. Really express how you want to try something all on your own and it may not work out, but you want to explore and see if it might. Don't be harsh on your parents regarding this, just share how you feel and appreciate what they have done for you. Then keep having small victories where you're doing things on your own and growing. I'm sure that they will come around to seeing how much you have grown :)

I'm not forcing you to do anything, so even though it might sound like that, I don't mean it. My idea is that you could seriously talk to them and tell them how much this bothers you and that you aren't a teenager anymore, so you don't want to be treated like one. If you think that this seems a bit embarrassing or if this feels a bit awkward, you can also leave a note saying this or text them when you aren't home. You can also give signals that you don't want to be treated like you are treated right now.

Set boundairies, talk to them about thi without yelling or judging (and showing you compassionate and understanding about their reason and view, always think and tell them you know they do it thinking it's the best for you). Elaborate them a list of logical reasons why you can think and be treaten like and independent and responsible adult; and the goals you make them until know that prove it. Explain to them what specific changes you wanna them to do and the responsability associate with them (that you already have or are willing to have). Be more distant and on your own when you are with them, take the initiative and sometimes even the parental role (practice reversal psychology, do to them what they do to you). Try to not depend on them, let them reach you and not answer or be there for them so easily (like said no always the first two-three times they ask you a new thing and justify with things you have to do, incluiding taking care of yourself). And if all of that didn't work, think about the option of zero contact, break for ever the bonds, it sounds really hard and extreme but if the situation put you in a lot of pain... you will have to priorize and decide what's more important to you

I will tell them that I am an adult and I know what is right for me and what is not..I will tell them not to take too much stress..If there is something that I could listen to them or seek their advice then I will surely pay an attentive ear to them.. As parents they fear about my well-being and there are lot my insecurities and inhibitions.I will understand their point of view too at times..Only parents love me unconditionally without expecting anything.I want to preserve the memories for a lifetime as they are so precious to me.i love my parents.

Sometimes a lot of us feel this way after we've grown, moved out of the house, and come back to visit. Parents will always see their children as just that- their children, no matter how old they are, because that is the relationship, just as a sibling is a sibling. It can be a struggle not feeling seen or respected as an evolved human being when around family who may not respect or fully acknowledge who you are now versus who you used to be in the past. We cannot control how other people behave, only how we react. And sometimes how we react can also influence how people behave, at that time or over time.

This is not uncommon to have happen. It's important to understand their perspective. They raised you from a child and in some ways you will always be that child to them. However, It is important to have open communication with them and establish healthy boundaries with the people around you. This is one way that may help you grow as a person and also grow the relationship between you and your parents. They are human and are flawed just like the rest of us. I encourage you to try to be understanding and forgiving. Change wont happen over night, but it can happen if you work at it.

try to let them know how you feel. maybe next time they treat you as a teenager you let them know how you would react if you were actually a teenager and how it differs from your reaction as an adult. sometimes, parents treat their child as teenager but then when they need help they want us to act like adults. next time when they do it let them know how their behavior contrasts with each other and that they should treat you as an adult most of the time if they want you to act like one.also, let them know what upset you without feeling offended. this can be done during a family get-together when both of you are relaxed. also, try to reflect upon yourself whether you are being responsible enough as an adult. often, a sense of security is what parents might need in order to realize that you have grown up.

Returning home, after you’ve gone off to school, or already moved out is hard. I feel that even now when I visit my mom on the weekends. It’s been over 30 years since we’ve lived in the same house. I have my own grown family now, so you’d think it would get easier. But it’s hard to get out of the patterns that were set up back then. I try to help out more when I visit. Whether it’s setting the table, or taking the recycling back. It’s not that I’m trying to prove anything, but it’s just helping them out and getting out of the patterns that were set up back in high school, when we never picked up our socks or cleaned our room, lol. Parents love to help out too. And it’s hard for them not to add in their opinion every time a problem presents itself. Phrases like “Thank you, that sounds like it might work” or “I think I’ve got it figured out, but I’ll keep that in mind” Anything, that lets them feel heard, and a small part of things, can go a long way.

This is a very common problem: many families struggle to redefine roles after years of living as parent and child. Once the child grows up, they try to transition into a more peer role, but the history can block that change. It is easier with some space and distance, but visiting home can erase those boundaries. If it's safe, try talking to your parents! Set down the boundaries you want and explain why. Negotiate with your parents so that everyone is on the same page, then enforce boundaries by reminding your parents gently and leaving when it gets crossed after several reminders. You're growing up and you're allowed to express that!

Our parents are parents. They will always see us their children, no matter if we're 12 or 28. It can be tough to be seen as a teenager, when we're adult. You have to remind them that you grew up and want to be treated like the adult you are. Tell them that you feel uncomfortable when they treat you this way. they don't necessarily mean it in a bad way, sometimes they're just happy to see their children and wants to take care of them, and the only way they find to do that is to treat you this way.

Oh I understand this completely! I'm in my 30s now, and even when I turned 30, my dad would treat me like the 15 year old who left home, not a grown woman with a child of my own. It's difficult for parents to accept that their children aren't children any more, but boundaries are important. In my case, I had to have a very firm chat with my dad about the fact I was ready to be treated as an equal, and that I had earned that right by living in the world without my parents. What you tell your family is up to you, but usually you can't get around it without some kind of frank and honest conversation!

The ways in which parents show love can be different a lot of times. It is important for you to understand that just like you, your parents parents also grow up and have unique needs of the stage they are in. When you say that your parents treat you like a teenager, it is important for you to identify that what part of it you don't exactly like. In that case, you can communicate to them that this aspect of the way they treat you is not particularly appreciated by you. In the meanwhile, you can also take up responsibilities that usually adults take up in order to show your parents that you too are capable of taking up adults responsibilities.

I will ask them to have a meeting over tea then make it as a opportunity to have an open conversation with them. First I will show my appreciation for their love and care. Then I will share some evidences and proof that I am responsible for myself. I will also express how I feel when they treat me like a teenager and clearly set the boundaries with them. This meeting has rules. No criticism and judgment allowed and use kind and compassionate language to turn the meeting into a successful one. Showing up with open mind and readiness to see through others’ perspective.

This is a valid question. It can be challenging for parents to admit when their child has grown up. They may not realize they are doing it. What actions are they doing that make you feel like a teenager again? Have you tried talking to them about it? Speak up (in a respectful way!) and set boundaries. Let your actions prove what you say and allow them to see how much of an adult you've become. If their behavior continues and it impacts your relationship, you may find talking to a marriage and family counselor to beneficial. Wishing you the best of luck with your situation.

It can be hard for a parent to realize that their actions are making you feel this way. It's equally hard when you are behaving as a responsible adult, and your parents just don't see it. It might be a good idea to talk to your parents. There are a lot of ways to approach the conversation. Here are just a few ideas to inspire you, depending on your personality and your relationship with your parents. Let them know that you appreciate them, and that when you return home to spend time with them, you feel much younger again. Ask if there is anything you are can do while you are at home to reward them for raising a child to adulthood. Are there any tasks you can help with while you are home, to help them out? If you are not comfortable having a discussion with them, consider showing them by your adult behaviors, like taking out the trash without being asked, or offering to help prepare part of the meal. Anything that shows your adult skills in a way that they will notice.

you may be able to, talk to them about what you like, and what you dislike how you do get treated. Sometimes parents don't see eye to eye, with us and they do forget but always having small talks and braking down how you feel is, okay. we are humans. we become adults, we do have to face life challanges but i know you gonna do an amazing job at it.,keep up the great work and always know you are all winners, keep the great job up and do what you do best. dont try to lose who you

Returning home can often remind parents of having you around the house as a child so they might (without realizing) interact with you as if you were a child. They might talk to you in a teenage like fashion, such as asking you to do things around the house in an authoritative manner, or they might question some of your adult choices such as drinking alcohol. I would recommend trying to have an open and honest conversation with them. Tell them about how you are feeling and how their behavior can make you feel. Be clear with them that you are an adult, and have your own life away from them and when you return home you want to be respected by them as an adult and an equal. It's likely they might not even realize they are doing it and an open conversation might help. If this persists or becomes a major issue, you could consider some sort of family therapy to try and resolve the issue. Clear and good communication is the place to start though!

I went through the same situation and I ended up having a soul to soul discussion and explained them that I am not a child anymore and that it bothers me how they treat me. No matter what, our parents will always see us as their babies and somehow they don't want to understand that we are growing and changing. So my advice would be to have an open discussion with them and explain what you don't like,while also trying to understand their point of view too. In the end, you will be able to find a solution. I hope this helps:)

For one, I would try to write them a letter expressing how you feel. Generally speaking, a verbal discussion usually leads to an argument because of disagreements and it would be difficult to get your point across, so hopefully writing it in a letter and having them read through it could resolve that. Plus, it would allow you to get all your thoughts out. I get how frustrating this can be, but maybe they aren't used to seeing you grown and seeing how much you have matured. I would suggest giving them some time as well. Change doesn't always work overnight.

It seems to me that you dont like being treated like a teenager. Have you ever addressed it to them personally and told them hoe it makes you feel? That may be what they need if for you to Express how you feel. It may be scary to tell them how you feel, but they only know what you tell them. To them you will always be their baby, but as you get older you dont want to he treated as a kid and I think I understand what your saying. You get frustrated when your parents treat you this way because that is now how you see yourself? Is that true please correct me if I'm wrong.

As a person who have been experiencing this for a long time, i think the key is showing them that you are an independent human being. Even when i was a kid my parents were very cautious while raising me and that prevented me to become an adult that does not depend on their family. You exist on your own and when you reach a certain age you need to start making things done not with the help of your family but by yourself. If you become a person who can take responsibility and action without being dependent on anyone else, then the way your parents perceive you will change.

If you are now an adult, perhaps you can tell them that you've grown up and want to be more independent, make your own decisions and be responsible etc. Though you should be able to show that you can be responsible and independent to be able to let them trust you and see you as an adult and not a teenager. After all, parents just want the best for their kids though they might sometimes be overbearing. I think that talking it out with them would really help. :) That said, change also requires time and patience so it might not stop immediately but gradually. Hope it helps you. :)

It can be difficult for parents to accept when a child of theirs has grown up, even when that child has become an adult. Adult children may return home to find that their parents aren't treating them in an age-appropriate manner and this may begin to cause tension in the parent/adult child relationship. When this happens, even before it happens consistently, it may be a good idea to start opening the dialogue with your parents about 1) how their treatment of you feels to you, 2) why it's important to you that they accept you in your current phase of life (as a grown and independent individual), and 3) how they can treat you in a way that is consistent with your self concept and current status. Explain that you would feel more supported if they treated you as the adult you are, rather than the child you were (who they knew) when you were growing up. You might even think of examples of improvements they can make or substitute behaviors they can adopt instead, though these ought to be presented to them in a kind and nonjudgmental way so as not to unnecessarily escalate the conversation to an argument. It is a tender topic that needs to be handled gently and with great care, however, it is also important for boundaries to be set so that your parents and you can all feel mutually respected as adults.

Try pointing out your accomplishments and your signs of independence in your life to them to remind them of your true age. Let them know you want to be regarded as an adult and don't want constrictions placed on you like you are a teenager because you are well capable of being treated like an adult. They may just be wanting to hold onto the feeling of parenting you and may take the opportunity of seeing you as a way to relive it again. Let them know that you appreciate them but you don't need as much guidance and parenting as you did before and only really need guidance or opinions on things when you straight up ask them for it.