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Sometimes hating a sibling is all we seem to do but try to remember the good memories. Like the time you went fishing or when she was learning to cook.
In order to stop hating your little sister, perhaps is a good idea to play with her, share time toguether...
By starting to love her. Dont think that u have become less imp because of her you are equally imp and will be. Dont be jealous just love her
Try to love her and care for her. If you show her your love and care you will end loving her for real and she will love you back
Start loving them, you can't change people, but you can only love them. And you can walk away, but it won't make anything better. You decide.
This will be very difficult without introspection into why you developed these feelings in the first place. There are many ways to accomplish the end goal of not hating her, whether through therapy, religion, personal choices, or others. However, you first need to fully examine where these intense negative feelings toward her are coming from.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 6:10am
Understand that she is an individual who has separate needs to yours. She may act out but very often there are insecurities in both of you that neither may not be able to understand Family shouldn't be about power struggles but rather how one can support each other . It is often hard when two different personalities live under the same roof but building relationships are all about compromise, a give and take relationship. communicating honestly whilst respecting each other is crucial to a close relationship. you may not like her behavior but no matter what she is family and will always be here to stay
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 5:23am
Well, you should find common ground with her and see if there is anything that interest both of you so it can spark a conversation that can lead you to understand your sister better.
Your siblings may annoy you but it's not about hating them. You should think about loving them, As they are the ones who care about you. Little sisters are always fun, they take care of you and often annoy you but still you can love them. Think about them in a positive way and behave in the best way as you can.
You can also make them feel that you care about them and will always fell good about them. There will be a good change in her behaviour too. And try spending as much time as you can so that you understand them really well
I was and still am the "little sister," and the way my big sister treated me my entire life (all the way up to this very day) has affected and altered my personality. One way to stop hating your little sister is to understand that she may feel some of the same ways that her older siblings do, and she will have her own struggles to face in life. As a flesh and blood human, she has feelings and experiences to work through. Even when it appears as if she has it easier than you, it is important to remember that it may not always be that way, and it may not even be that way right now. Everyone is multi-dimensional, and it could benefit both of you to see each other in a way that emphasizes your similarities and commonalities instead of your differences.
By showing love. By showing respect. By bonding with each other. By spending time, with each other. By agreeing to disagree. By setting aside any and all differences, that you might have. By valuing each other's time. By trying to just get along. By forgiving each other. By not fighting with each other. I feel if you do those things, that I mention and also add any other things that might be helpful, you could see the end of hating your little sister. I hope this is helpful. I would like to add one more thing, and that is: Make better choices. You can choose to hate your little sister. But you can also choose not to. So, remember that.
Well, many ways you can try not to hating your sister. Try and see if she adores you in things you do as a big sister. Communicate with her and share how you feel also. Maybe include her on some things you do.
Maybe you can talk to her and get to know her more and hang out with her to understand what she likes and to know more about her
Identify what makes you feel negative emotions towards your sister and see what can be done to resolve them. Conflicts are resolved through listening, understanding and compromise so be open and honest in your communications to ensure a healthy relationship is built
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 12:08pm
Try to see positive things in her. Try to support her and may be that result in love. With the help of your parents try to spend time with each other and understand her. The family bonding creates compassion.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 6:16pm
The best way to figure that out is to have a serious sit down talk with her, you, and your parents. Sort of like an intervention and to clear up why you feel this way.
Little sisters will ALWAYS be little sisters! I should know. I am one of them. With the age gap, your interests differ. Try to find common ground and do something you like together. It will help build the bond back up.
Just start by respecting and listening to her. You don't necessarily need to like her at first - give it time. Respect is the foundation to everything. Understand that she is your sister, part of your family and deserves your respect. Try to put yourself in her shoes. Try making an effort to be kind and calm. Spend time with her - play board games, or do braid her hair or take her out for ice-cream. Ask her questions, treat her like an adult. You'll find your hatred slowly disappearing.
Younger siblings can really cramp our style! ;) They can be annoying but I would like to try a little game. Can you name some of the most annoying things she does? The catch is, for every thing you name that you hate you have to name on e thing that you love about her. Ready? Go!
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 2:26pm
Sit and talk to her and find a common interest and participate in something which is fun for both of you. Sit and talk about any problems which you both may hvae to overcome any problems
When I was younger I despised my sister. We shared a room and although she was two years younger than me, she was physically stronger than me and would often push me over and physically "assault" me so of course I grew to hate her. Over time, as we have both gotten older and I have become wiser, I have learnt to be more passionate towards her and grown to love each other more. As you get older, you become more aware of right and wrongs and I feel you become more empathetic towards others!
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2018 11:03pm
I have a little sister, and I understand how annoying they can be. But in the end, this hate will get you nowhere. Find common ground with your sister and don't use your energy on hating them! Understand they are younger and most likely still learning.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:46am
I need to learn to stop hitting my little sister is to understand why and what it is that causes me to hate which for one I could never understand why I would hate her in the first place having a sister should be more of love and acceptance yes there is always misunderstandings yes there is always miscommunications. But in all reality it's learning to recognize when a sister is trying to reach out to her older brother or sister
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 7:07pm
Form a better relation with her. Try understanding her better, and generally knowing her perspective.
Vow to protect her, no matter the cost. You will find you love whoever you are willing to die for. Protect her from bad relationships, bad people, bad experiences, anything that would hurt her. If you fight, be the first to apologize, whether you started it or not. Also, find something nice to do for her as often as possible, and smile at her often.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 3:58am
Sibling rivalry is not uncommon, in fact everybody had it sometime in there lives. But guaranteed if your sister ever needed you you be there. There will come a time when you both need each other for any reason, just because you hate her it don’t mean you don’t love her
Anonymous
December 16th, 2017 9:03pm
Find commonground beyond being family. Get to know her. Find reasons to be grateful for having her and write them down for days when she gets on your nerves.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 10:36pm
You have to think of her as a person. She is in you family especially if she is you own "blood". You should treat her with respect as any other human being. Some times small kind moves may help. You can try spending quality time together and have fun!
There's no reason to hate your younger sibling even though they may be mischievous they're still growing up and learning, try to be a good influence to them by doing good things in front of them and being nice and you'll see a change in her attitude but also important that her parents make sure to raise her right
In the midst of an argument, it can be helpful to take a breath and think calmly about the situation. The most helpful method to looking at the situation from a non-bias perspective is to place yourself in your little sister's shoes, and think about what emotions she may be experiencing. Children have wild and unpredictable emotions, and are usually sensitive to changes around them.
Take a moment and ask yourself why you hate your little sister, and write a list. Once you finish that list, go over and justify those reasons.
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