Whenever I go home, my parents treat me like a teenager again - how can I stop this from happening?

You are the expert of your family. You could try to explain to them how you are feeling, and see where that leads. Tell them that you are frustrated with how you are being treated, and work with them on how to make the situation better for everyone. Listen to their side of the story. They may feel worried for you, and just want you to be safe and okay. They are your family, and they love you. I hope you find peace with what’s going on, and i hope that everything works out for the better. treat yourself with kindness.

First of all this is a hard pill to swallow but stop acting like one! What I mean by that is do you automatically refer back to child mode when you walk in or do you give them respect as an adult? To your parents you will always be their child but your needs have changed, in order to make change you need to talk to them and let them know how the way they treat you makes you feel and own it! Have a discussion in a calm respectful way as they may think they are doing good and may not mean to belittle you! Good Luck x

Setting boundaries is very important in relationships, even with parents. As an adult they need to know what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. Be clear to them about what you want. Asking for certain behaviours to change isn't having an attitude or being rude, it's called being assertive. Parents can be pushy, and sometimes they may still feel that need to baby and protect their children (even when they're adults). Communication is key. Maybe you could phrase certain things in a way, or offer compromises I.e "Im happy to do this for you, but I would also appreciate it if you did this for me in return. Is that OK?"

I know this situation from personal experience very well. In my opinion there is the option to do something that will show your parents how you have developed in a sense where you look at your own daily actions to analyze what might make them think you are acting like a teen, or if you really want to bring your point across there's always the option to just talk to them about this issue. You don't have to hold things like this in. In a good family relationship, actually relationships as a whole, talking about things that bother you is very important.

Write down occasions they do this with examples, and how it makes you feel to demonstrate your point. Maybe enquire why they do this so they are more self aware about it and can work on any internal issues. Then when they do it challenge them in the moment assertively and reinforce why it is unnecessary and how you feel when they do it. Perhaps explain why you are an adult and how you show this and the responsibilities you have in your life and how you have changed over time so they have examples of why treating you like a teenager is inappropriate

Give it time. Be patient with them. Your parents are going through being your parent for the first time. Being a parent didnt come with a manual unfortunately. They are learning bout this new dynamic just as much as you are. Things will change usually, but over a course of time. Don't be afraid to set boundaries where needed.

Hey there! It sounds like you're having trouble changing your parents' perspective of you, although you have matured into an adult. From a parent's point of view, they have gotten so used to you being their 'baby' that it seems unfathomable to them that you are now an adult of your own. For cases like these, it would be best to treat your parents in an empathetic manner. Additionally, try to maintain a mature relationship with them so they understand you are no longer a child/teenager whom they have to deal with. Instead, try having a straightforward (and respectful) conversation about what has been bothering you and why. In cases like these, actions speak louder than words. Try your best to show them you are an adult equal and should be treated so, while maintaining a good relationship with them. The last thing to do would be lashing out and acting against your words. Good luck!

I have been in a situation like this before. I would try to talk to them about it. If you can. I would just tell them how you are feeling and what you are thinking. Tell them how you would like to be treated and just see if anything changes.

I remember when I was in college this would happen all the time. My mom was super strict. Eventually, as I got older, she stopped doing it. First remember, you will always be their baby. Second, you can push the boundaries a bit while still respecting them. It is a delicate balancing act. Eventually, they will come around and see you as an adult. The whole thing takes some getting used to. Honestly, I had to fuss a little with my mom for a couple of years. It took quite a bit of patience on my end as well as having conversations with her about what to expect out of me. Good luck.

Based on my personal experience, communication is the key. After all, there may be thousands of reasons ranging from something you said/did to unresolved family or personal issues. For example when parents are not able to step out of their role as a parent or are unhappy with their relationship with their partner. Sometimes instead it may be that they just miss you and do not know how to connect with you on more mature, adult level. If you feel that it is seriously affecting your well-being or relationship with your parents and you're not able to resolve this issue yourself, I strongly suggest to turn to the professional, for example family therapist.

Doesnt that stink?!?! I think that happens to most people, so you are not alone. Instead of expecting them to change, I'd encourage you to change your response to them, or the situations that they put you. We often cant change other people but we can change how we respond and react to others and that sometimes changes them, but at the very least it empowers us to seek the change we desire. So, when you are home, guide your parents to speak and talk to you and respond to their comments, rules, etc with how you feel a grown adult would respond. Carve out the life you want.

Assert your boundaries respectfully. It can be hard for parents to transition from treating their child like a child, to treating their child like an adult. Speak up for yourself, but also make sure to thank your parents for wanting to take care of you (so long as what they're doing isn't harmful). If your parents are being controlling, asserting your boundaries is even more important. Your parents won't know to stop treating you that way unless you tell them! If you encounter difficulty with this, asking a friend for advice may help, as they likely know both you and your parents.

Trying to understand your situation. Being young and adult you must have been annoyed by there interference most of the times. It is tricky situation for you....on one side they treating you like this must have become habit to them from your childhood. but on the other side you want to take your own decisions. How about you sitting across and talk to them about your uncomfortable feeling due to there interference, may be adding some of the very good decision taken by you and was successful outcome. you can also explain to them that you will learn from the failures/ small wrong decisions...it will make you to more self- growth

Try and talk to them how you want to be talked to. In order to command respect, you have to give it, too. Another important thing is simple communication. Parents aren't mind readers, and if they aren't malicious, they'll care about how you feel. They are not mind readers, though. Communication is very often something that isn't given enough credit as it should. Learning how to directly and comfortably communicate with your superiors and peers, in order to coordinate and compensate for each other's differences, is a very key life skill. Remember, even if you're younger, you still deserve to be heard.

Seems like you get thoroughly annoyed by this. Has this been bothering you for a long time? Does it anger you or do you just not like it? Let's take a moment to think. Why do you think they are treating you like that? Do you have any idea what could be causing this behaviour on their side? Can you think of a way to change it peacefully? Also, I'm not really the person to give you advice, but you can surely try one of the therapy options provided by 7 cups. It was brave of you to reach out to us.

Be sure to communicate your feelings to your parents. They can’t understand how you are feeling unless you directly let them know. Inform them that you are now older and can take care of yourself, and kindly suggest that you’d prefer that they treat you as an adult. Make sure to respectfully communicate with your parents on this topic, and ensure that you feel satisfied when the discussion is over. Your feelings are important, and your parents need to know how you feel before they can change the way they treat you. Be sure to suggest the changes you want to be made, and reassure them that you are doing what is best for your emotions.

The horrors of parents not realizing their child is now a full grown adult. There is nothing you can do to deter the from that.Depending on your age the line should have been drawn. Its going to be harder to convince them they are doing something wrong or annoying if they have been doing it so long in your adult years. It may not work but I will still sit down and talk to them about how you feel and whether it makes you procrastinate coming around sometimes. If you're younger I would just recommend talking to them and telling them how it bothers you and make you uncomfortable . Parents are like precious glass make sure you think it through first and avoid saying things that can be taken wrong or the conversation will go down hill fast.

You can sit down and have a talk with them. Explain to them how you feel and that you would like to be treated like a adult now. Of course in a nice manner. I understand it can be difficult because you are their child and whenever they see you they want to treat you like a kid again because they probably miss those times. A lot of parents tend to that. But it’s always understandable if you sit down and talk to them and tell them how you feel and I’m sure they will be understanding about it .

I would always get annoyed when my parents were on my back like that as well. And sometimes, I would tell them how I felt, and say that I didn't like the way they were treating me, and they still wouldn't listen. What worked for me was talking about it with friends or people with similar experiences. I would go to some of my friends who's parents I knew were similar to mine, or at least may have gone through a similar situation. Knowing people are going through or have gone through something similar as I have been made me feel a lot better.

Unfortunately, we are not in control of the actions of others. There is no way to prevent your parents from acting however they act. We are only in control of how we respond to others' words and actions. I, too, struggle with feeling like a teenager again when I'm around my parents. Based on personal experience, I would suggest reminding yourself that you're now an adult, a totally different person from who you were as a teenager, every time you visit family. If we portray ourselves as "caught up" by their treating us like a teenager, in a way, we revert to our teenage ways of interacting with them. It's certainly easier said than done, but if you try to remain aware of your own growth while interacting with them, they might just start seeing it and begin respecting you more for it, ultimately treating you more like the adult you are.

What we don't realize is that though we have very clearly grown up, and matured (some even with their own kids now) some parents will always see us as their children who they have the authority over because they created you. What you're going through is very common, and has a solution that sounds easy, but takes time, and willingness from both parties to be successful. What I suggest that has helped me and alot of other people is sitting them down, and being honest about how their treatment towards you makes you feel, and set their boundaries that if they respect you, they'll learn to respect the boundaries and work on it with you. And like I mentioned before, maybe they don't even realize it or they can't help their parental instinct to keep a close eye on you. So be patient, honest and understanding with them. Good luck, and I hope this helped you.

Talk to them about it. Do not yell or be agressive, just try to express how you truly feel so you guys can work it out and find a solution that pleases everyone. Do not be afraid to confront tour parents, they are there to help you and only want what’s best for you. One of the biggest problems between parents and their kids is the lack of communication! Explain why you feel this way and try to understand why they treat you like that. Maybe suggest some sort of solution to the problem and try to put yourself on their skin

I would highly recommend talking to them. Show them that you have grown up by talking about your progress in a job if you have one. Maybe take them out to eat and pay for them. This will show them you are financially stable. Let them know what is on your mind and you do not like to be treated that way. Tell them what you have been doing when you have not been staying home. For example, staying out later and or eating out more. Make sure you spend time with your parents as well. This will make them feel appreciative.

According to my experience, the best plan I can propose, it to tell your parents that you want to see a Phycologist and once you see him, tell him your problem. I am sure he will give a good counseling session to your parents without telling them that basically your kid is fine, however you need a little treatment for better parenting. If we tell directly to the parents they will never accept, because they will not accept the fact that their kids have grown. In this way, you will be able to keep the respect of yourself and your parents as well.

I am 53 years old and my parents still treat me like a teenager when I go home. I went out with some friends one night and my mum couldn't sleep until I got home. My dad has the ability to transport me back to my teenage years with one sharp word. This is despite the fact that I moved away from home when I was 18 and now live in another country. Becoming a parent myself made me realise that our children are always our children in OUR eyes. It's a hard thing for parents to recognise. I am also wondering if perhaps you default to a teenager while you are home? Sometimes, we can easily drop back into dynamics that feel safe and comfortable to us (and that simultaneously irritate that crap out of us). Here's another perspective - perhaps they are not treating you like a teenager but are trying to care for you. Maybe they are offering advice, but you are acting like a typical teenager and not wanting to hear it? Let your parents know how you feel, calmly. However, it might just be one of those things you need to accept and tolerate, unfortunately.

That is something that a lot of people seem to experience. Your parents have watched you growing up in a continuum and may struggle viewing you as an adult in a clear-cut way. This is especially the case for very protective parents. I suggest talking to them, as delicately as you think the situation requires, and bringing up the occasions or topics that trigger that behavior from them. Don't be afraid to firmly express that this is making you uncomfortable. Some parents might also need "proof" of your autonomy, so remind them of some examples that show you are and have been capable of living as an adult.

Sometimes a lot of us feel this way after we've grown, moved out of the house, and come back to visit. Parents will always see their children as just that- their children, no matter how old they are, because that is the relationship, just as a sibling is a sibling. It can be a struggle not feeling seen or respected as an evolved human being when around family who may not respect or fully acknowledge who you are now versus who you used to be in the past. We cannot control how other people behave, only how we react. And sometimes how we react can also influence how people behave, at that time or over time.

try to let them know how you feel. maybe next time they treat you as a teenager you let them know how you would react if you were actually a teenager and how it differs from your reaction as an adult. sometimes, parents treat their child as teenager but then when they need help they want us to act like adults. next time when they do it let them know how their behavior contrasts with each other and that they should treat you as an adult most of the time if they want you to act like one.also, let them know what upset you without feeling offended. this can be done during a family get-together when both of you are relaxed. also, try to reflect upon yourself whether you are being responsible enough as an adult. often, a sense of security is what parents might need in order to realize that you have grown up.

This is not uncommon to have happen. It's important to understand their perspective. They raised you from a child and in some ways you will always be that child to them. However, It is important to have open communication with them and establish healthy boundaries with the people around you. This is one way that may help you grow as a person and also grow the relationship between you and your parents. They are human and are flawed just like the rest of us. I encourage you to try to be understanding and forgiving. Change wont happen over night, but it can happen if you work at it.

Returning home, after you’ve gone off to school, or already moved out is hard. I feel that even now when I visit my mom on the weekends. It’s been over 30 years since we’ve lived in the same house. I have my own grown family now, so you’d think it would get easier. But it’s hard to get out of the patterns that were set up back then. I try to help out more when I visit. Whether it’s setting the table, or taking the recycling back. It’s not that I’m trying to prove anything, but it’s just helping them out and getting out of the patterns that were set up back in high school, when we never picked up our socks or cleaned our room, lol. Parents love to help out too. And it’s hard for them not to add in their opinion every time a problem presents itself. Phrases like “Thank you, that sounds like it might work” or “I think I’ve got it figured out, but I’ll keep that in mind” Anything, that lets them feel heard, and a small part of things, can go a long way.