Whenever I go home, my parents treat me like a teenager again - how can I stop this from happening?

Just like any other relationship, it is important to set boundaries- but this can be particularly difficult when it comes to your parents, because you will always be their child. If I had to suggest any strategies, it would be communicating honestly about how you feel and remembering that your parents want the best for you. Maybe your parents do not realize how much this is bothering you and would be open to a discussion? I think that this is a common problem for people returning home, especially from school, but hopefully it will resolve with some more time.

This is absolutely very frustrating, and overwhelming for me, because even at my age, my parents still treat me like they have to tell me what to do, and give me orders whenever I visit them. There is supposed to be a healthy way to establish boundaries with parents - however you need to really watch how you word your sentences and how to speak to them, and how you are responding and reacting to them. It can help to state what you are observing with I statements such as "I feel.... (very frustrated when you say this. Can you explain why you say...") It is exhausting to always go home and receive the same treatment - it can come from an older generation thinking that they know best and also telling you what to do. I have found that it the parents have issues with letting go of their children growing up, and their parenting style, and if they manipulate the situation to make it seem like that they are always right, and you are always wrong - sometimes these situations cannot be fixed... you have to constantly try not to offend your parents yet you also have to stick up for yourself and have healthy boundaries. There is no clear answer except to continue to speak up for yourself but try to avoid arguments about your reasons for not being treated like a teenager.

For parents we are always kids, Even if cross age of 80 still we are kids for them. all we can do is just let them enjoy the way they are. we never know how long they live their lives... atleast they feel happy that they can still control there kids. And we know we are not under control. Buy whats wrong if we act in front of them? Just that makes them feel good. Let your parents keep loving you. Nothing wrong to be kid in front of your own parents. all they can do is just loving their own kids.

I think you should start by sitting them down for an indepth conversation about how you feel about them treating you that way. Some people may feel that it is rude and annoying, while others may take it more personally. It's important to remember that they love you and are just trying to do what they think is right for you. Your parents love you and only want what is best though that can sometimes come off as being over controlling. Considering how they might feel is also important which is another reason why having an open dialogue with one another can be very important.

Your question made me smile, because I know what you mean, both as a daughter and a mother. You may be referring to a level of respect you would like to have from your parents because you are older now. Maybe you expect them to be less intrusive, for instance. Maybe they expect you to follow certain house rules which make no sense to you any longer. Depending how bad it is, it also points to their way to show you their love. After all, grown-up as you are, you are still their kid and they care about you. You are not yet their equal on several levels, but that gap will narrow in time as it cannot be instantaneous. One day, you'll realize they finally see you as independent from them.

I have found having a discussion about how you wish to be treated can be very helpful when parents have trouble recognizing me as an adult. Writing out a letter and what you plan to say can be very useful to keep your concerns on track. I use my pre-written letters as a reference when I go into a conversation. It can be hard for parents to change their viewpoint- don't forget to be patient and continue to ask for a change in how they address you. With practice, you will see your needs met. It's all about communicating!

open communication is a good way. Talking to your parents and telling them your needs and wishes. It would help your parents understand that they could do something differently. There are multiple reasons they could be treating you as a teenager, still seeing you as their young child. Maybe a heart-to-heart talk could help you understand why they treat you like that. A mutual understanding of one another may be the answer to preventing them from treating you that way, or any other conflict. I hope you find a good solution to find peace and happiness in your home

You should talk to them about it and tell them how you feel. It’s possible they don’t even realize they are doing that, they are just so used to seeing you as a teenager. Maybe next time you visit them, ask to talk to them. Sit down and tell them how your feeling and this might enlighten them.