(Deutsch: Siehe unten) I only take chats within my topics. 

​Urgency first: If you are facing an acute situation like a panic attack, etc., please message me. There's no need to read the rest of the profile. 

Hello and welcome to 7cups. I'm a 28-year-old female from Germany, and glad you're reading this. I had and still have to struggle with some of the things I offer support with. I hope I can help you with some things based on my experience, professional university knowledge, and over six years of experience as a Listener here. I understand you well, and maybe I have suggestions, techniques, or skills to help you. For example, I'm familiar with living with chronic pain, self-harm (stopped a few years ago), and panic attacks. I also have non-epileptic (dissociative/conversion) seizures. I'd like to exchange experience about this anytime to possibly learn from each other in managing or getting them under control better.

In the following, I will describe myself as a Listener and explain in what case I am the right one for you. If you select me as your Listener and I think there is a chance that I might be able to help, I will try my best to do so.

If I had to describe myself as a Listener, I would say I'm primarily supportive, reassuring, and encouraging. But despite all my empathy and understanding, I still tend to be somewhat challenging. I assure you that you have my greatest support if you choose to work with me, and I will be here for you through whatever struggle you may face. My favorite saying I took from the saw movies, which I enjoy (don't worry, I'm not a creep), is "CHERISH YOUR LIFE," and I hope I can help you do that too along the way.


Send me a personal request by chatting with me or leaving me a message if:

- you want to learn to live better with chronic (physical) pain/ disease, especially such that gets worse in flare-ups, or you want to know how to best support a person close to you who suffers from this (1)

- you want to manage daily life better with a disability that affects you or a person close to you (autism and ad(h)d included) (2)

- you want to quit self-harm (3)

- you want to cope better with panic attacks and possibly get rid of them (4)

- you want to talk about psychological, non-epileptic/ dissociative seizures (PNES) and possibly gain better control of them or talk about any other kind of dissociation or dissociative or psychosomatic disorder (5)

- you want to chat about (C)PTSD and how it affects your life and find coping strategies that work for you (6)

- you want to chat about parenting: I don't have any own kids and not so much practical experience yet, but I'll probably be doing counseling for parents, especially for children with disabilities, in my future job, so I would like to test my skills on this here and gain some first experience. (7)   

- you want to chat about guilt or forgiveness. I am curious about what they involve and I'd be interested in discussing them. Depending on the situation, though, I might decide that I am not the right Listener for you at some point. (8) 

 - you want to chat about a personality disorder (any kind). I am curious to learn more about it, how it affects people's lives, and how they manage life with it. Yet, I am not very experienced with this topic, so it would be more active listening than suggestions. (9)

- you want to learn to manage, accept, and understand your thoughts, emotions, and psychological needs. (I might decide that I am not the right person depending on what they are related to, and the chat would be more focused on the thoughts, emotions, and needs themselves and identifying them rather than what causes them.) (10)

- you want to chat about faith, religion, spirituality, etc. If you wish, I might share my beliefs, but I will not force them upon you. We can try to find out what you believe or how you could solve a conflict that, for example, makes you question your faith. (11)

- you have general questions about mental health, want to figure out what's going on for you, what the next steps could be, what you could do to improve your allover well-being, or if you want to find out which topic(s) the right Listener(s) for you should cover (12)

- you want to discuss something related to communication or violence/abuse (any form, active and passive position) to reflect on yourself generally or regarding specific situations, or you want to discuss how communication and violence are related. Depending on the exact issue, I might not be the right Listener for you. (13)

- you want to ethically or morally reflect on or position yourself in general or regarding a particular situation. (14)

- you want to change a particular generally controllable (own) behavior by analyzing causing and motivational factors and looking for different ways to manage these. I have the most experience with this method regarding self-harming behavior, but I want to see if I can apply it to other topics and behaviors as well (15)

If you send a personal request, please start the chat with (a) code number(s) from 1 to 15 (which you see on the list, next to the thing(s) you want to chat about) to show you have read this. I do provide long-term support as well! Let me know if you wish that, so I can see what I can offer. I offer chats related to other topics like work stress if the focus is on one of the topics listed above, e.g. work-induced PTSD, communication and/or violence, or behavioral issues at work - own behavior only. 

Please note: While I have my own and professional experience with some of these topics, I am not a fully trained professional. I am in education for a job where I work with people and help them, for example, through counseling. Still, here I am only a Listener and not a Therapist. That means I can't advise you on the ultimate solution. Yet, I am glad to provide suggestions where I feel it's appropriate and consider your options together if you want to.

If I am offline (red), you can still message me, and I will get in touch when I see it.
If I don't take your request, feel free to message me because I might have forgotten to log out, but I will get back to you when I see it.

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Ich spreche auch Deutsch. Themen:   

 - chronische Schmerzen oder Beeinträchtigung bei Betroffenen und Angehörigen,

- selbstverletzendes Verhalten,

- Panikattacken,

- dissoziative Identitätsstörung und dissoziative Zustände/ Anfälle oder andere dissoziative Störung,

- Trauma (PTBS),

- Genesung/ Erholung/ Rehabililitation von einer Verletzung oder körperlichen oder psychischen Erkrankung,

- Erziehung/ Elternberatung,

- Schuld und Vergebung,

- Persönlichkeitsstörungen,

- Umgang mit Gedanken, Gefühlen und psychologischen Bedürfnissen,

- Glaube und Religion,

- allgemeine mentale Gesundheit,

- Kommunikation und Gewalt,

- ethisch-moralische Selbstreflexion und Positionierung,

- Verhaltensanalyse und -änderung (eigenes Verhalten),

- Andere Themen dürfen gerne beinhaltet sein, solange der Schwerpunkt auf den genannten Themen liegt, z. B. Arbeitsleben: berufsbedingte Traumatisierung, Kommunikation und Gewalt oder (eigenes) problematisches Verhalten im Beruf. Ausschließlich andere Themen auf Anfrage, wenn sonst niemand für einen Chat auf Deutsch verfügbar ist.