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Try not to get to agitated. If you get too mad take time to yourself. She's just a child. Sometimes she won't understand.
Depends on both of your ages and who both as a person and gender. Some people just fight for the fun of it or because they hate each other so much that well... you know what I'm getting to. Just talk to each other and work it out. There's only so much you can do, if it fails, try until you cant no longer figure a reason to or something.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:09pm
That's not easy and takes time. Give yourself time and her as well while you work out your feelings. Try not to provoke situations between the two of you that will lead to more hatred. Besides why hate a family member when you can work through it?
It's natural to dislike your younger siblings at times - they can be the most annoying people in the world sometimes! If it's a constant dislike, that's okay too. Some people just don't get along. However, I'd recommend just being aware of how your perception of your sister impacts your actions towards her though.
You need to respect your little sister as a freind as she will help you through the hard times and even if you hate her in the future when you are older she will be your best most trusted freind
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:46am
Well, this is very complicated. There are likely reasons why you feel this way. I really think this one needs personalized advice from a listener.
Why do you hate her in the first place? Do you recall some incidents where you feel that hatred very strongly? Are those reasons still valid today? Is there anything you can do to modify those reasons? Being open to her (or other family members who might contribute to the way you feel, e.g. a parent who plays favorites) can be helpful.
The way to stop hating your little sister is to have patience, it is a give and receive type if skill. If your little sister bothers you stay calm and don't get upset. Little sisters have feelings, and believe it or not they are only human
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 3:29am
Sit down with her and get to know her and about her life. She may have problems that you don't know about, and you may be able to help her. You may realize that you don't hate her, you just hate some of the things she does.
Family is difficult - we get good days and bad days. siblings fall in and out the same way the weather in Scotland changes every second of the day, however your love will never be altered due to this. be patient with your family - its the only one you get. remember your sister will grow, don't say mean things just because you can - she may be a little silly now, but once she is older she will respect you being kind to her, and listening to her - even if she is being silly! - its something you learn as you grow, so dont pressure yourself too much.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 9:03pm
Find commonground beyond being family. Get to know her. Find reasons to be grateful for having her and write them down for days when she gets on your nerves.
Identify what makes you feel negative emotions towards your sister and see what can be done to resolve them. Conflicts are resolved through listening, understanding and compromise so be open and honest in your communications to ensure a healthy relationship is built
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 6:16pm
The best way to figure that out is to have a serious sit down talk with her, you, and your parents. Sort of like an intervention and to clear up why you feel this way.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2018 10:36am
I think you need to ask why you hate your sister, maybe make a list of the reasons. Work through them, see if any of them have a solution that you can action right now. If there is any like that, go ahead and do them. If they are all things that will take more time, break them into steps. So maybe she frequently borrows your clothing without asking? First step could be to try and explain to her how it makes you feel. Maybe come to an arrangement with her where once a week, she can borrow a different thing, as long as she asks. Or if you aren't ok with that, then you could work on setting ground rules. If they're more complex reasons, maybe talk to a parent for some guidance on ways to work through this. Good luck!
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 3:06pm
Siblings can be tough and annoying. It’s best to put yourself in their shoes. I know from being one, younger sisters look up to their older siblings and enjoy being around them because they identify with them, even if that’s not always obvious. They can get on your nerves and be rude because they probably haven’t matured as much yet, which is fine, we were all that young once. Be patient with her but also understand when it’s time to take some time for yourself and try to communicate that to her as well. Maybe just let her know you need some time for yourself- this would teach her a lot about empathy and respect.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:36pm
Try to understand her more. Try to think how would you feel if your older sibling hated you. If she's little she has no experience and therefore you shouldn't be so harsh.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 2:26pm
Sit and talk to her and find a common interest and participate in something which is fun for both of you. Sit and talk about any problems which you both may hvae to overcome any problems
Vow to protect her, no matter the cost. You will find you love whoever you are willing to die for. Protect her from bad relationships, bad people, bad experiences, anything that would hurt her. If you fight, be the first to apologize, whether you started it or not. Also, find something nice to do for her as often as possible, and smile at her often.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 5:23am
Well, you should find common ground with her and see if there is anything that interest both of you so it can spark a conversation that can lead you to understand your sister better.
When I was younger I despised my sister. We shared a room and although she was two years younger than me, she was physically stronger than me and would often push me over and physically "assault" me so of course I grew to hate her. Over time, as we have both gotten older and I have become wiser, I have learnt to be more passionate towards her and grown to love each other more. As you get older, you become more aware of right and wrongs and I feel you become more empathetic towards others!
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2018 11:03pm
I have a little sister, and I understand how annoying they can be. But in the end, this hate will get you nowhere. Find common ground with your sister and don't use your energy on hating them! Understand they are younger and most likely still learning.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:46am
I need to learn to stop hitting my little sister is to understand why and what it is that causes me to hate which for one I could never understand why I would hate her in the first place having a sister should be more of love and acceptance yes there is always misunderstandings yes there is always miscommunications. But in all reality it's learning to recognize when a sister is trying to reach out to her older brother or sister
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 7:07pm
Form a better relation with her. Try understanding her better, and generally knowing her perspective.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 3:58am
Sibling rivalry is not uncommon, in fact everybody had it sometime in there lives. But guaranteed if your sister ever needed you you be there. There will come a time when you both need each other for any reason, just because you hate her it don’t mean you don’t love her
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 10:36pm
You have to think of her as a person. She is in you family especially if she is you own "blood". You should treat her with respect as any other human being. Some times small kind moves may help. You can try spending quality time together and have fun!
There's no reason to hate your younger sibling even though they may be mischievous they're still growing up and learning, try to be a good influence to them by doing good things in front of them and being nice and you'll see a change in her attitude but also important that her parents make sure to raise her right
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 1:25pm
Put yourself in her shoes. List the things you hate about her and asked yourself why is she doing this? Maybe she needs help. Maybe she needs you. Start to initiate conversations with her. Start to engage with her and do more activities with her. Start to discover her and discover yourself more.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 8:40pm
Having siblings can be demanding sometimes. A little sister is a blessing, and what you perceive as annoying might just be a cry for love and attention.
To stop hating your little sister, ask yourself what is it that upsets you the most. Is it something you control or something they control? What is the reason, does it stem from another issue and your sister is the one who is taking the brunt of your problem? Take a step outside of yourself to look with fresh eyes at how both of you interact with each other. Are there any hidden problems? If so, what? Developing these steps may help changes with your perception of how and why there may be a bad relationship.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2018 2:58am
Try to identify what is triggering the feeling of hatred and get to the root cause of the emotion. Sit down and talk it through with someone you trust or your family members.
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