Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?
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Because you demand too much of yourself, forgetting that it is ok to fail, it is ok to feel hurt, it is ok to be mad, it is ok to be human.
Insecurity and self-judgement are common things. You can help it by working against it. Always remind yourself of helpful and good things you've done, and encourage yourself while taking actions : "I am helpful! I can do this! I know what I am doing."
It is also important to realize that in our crazy world, no one really knows what they're doing. ;).
Anonymous
September 18th, 2016 7:07pm
Maybe you doesn't do it wrong.
Why do you think so? You're beautiful at your own way. Maybe you didn't find people who treat you nice and respectful.
You think like that because you have low self esteem. If you consider your decisions/actions as wrong, you are often regretting them. Having regrets shows that you aren’t happy with the outcome of your life.
In fact, there is no right or wrong decision. Well, society tells us which decision is the most and least appropriate one. And society judges hard if you decide against it’s rules. But in the end we are our decisions.
You did nothing wrong. You did it right because in the moment in which you had the power to decide it felt right. So you don’t have to regret or overthink that. That decision made you who you are today.
Lack of self esteem can cause us to put ourselves down. Work on self confidence, believe in yourself and your choices.
because you put so much pressure on yourself you gotta give yourself credit the things that you do at your best
This might be because of pressure put on you by other people, probably people you admire or care about. It could also be due to pressure you've put on yourself. Remember that your mistakes do not define you. You are a good person, and you do good things. You do things right so many times, but because of this pressure and/or anxiety, you pay attention only to the things you've done wrong.
there are many reasons. the most common is lack confidence and always comparing yourself to others. please be confident with yourself, don't think you're wrong because you're doing something different from others. you are you and they are not you or otherwise. cut your negative thoughts. not everything you think you're doing is wrong, you know :)
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 1:55pm
Because you know you did your absolute best, and for some reason there is still one person somewhere that doesn't approve. That doesn't mean it's wrong, it simply means that they have a different standard. You can't let their opinion make you feel inferior.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 6:39pm
When you go to criticise yourself try to think of 3 good things you did well and one thing you could do better
Have you forgotten to look at yourself in mirror lately? We are all not perfect. Life is too short to be blaming yourself worth. Every moment that we blame ourself is a second of our life wasted. Only you, yourself, can make that choice. We care so much for others that we fail to recognize our responsibility to our happiness. Learn to love yourself. Give yourself some credit, give yourself a pat on the back ‘cause in the long run, you are the one, the only one, that can make yourself happy.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2017 12:08pm
This is probably because you're letting negative thoughts win over. You're not trying to think about pros and cons of what you do but only about cons. I myself try to see what is good about what I do, because at the end there is always something positive you can think of if you try.
When you are very young, several things can settle into your subconscious that make you think that you are just always wrong.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 7:29am
Maybe you're burdening yourself to be completely perfect? that's why you compare the things you do and think that what you do is wrong.. nothing is wrong or right.. just the choices are wrong sometimes.. And if sometime you make any mistake, its okay for the first time.. just don't make it a habit. Try to improve yourself.. without expecting too much.. you're not here to judge anyone, not even yourself. Make your best mistakes, we are here for making mistakes.. to learn.. and to move on.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 2:29pm
Because you aren't really self confident, I suggest to take a 7cups self - confident path. Also, you should be more positive, there's no point to think that whatever you do is wrong...
We often put pressure on us to always achieve everything immediately, on the first try. However, this is not the case. When we embark on new stages in life, we are not given a manual on what to do or not to do. We have to work and make mistakes to learn from them. We think everyone has it together but in reality everyone messes up and feels like they do everything wrong. It is important to be compassionate to yourself, remind yourself of all you have done right. We don't give ourselves enough credit. Everyday that goes by is a job well done.
I believe this feeling stems from our parents. Parenting is a very intricate and delicate path that most are thrown into without any scholarly preparation, meaning they wing it as it comes.
Parents that expect a lot from their children, parents who scold their children for honest mistakes, parents who are manipulative, abusive, perhaps even all of the above, they raise children that are not confident in their decisions, children who require outside (namely, their parents') appreciation and approval (that never comes) of their actions.
Wait! Your parents do not define what is true and what is right, every person in reality is only answering to themselves and even then only to the extent that their past education allows them.
Let go! Stop thinking. Act. Regret your "bad" decisions, it's okay, but make those decisions!
Action = reaction, worry = stagnation. Act and don't let others' lives define YOURS!
It's because you have set standards that are so high that they are impossible for you to achieve. You envision possibilities that have not manifested in reality, so whatever happens pales in comparison. On another level, you feel guilt over whatever you do because you have trouble prioritizing or seeking your needs.
You always feel as if you're wrong because of that little voice in the back of your head making you feel that way. That little voice isn't factual and doesn't, at all, reflect your worth and value. In this world, you will find things you are a natural at and things that you may need to do more than once before you can be decent at it. Don't ever allow outside opinions to ever construct your worth, your work and your struggle as wrong. We all have different reasons and motions, just remember that you're doing the very best that you can and that's more than good enough.
You are probably a perfectionist, who has very high standards for oneself and one's achievements. For a stereotypical perfectionist, perfection is the goal in everything they do and who they are, and they often have the same expectations of perfection for other people and external circumstances. Except, perfection does not exist in real life, thus they are left with the chronic feelings of disappointment in oneself and the world around them.
Chances are, everything you do is not wrong, and if you asked other people, they may say that what you do is good or even excellent. The problem is, of course, that nothing you do is entirely perfect, and it can never be. We are humans, and we make mistakes, and even when we do things right, it will never be perfect. You must realize that what you are thinking or feeling may not always be accurate or true, and that your perfectionism bias makes you only focus on the mistakes, rather than your achievements.
Try to seep your thoughts through a filter once in a while, and contrast them with objective reality. "Did I really do poorly or is it just a thought I am having? Am I trying to achieve unrealistic goals? Do I have unrealistic expectations for this situation? What are the objective evidence to support or reject my thought as resembling the truth?". Don't take your thoughts for granted, check them!
Anonymous
April 11th, 2019 11:05pm
You’re overthinking, a lot of people do that. But it’s also a symptom of anxiety, so it’s better to see if you have anxiety while it can be easily taken care of. But with the over thinking, when you feel like you keep going back to something you did wrong and yelling at you’re self from it. Take a deep breath, though that may not seem easy it truly is not that hard. Sometimes you just have to be able to clear you’re mind to be able to let go of the stuff that’s holding you back. That’s keeping you from focusing. What you’re doing isn’t wrong, yes you could have made a mistake. But that’s not that big of a deal, want to know why. You’re human nobody’s perfect but you can get better, by simply learning from you’re mistakes.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 2:44pm
It can be beacuse of depression or etc. mental disease. im sure about that it is not about you at all.
Negative mindset! The the term 'everything' needs to be challenged and applied to reality. We all make wrong decisions and experience negative events however it is important to avoid self-blame and generalise the idea of wrongness to everything we do :)
It is important to focus on the positives rather than the negatives - the more often we focus on what is wrong, the more likely we are going to ignore the rights.
Furthermore the term 'wrong' can be challenged in a way that we all have our own interpretations of what is and what isn't.
Overall - do not beat yourself down over any negative experiences. A change in perspective is key - not 'everything' we do is wrong and not everyone interprets 'wrong' the same way. Focus on the positives!
We need to accept failures and find the motivation to pick ourselves back up and carry on :)
Maybe because you have low self esteem or maybe because someone created that idea on you, telling you that many times that you started to believe in it
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 4:22am
Having low self esteem and how you feel about yourself and feeling helpless in yourself could be a factor, you need to find out why you feel this way. Talk to your doctor you may be surprised your not alone.
It sounds like you may suffer with low self-esteem. I'm sure that you are doing fine and believing in yourself will help you to know if you are right or wrong.
Because you may have been conditioned to think that way and just are not conscious of it. Think who in your life might have been critical of you.
Do you feel you're not good enough? Do you underestimate yourself? Somebody in your environment usually judges you harshly or tells you that you are not able to achieve something? Have you been raised with this idea of being wrong because you don't meet the desires or dreams of somebody else?
I've gotten negative feedback from others consistently from childhood on. I realize now I wasn't doing what they wanted, but that didn't make me wrong.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 2:48am
Sometimes, as humans, we beat on ourselves. Whether it's about work or friends. We think that we can do better. It's hard not to think everything you do is wrong because you're just trying to better yourself. Although most of the time this is harmful. You need to teach yourself that it's okay to do things wrong.
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