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How to stop hating your little sister?

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magnanimousButton53
September 22nd, 2016 3:25pm
Love her a lot. Forgive her and she is younger to me so there is no use or ethical to hate her. Should try to forget fast.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 1:04pm
Maybe you must remember that she's your little sister. No matter how rascal she is, she is still your little sister who deserves some love ❤
Anonymous
October 6th, 2016 9:28am
if you can try to resolve the situation, take a step away and look at the reasons why this hatred is there.
Sonya0211
October 9th, 2016 3:49pm
Try to spend more time with her. Find things you guys have in common and do those activity's or talk about them. Also, try to avoid arguing.
Sianwil
October 15th, 2016 8:42am
You need to have a sensible talk with your parents first, and then your sister. Then take it from there.
PlumQueen2988
October 25th, 2016 6:45am
That's a hard question! But can you ever really hate your sister? It's really just annoyance, and issues of this sort get resolved over time.
LastHope1218
October 26th, 2016 11:31pm
First off, you don't hate your little sister. She is your little sister and while you might get upset at her, you will never hate her. If you are upset at her, then you might wanna start by talking to her about the problem and then peacefully discussing a solution. If she still doesn't want to work things out peacefully, then you might consider going to a medium such as a parent to work things out peacefully.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2016 11:02pm
Finding something you both love. I couldn't stand her until we started thinking of activities to do together. It's also one of those things that comes with age.
BloomingSakura
November 6th, 2016 4:51am
You can start talking about things and open up to her. Tell her how you are feeling about her so both of you can understand each other more
bananajamma28
November 12th, 2016 11:34pm
For the longest time, it seemed like my sister and I were completely different people. She was loud. I was quiet. We had different interests and different view points. My younger sister even refused to attend the same high school as I did, solely because I had gone there. She was a 4.0 AP student, valedictorian of her class, on full scholarship to university. Some days I resented her, because it seemed like my parents were always much more proud of her than they ever were of me. It wasn't until a few years ago that I was able to stop despising her. I realized I had an obligation as the older sibling to be there for her, to guide her, and offer advice. It takes some time, but really making an effort to see the similarities between you can make all the difference. We both ended up attending school in Canada, we both went through long distance relationships with our boyfriends, we both struggled in learning to embrace sexuality and to be comfortable with our bodies. Even if it is a broad similarity, something that's not very specific, it can help to find empathy for the other person, and to be someone they can trust and rely on.
LeoListens2U
November 17th, 2016 1:03pm
Find ways to relate to her, endeavour to do something together that you might actually both like. Such as going to a park, watching a particular movie, etc.
viceroybutterfly11
November 19th, 2016 12:44am
First of all, to solve any problems we should first realize why we're having that certain problem. So, why do you hate your little sister in the first place. And them maybe, after knowing the answer, we could easily solve the problem.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2016 7:05am
In my experience, the best part is to just let it all go. You know you probably do things to allow her to hate you as well, and you just gotta realize that when you live in the same house and see each other almost everyday, things can get intense, and you can start picking out the things that irritate you really easily because of how much you see them. And instead you just gotta find common ground and work from there.
avanef
January 26th, 2017 4:02pm
Eventually, when you both get older you'll stop hating her. You'll be there for her when you need to, you'll want to be around her and you'll stop thinking she's annoying or what have you. It happens to a lot of siblings, they hate each other sometimes, those things happen. I know I did, and then when she moved out and I graduated high school and was in a long term relationship I realized what I missed out on and we are close all over again.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 12:56pm
See that all your sister wants is for you to spend time with her. Instead of getting annoyed tell her that you can't play now but that you will later
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 1:51pm
You can find the same interests with your sister and hang out. You shouldn't be jealous of her and think of how you can hurt her back.
silvermoon97
March 9th, 2017 11:17pm
younger siblings can annoy you alot especially when you spend a lot of time together. sometimes you just need to have patients and faith in them
rainyAngeldani
March 10th, 2017 2:57pm
Ask yourself why do you hate her. When you find the real reason talk to her about it talk to yourself about it. And stop hating her for something that may not be her problem.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 4:53am
Find the spurce of your extreme dislike & address it in the best way that you see fit. I hated my little brother for the simple fact that he got treated much better than I did as a child. But I told my Mom how she made me really feel & she was sorry. Now that my brother is older & I have moved out, our relationship is much better.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2017 8:58pm
I'm in this position and I would just ignore her. What people say or do doesn't have to be apart of our lives unless we allow it to especially if its bad. You could find the good qualities in her or talk about your feelings to her and see how things go. It's okay to not get along with family. I don't have much care for some family members of mine and I'm happy. Just as long as you focus on you and what you want in your life, you'll be fine.
carefreeFlamingo31
April 19th, 2017 2:34pm
Good question, one that I really needed to hear. I understand what it's like to have younger sisters that annoy the bajeeses out of you so I know how you feel. When I was 12 and one of my sisters was 8, we were at the beach and she stood in some deep water and got pulled out in a rip and had to hold onto a rock. I cried. A lot. Now, that's not to say that she doesn't annoy me anymore, but I realized then how I would truly feel if something happened to her. Despite the fact that I may say that I want to murder her, or welcome the chance to be away from her, if she was taken away from me, I would definitely not be glad about it. so, maybe just think about all the good memories you share with her, and the small think about her that make you smile. We don't realise how much we love something until it's gone. To finish of, I was once told a list of facts about life. One of them was: No matter how much you love or hate your siblings now, you will love them even more when you don't live with them.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 3:32am
Try to interact with her and spend more time with her. Spending time will not only make her feel better, but it will also make you feel better and happier spending time with her.
lajet1628
April 27th, 2017 1:03pm
Your little sister may seem annoying but when it comes down to it, she's one of the people who knows you the best. Thinking about the good times and how much better your life is with her can make it so much easier to deal with her. Though they can be bratty, they care for you and love you and make sure that you're not alone, no matter how much they annoy you.
Espirit203
May 14th, 2017 6:37am
Sibling rivalry is a normal thing. Try distancing yourself from her for a bit as you try to understand why you hate her.
Kezi017
May 15th, 2017 6:03am
There was a period of time when I hated my little sister to the point where if I saw another little girl, I experienced feelings of annoyance. I disliked how loud her voice was, how she constantly hung on me and stole my things and refused to cooperate. The most important thing to do when it comes to stopping those negative feelings is to focus on the positive characteristics of your sister. My sister would do anything for me, and that helps me to ignore my annoyance at her constant need for attention. I focus on the way she smiles, rather than the way she stubbornly refuses to listen to me, even when it's for her own good. The best way to stop hating your little sister is to accept her. Set boundaries, solid boundaries, but accept that your sister isn't going to change all that much.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2017 4:18am
I don't know what your relationship is like with your sister (and how often you two communicate with each other), why you may hate her, or who she is as a person, but I would first suggest trying to understand where she is personally coming from, what her feelings are, and what she is interested in. Doing this may allow you to understand her perspective and relate to her on a more personal level, so that you are both on the same page. It's important that, in a sibling relationship, you are able to empathize with each other's feelings as hard as it may be sometimes. Remember, she is also a human being who probably also craves love/support just as much as you do.
xmadelinex
June 21st, 2017 6:19am
Hmmm well, I have a little sister and she can get a bit annoying, just stay happy, be nice, and love your sister! They are precious tiny things
MxSkeleton
July 19th, 2017 6:12am
To stop hating your little sister, you should try bonding with her, and taking up hobbies you can both enjoy together, the bond of a brother or sister is irreplaceable and stronger than any other :)
SparkleStar78
July 19th, 2017 12:38pm
It depends on if you actually hate her or if she just annoys you. Be patient, she'll grow up. Tell her to stop annoying you without being mean.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 2:35pm
You should think that your little sister is looking up to you so be mature enough to treat her the way you wanted to be treated