How to stop hating your mother?

I have found that reminding myself hating only makes my heart heavier keeps me from having ill will towards anyone. Also doing meditations specifically geared towards mindful forgiveness and compassion has helped me a ton!

Speak to your mother of which behavior of hers irritate you. Remember, she is also a human and overworked. She also needs love and caring. She has brought you in the world even after having her problems. Respect her for that and try sharing your day with her.

Your mother is not less than the person who brought you to the world, carried you in her womb for 9 months + endured labor. If by any chance you happen to hate her and really want to stop (which is great!) then start trying to forgive her for what she might have done/what you think she has done.

This is a subjective and loaded question, people develop many reasons as to why they dislike or even hate their mother; some are good, some bad. You may feel stressed, or even betrayed by her whether it be by something like a rude demeanor or even having left their children at a young age. You may have even tried to talk and compromise with her in order to stop these feelings, to no avail. Whatever the reason, these feelings have boiled in you overtime and have most likely interfered with your daily life. And that's the problem, it's YOUR life. You don't have to ignore the reasons as to why you feel this way, why you feel anger or spite. You can, however, forgive. You don't have to forgive the things she's done per se, only let go of them and move on. You owe it to yourself. Perhaps with time, love, and professional help, you can also love her again.

I realized that their parents didn’t give them all that they needed. I saw that they were just trying their best and they were human like me, which meant that they had flaws and made mistakes. I saw that they were every bit as lost as most of us are at times, because life has no guidebook. I saw the little child within them. As I started to forgive them, I became warmer toward them and appreciated them more. I started to say “I love you” to them, and surprisingly my dad started to say it back. He had never really said it to me before.

We all have our reasons to hate people, even our mothers. Whatever the reason is, think about if it is worth it, if it is worth not having your mother in your life. Also think about what precipitated the 'hate', the emotion. Then talk with your mother, talk to her about why you have such strong feelings towards her and maybe that will lessen the hate, lessen the emotion.

This is hard to tell without knowing why you hate her. I would say take these reasons and question them if they are really justified. Let's for example say if she is too strict then even if it might be annoying for you at times it is only cause she wants the best for you. You should try to also make a list of things why you are thankful for you mother, which good things she does for you. Imagine her gone. It might seem chill for a moment but why would you be sad and missing her? We often only value people and things just when it's too late. Prevent that for yourself.

If you want to stop hating your mother. You have to appreciate her. If you want to appreciate her ...you've got to realise that she sacrificed her body to give you comfort when you were a fetus. If you want to stop hating your mother. Learn to love your mother. When we hate somebody it's usually a reflection of an aspect of our character that we don't like. Try and find common ground with her. She's your mother and you seem to want to improve your relationship with her. Try as use SMART tips to improve your relationship.

Realize that you are not the mother and you are not responsible for what she did, and have to forgive her and let it go or it will consume you and you will think negative until you let it go and forgive.

Need to learn to understand that the way she is acting has a reason, she sees things differently...she has hurt me so much, and I have to let go off the hurt and feel better myself and only then I can stop hating her

Remember your mother is the one who gave you life, her love for you is something that cannot be replaced!

Just remember your childhood days. Nostalgic it will be. She loves you more than you can imagine. Think from her point of view.

You can't really hate your mother. No matter what she does. She will always be your mother. Your mother gave birth to you. Raised you up to be who you are today. You wouldnt be born if it werent for your mother. So how can you stop hating her? Well think of all the good shes done for you. Surely you can make a list of all the good shes done. And be thankful for what she has done. Do not focus on the negative but rather focus on the postive.

Depending on the circumstances we all carry hate and blame and put it on somebody else. It's important to love our family and especially our mothers. Talking out an issue and taking time to do that regularly is important

I don't know your mother, but for me, it helped to look at her history. My mom has gone through a lot, and it helped me appreciate her. Maybe this can work for you?

Even though your mother may have done something really bad to you, you have to remember that she is human as well. She makes mistakes like all of us and bringing up a child is not an easy task. So you have to learn to forgive for the sake of both of you. Of course she is at fault for things but depending on whether she tries to improve things or not you can make a decision on whether the relationship is good for you to keep with adjustment or if you have to walk away.

Try and see the good in her, maybe look at things from a new perspective. Take a walk in her shoes. Maybe try to find things you have in common, try every day to be nicer to each other, no matter the circumstance. Kindness goes a long way. I understand all of this is a lot easier said than done but all you can do is try your best. Your mother will see the effort your putting in and hopefully put some in herself, at the least she will appreciate that you are trying. I hope this helps, best of luck to you!

You can stop hating your mother by seeing all the things she has provided for you and how hard she works every day and night and how much love she has given you.

Is there something from your past with her that has not been resolved? It may be necessary to think about this and possibly confront her. Maybe you need an apology. Maybe you need an explanation. Whatever it is, you deserve it - and she deserves to have a chance to talk with you about it.

Figure out the reason for why you hate your mother. You can't change who and how your mom is. So, better change yourself to keep yourself happy.. and one thing... never hate anyone.. you aren't going to get anything thinking something bad about someone :)

You may very well have a right to hate her. But you can also choose to respect her for bringing you into the world, acknowledge her position as your mother (regardless of what kind of mother she may have been), and stop there. This doesn't mean you need to like her or interact with her. It's your life, and if you feel it would be better to distance yourself, it shouldn't be her decision to make.

Your mother is the reason you are alive, she went through 9 tough months and you need to appreciate her and be grateful. Its the first step you can take to stop hating her. Mothers can be annoying sometimes but despite that it doesn't take away who they really are. God put her in your life for a reason and hating your mother only pushes you away from her. Imagine how you would feel knowing your child hates you, it would tear you apart. Put yourself in your mum's shoes and imagine how she would be feeling. Its easier to understand and stop when you put yourself in her shoes. You realise what you are actually doing and it you see how wrong it is. It pushes you to stop Mothers are a blessing. Love yours no matter how good or bad she is

First of all you need to know why you hate her, then try to find a way to get around those things or fix them. Try talking to her or get your siblings or father to talk with her about your feelings. Hope that helps!

Change the way you think, dont be judgmental, ask yourself why is she doing what she's doing? Is it maybe because shes looking for the best for me?

This doesn't only apply to mothers, but I believe the best way to stop hating anyone is just to realize that your hate isn't serving any purpose and that it's just a waste of your energy. In the end you're only damaging yourself by being spiteful towards others.

Gratitude and forgiveness. Parent/child relationships are often complex, filled with ups and downs. Sometimes it feels like there were more downs than ups. There might have very well been more downs than ups, but to move forward and improve our relationships we have to acknowledge and celebrate those ups. Give your mother the benefit of the doubt. Believe that she always did the best she was able. Be grateful for what she gave you and the good times you shared, and let go of your right to hold a grudge against her for that laundry list of ways she hurt you. This could take a long time, and certainly a lot of effort, but it could very well be worth it if you want to have a better relationship with your mother.

Start by setting aside your differences &talking to her about your problems. Try to work things out!

Firstly, consider what makes you hating your mother. If it is physical, emotional, mental, economic, sexual etc abuse, then it is ok that you dislike her past or present behaviour. If it is due to just disfunctional dynamic in your family (without abuse), you need to understand firstly that most family dynamics are disfunctional to some degree and that you are not alone. Furthermore, try to consider your mother's emotions and thoughts when she does something what makes you hating her. Maybe she does it in her love towards you but she can't express it in the way you will be able to understand her.

It depends on why you hated her in the first place. My mother wasn't great although there could be much worse. She hated everything I did and made it clear. Weather it was heading a dungeons and dragons club or joining a sports team. I hated her but then then minutes later she would laugh with me or buy me something as an apology. Being mad made me seem like the enemy. If I could stay mad or Express my emotions, maybe we could have talked about it. Yet not all problems can be fixed with a conversation. So honestly, as someone that still hates their own mother, I don't know.

1- Ask yourself what benefit will I get hating my Mom? 2- You won't be happy hating someone. 3- let's start positive thinking to live happier. 4- "Hating" affects you negatively and you know that well 5- Offering Love makes you stronger. 6- Think about all helpful actions she ever done 7- Try to remember and feel all lovely moments you shared together. 8- Do you think your mother deserves your Love ? if yes, so you can start thinking positively about her. If No, You deserve to remove any negative feelings to love happier. 9- A self help guide about family stress: https://www.7cups.com/family-stress/ 10- Good job! you are doing great job trying to doing a positive action towards your happy life.