How to stop hating your mother?

whoa! this question hit me hard.... well if you hate your mom then i am so sorry... but if you wanna stop hating her then you could umm write letters about how you love her and hoe you wanna stop hating her... go and talk to her... hug her and kiss her

I learnt that after a bad experience with my mum, I slowly became more uptight just like her, but I realised overtime, that slow and truthful communication helps to ease the tension.

Let me know when you find an answer.

I have experienced this and let me tell you it is not easy! However, no matter why you hate her or what she has done, it is not good to go through life with hate in your heart! Forgive but never forget and move on!

Forgive her because she did not (and even still now does not) know better, and in many situations just doing as she herself was raised.

Try to see things from her point of view. Then talk to her and try to get her to see yours. Even if you can agree to disagree on some things, that is progress. Remember that, even though she is your mother, she is still only human and makes mistakes. Talking to her about how you feel is the best way of resolving issues.

You can do activities/day outs with your mother to help build a better bond/stronger relationship with her.

realize that she is a person too, with real feelings and emotions. it's hard to picture our mothers as people who feel things and have emotions, they have to disguise a lot of their feelings for the sake of their children.

To be completely honest, you must first forgive her. After you do this, the hate will slowly pass. True, it requires courage but hey, you CAN do it.

What is the problem? Are you under a lot of stress? Did she not buy you that one of a kind necklace? or is it a more serious issue such as hurling hurtful comments at you or focusing her stress and anger on you? You should always sit down and have a conversation with your mother. Tell her how you feel about your relationship and try to encourage her to speak about it too. Try to spend more time with her, maybe cooking or going to see a movie together.

Accept that some people just won't change. Your mother has had a probably hard life just like you have, but back then people were much more unforgiving. You think how she treats you is bad? Can you imagine the household she came from to produce a person who may have done/said the things she may have done/said? Stop hating your mother by understanding your mother. The very same thing we all want from everyone. Less hate, more understanding.

Think of her as the one who gave you life. you may not always have something to agree on, but remember that she was the first one to love you in this world.

I wish I knew the answer to this... Firstly it's not your fault your feeling this way! Clearly something has happened or is still happening! But as they say time heals all sounds. As for the hatred it consumes too much time and energy and only makes you feel worse! Letting go a bit and trying to move on are the first steps...

Relationships can take a long time to mend, especially with our own families. Open and honest conversations with the person in question are a great way to start, but these aren't always easy. If the person is unwilling to speak with you or is speaking to you disrespectfully, this isn't your fault. The saying, "it takes two to tango" is very legitimate. If you can't communicate with the other person as a way to heal, try working on yourself. Sometimes all we need is space. Other times, we need to work really hard to control our feelings and dig deeper in order to foster resiliency. Try to practice mindfulness exercises and build you support network. Finally, 'hate' is a very strong word. What you may be feeling is anger or resentment. Try to identify and label other feelings besides 'hate'.

It depends on what she has done but think of it this way she gave you life on the earth and that should be one thing to appreciate.

You may feel great appreciation for your mother, yet also feel like she gets on your last nerves sometimes, too. There are many types of relationships you can have with your mother, from enjoying a happy and fulfilling relationship to feeling abused or put down by your mother. If you struggle to get along with your mother, realize that while you cannot change her, you can make changes to how you interact.

Okay. First things first. You wouldn't be here if it weren't for her. She took care of you ever since you we're less than an inch big. She may not be all that you expect her to be. But we're humans. And we make mistakes.

If you don't know the reason for hating her, then you need to find the root of your hatred. After that, you have to acknowledge the why and think about whether or not you can bring yourself to no longer hate her. Every situation is different, and you don't always have to stop hating someone-it's based on what caused the hatred and the relationship between you. If you think you can and should, you should talk with your mother about what's going on and begin the healing process.

Not hate her in the first place and love her and show her you love her she won't be around forever so love her as long as she is around

Having strong feelings of dislike to a family member is completely fine. If distancing yourself from her is going to help YOU, then by all means don't stop yourself. Don't put yourself through forgiving someone who doesn't deserve to be forgiven.

If you want to stop hating your mother. You have to appreciate her. If you want to appreciate her ...you've got to realise that she sacrificed her body to give you comfort when you were a fetus. If you want to stop hating your mother. Learn to love your mother. When we hate somebody it's usually a reflection of an aspect of our character that we don't like. Try and find common ground with her. She's your mother and you seem to want to improve your relationship with her. Try as use SMART tips to improve your relationship.

This is hard to tell without knowing why you hate her. I would say take these reasons and question them if they are really justified. Let's for example say if she is too strict then even if it might be annoying for you at times it is only cause she wants the best for you. You should try to also make a list of things why you are thankful for you mother, which good things she does for you. Imagine her gone. It might seem chill for a moment but why would you be sad and missing her? We often only value people and things just when it's too late. Prevent that for yourself.

We all have our reasons to hate people, even our mothers. Whatever the reason is, think about if it is worth it, if it is worth not having your mother in your life. Also think about what precipitated the 'hate', the emotion. Then talk with your mother, talk to her about why you have such strong feelings towards her and maybe that will lessen the hate, lessen the emotion.

I realized that their parents didn’t give them all that they needed. I saw that they were just trying their best and they were human like me, which meant that they had flaws and made mistakes. I saw that they were every bit as lost as most of us are at times, because life has no guidebook. I saw the little child within them. As I started to forgive them, I became warmer toward them and appreciated them more. I started to say “I love you” to them, and surprisingly my dad started to say it back. He had never really said it to me before.

This is a subjective and loaded question, people develop many reasons as to why they dislike or even hate their mother; some are good, some bad. You may feel stressed, or even betrayed by her whether it be by something like a rude demeanor or even having left their children at a young age. You may have even tried to talk and compromise with her in order to stop these feelings, to no avail. Whatever the reason, these feelings have boiled in you overtime and have most likely interfered with your daily life. And that's the problem, it's YOUR life. You don't have to ignore the reasons as to why you feel this way, why you feel anger or spite. You can, however, forgive. You don't have to forgive the things she's done per se, only let go of them and move on. You owe it to yourself. Perhaps with time, love, and professional help, you can also love her again.

Your mother is not less than the person who brought you to the world, carried you in her womb for 9 months + endured labor. If by any chance you happen to hate her and really want to stop (which is great!) then start trying to forgive her for what she might have done/what you think she has done.

Mother is the one who gave you life and cared for you and even the worst mother deserves respect and care. This is something really basic for any human. Have you considered some therapy?

Learn to let go of the feelings you attach to her behaviours and try to understand why she behaves that way. Practice compassion towards her where possible

Take a step back and see why you hate her. Analyse the root of the issue. Then judge whether it's okay to hate her or not. The rest will follow.

Wow! Hate is a strong word. First I would suggest for you to consider if hate is the correct vocabulary for what you are feeling. We all have mothers. Some of us are luckier than others, however, a mothers job is not to be her child’s best friend. With that said, a mother job is also not to harm or restrict her child from living their best life. In my opinion, and I take my role as a mother seriously, is to guide, coach and teach her child skills needed to navigate with ease in this world of chaos. The great news is, that once you reach adult age, you have a choice. You can choose to live completely independent from your mother. Of course this is not always an easy choice, due to the fact that many adult children rely on their parents financial support until their early twenties. Especially if further education is paid for by the parent. Therefore you may decide to continue to be respectful and bite your tongue during these years. It’s when you have the capability to rely solely on yourself and cut the cords with people who no longer serve your best interest. I am not saying to cut all ties, just to recognize your own power to choose who plays a key role in your life story and who is more of a supporting, background character. I also love the term, keep your friends close and your enemies closer as well as, bless their heart. Always choose love and kindness over revenge. Loving yourself first is revenge that serves both purposes. Best of luck!