Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

Sometimes when things happen to our lives and how people treat us, we think something we are doing is wrong. Which isn't the case, I use to think in all my relationships I was some how doing something wrong, but I wasn't. You have to be confident with who you are and how you act and just everything you do. Whatever people respond and act from that will determine if you have. If you did something wrong, you always want to own up to them and apologize if needed and make sure you don't do it again. But if you didn't do anything, you should be fine.

I’ve learned that the most important thing in life is to learn how to sooth myself with a supportive open heart. Holding myself up to impossible standards takes the joy out of life. Even though I’ve been very hard on myself in the past, I am excited by the possibility that each day brings the opportunity to meet life with open arms. I may not have all the answers I need but I’m willing to ask for help and support. I love how when I share my needs with others it allows them to be the supportive person they long to be.

We tend to be our worst critics! Having these thoughts is normal, but it's important to address them. These kinds of thoughts are called thinking traps and tend to be caused by stress or feeling anxious about something. Try and address these traps. It can be hard to flat out avoid them, but be mindful when you start thinking in this all or nothing mindset. When you think "everything" is wrong, you are thinking all-or-nothing. Try to write down your thoughts, and then list out rational responses and refocus how you look at such "wrongdoings." If you are having trouble reworking your thoughts, work through it with a friend or a listener, a third party can help you rationalize.

It's because our ego forces us to over identify with negatives. It's simply a negativity bias. I can guarantee you do lots of things right (if you think about it) however you will often overlook those things. It's a human survival instinct to focus on negatives. After all that is how we tend to learn. We learn from our mistakes. But in today's world most people don't need that primal instinct as much. We live in an age that is far better than any time before and yet our instinct still drives us to dwell on or find negatives to focus on. Don't let that get you down though. You can retrain your thinking, thanks to the human brain having amazing plasticity. First help yourself be more aware of the positives and second, reframe the negatives as positives.

maybe it depends on your socialisation and parents influence on your expectations of yourself. if you are very severe with yourself and evaluate to much, then it could happen your inner thoughts tell you: " you fullfill not your goals". the words "always" and "everything" are not very usefull to describe your behavior. better looking for conrete actions or positive exceptions. there is also a kindful advise to learn from your mistakes. dont be ashamed to make some, it is naturally -especially if you are brave enough to leave your comfort zone and risk something. so dont look to strict on your actions:)

I'd say, that it is usually because you are used to others telling you you did something wrong and/or nobody/very rarley someone told you they were proud, that you did something good. So you might not even realize, that it actually was good, because nobody said it. It could also be because you were manipulated by someone in the past. Manipualtion is a very big topic and to make it short for this answer, the manipulator made you feel like you did something wrong, for a reason you don't know, but it definitely brings them good if you think that (for example they might be trying to convince you to stay with them, because you need them, when the truth is, you don't, you might be even better than they are). When you become a victim of a good manipulator (it will be hard to recognize them, especially at first, and it's hard to leave them, as it is often too late when we realize the truth), it can leave huge consequences on you forever.

I would like to start by saying I am sorry you feel this way about yourself. It is not your fault and it can change if you want it to. This change will likely be challenging and it will require some work and some time. A lot of how we feel about ourselves comes from the way we were treated when we were younger, children look to adults to tell them if they are good or not as children have not learnt how to do that for themselves yet. If the adult is telling the child you are wrong and this happens over and over we learn that we are wrong and unacceptable in some way. We carry this to adulthood as it seems correct. Actually usually that adult was wrong for not taking the time to teach the child and for not being accepting. We often learn by making mistakes. Try to be kind to yourself, reflect on this and see if it true, can you then show yourself some kindness and allow yourself to be right? I know that is hard but it's unlikely you are wrong all of the time.

I don't know about you, but I personally feel like everything I do is wrong because of my self doubt stemming from knowing perception is flawed. I constantly tell myself that "this could be wrong," "you don't know what you are doing," "you only think you know," etc. I personally have not been able to get rid of these thoughts at all, but I hear meditation can help some people get their thoughts in order. If closing your eyes does not work for you personally, some people stare at a fire to clear their heads, and then go through their thoughts and see if they are actually rational. Hopefully you find what works for you.

You may have been accused of being bad at something countless times. Sometimes, people tend to take it to heart and let themselves down which is what is happening to you. It's completely normal if you have been let down multiple times in the past; especially if you care about them. Stress, anxiety, lack of sleep and too much screen time can also be some causes leading to these trail of thoughts. Why? It's because our minds and bodies function best when we have enough sleep. Lack of sleep is basically the base. If you get enough sleep, stress and anxiety levels are reduced and you feel better about yourself. We tend to rely on our devices a lot more than we should which makes us stay up at night and lose sleep. These are thoughts you may have due to the reasons stated above.

Being a devout Christian, I can relate this very easily. It’s so easy for me to feel like everything I do is a sin, and that God is mad at me and doesn’t want to talk to me. But the truth is, life is life. In life, you make mistakes. You’re human. You’re not perfect. No one is. And that’s okay. It’s honestly part of what makes life so beautiful. Because think about it, without mistakes we wouldn’t have mercy; without tears we wouldn’t have compassion; without pain we wouldn’t have healing. Life is a beautiful gift, and there’s nothing wrong with enjoying its increíble offers.

Because I was raised to be perfect and fulfill all expectations of me. Nobody ever told me that doing my best could be good enough. Or that I had inherent worth beyond what I could accomplish, beyond being the best. Nobody ever taught me I am good enough, as I am, or that being kind and gentle is worth as much as being assertive and dominant. I think everything I do is wrong because I am not looking inside for what is right. If we search for only what is wrong, we'll never see what's so perfectly right. And we miss out on the full picture of who we are.

There can be a few contributors, though I believe the biggest one would be low self-esteem. If you don't think positively of yourself, it can reflect in your head as not being good enough for something. The human brain is a finicky thing, and can often be our worst enemy and a relentless bully. There are also many mental illnesses that can cause those kinds of feelings, so it is a case-by-case basis, but low self-esteem is very often a large contributor and goes hand in hand with mental illness. Taking the appropriate steps and working towards improving how you view yourself as a whole person may be able to help ease those feelings.

I believe this is down to a negative outlook on yourself and perhaps even life going on around you. It can make it worse if others tell you that you're doing something wrong as well. Focus on everything you do right, above anything you may do wrong, even if its as simple as you got up and got yourself ready on time, you remembered to take out the trash, every wrong can be made right with a little dedication. You just need to take a different outlook on the world going on around you and with a little practice, you'll be just fine.

Because I tend to fail at a lot of things. I am very hard on myself, and I feel like I am not good enough. Everyone judges me and makes me feel worthless. I feel alone most of the time and that in turn makes me feel like I am always wrong. I need to try and focus more on self love and self acceptance. I put myself down too much when I should be trying to lift myself up. With no support whatsoever, i just feel so alone and like I dont mean anything. I feel like nothing. I feel numb.

Hi, I am sorry that you are feeling so down on yourself :( I know that must be very difficult and deflating. The majority of the time when we blame ourselves or see what we do as wrong it is because of something internal, perhaps a trauma or a way we have been conditioned to view ourselves that disrupts the way we perceive our lives and ourselves. That be said though, it doesn't mean that you are stuck in this place where you feel like everything you do is wrong. The most rewarding thing would be perhaps talking with someone about it, friends, family, a therapist, or even someone here on 7Cups. Don't be afraid to reach out and have a chat about why you feel this way and maybe we can get to the root of the problem. I am here for you anytime that you need. Best of luck

I often struggled in school, and at extracurricular, and at relationships. Life feels tricky when you can't find something right away that you feel passionate about and others around you have found their passions. I realized it's not about doing everything right, it's about taking little steps. I took walks, looked at nature, took photos of trees and nature and surrounded myself with my passions. When you find things that make you happy, others’ skills and ways are less important. My life became no longer striving to win medals and get perfect scores, but find what made me happy. And that is what right is, to me.

I always thought every step I took, every decision I made, every dream I dreamt about my future was wrong and I was a failure only because I never knew my own strength. Everyone at some point of time need someone else who listens to them, point out their strengths and give them hope when they feel they are lonely. Its really important to have people in our lives but people who are trust worthy, who are capable of understanding us are the real thing in need for anyone who is trying to come up by themselves. A helping hand is the major requirement as each and everyone have their own strengths which should be brought out.

because you are not sure about your possibilities. even if you are perfect, you always trying to be way better than you really are. it isn't your fault that you think in that way. its because of society. we never know what is right to do exactly... but we still doing because we dont have another choice to do. we need to try and then we will see the results, we never know how right is our moves but we still moving. if we stop, nothings will be go right... i suggest you to keep moving and do whatever you want, even if you think its wrong... you think in that way because people or things what is happening around you makes you to think like that. but if you dont pay attetion on your around and people, you will make choices without thinking of their rightness.

When a person looks at their life they instinctively perceive the world around them through a variety of lenses that are based on their experiences, moral systems, ideologies etc. One such lens of perception centers around the perception a person has of themselves. If that lens is negative you will immediately consider anything that you might do in a negatively light, with suspicion, or maybe just not "good enough" whatever that mean for the person. If you want to know why you think everything you do is wrong be honest with how you look at yourself. Do you believe you are incompetent and worthless? If you do then naturally you will believe that everything you do cannot possibly be done right because you think you are incapable of doing things correctly. There are other possibilities however, maybe its just you have extreme and unrealistic expectations of yourself. Perfectionism is hardly an unusual condition and it is almost never a good thing as it stresses a person to achieve a position that they cannot reach which is demoralizing in the most poignant sense of the word. Or perhaps someone else is telling you something is not good enough and you have no one to tell you when you do things correctly. If that is true then how could you know when you were doing things well? You'd naturally assume that nothing you did was ever good enough. And if that is the situation then that is tragic. These are a few of the possibilities and they are not necessarily mutually exclusive but they are some of the reasons you may think everything you do is wrong.

Not everything you do is wrong. Get rid of the negatives, stay positive. Sometimes I get the same feeling, you are not alone out other. To stay happy you should get the negativity out of your mind. You should believe in yourself. Not everything you do is wrong, you have failed to see the right in that.

Humans are very confusing and complex creatures, and so when we do small things we convince ourselves that maybe we could have done better, or maybe we made ourselves look silly. Though in your mind, you truly believe everything you do, you mess up or do it wrong, the truth is that nobody but you is thinking that. your anxieties and fears make you believe things that aren’t actually as bad as they seem! For example, maybe when you were ordering food you stuttered and slurred, and after you beat yourself up about it, but in reality the cashieer has seen much worse things! by the next day, they wouldn’t even remember the simple exchange. Anxiety likes to magnify simple mistakes and make them seem so much worse than they actually are. In conclusion, you’re not as bad as you think. stay safe!

That is a great question. I thank you for the opportunity to try my best to answer it. Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us. It makes us think we are doing everything wrong,when we are doing things right. You maybe asking your self,why does the mind do that? Well the mind is very hard to figure out at times. But hopefully with people who do studies on the brain,will come up with better ways of,why people think the way they do,and help us better to understand the mind and the brain better,and hopefully we will be better off for it in the long run. I hope this helps.

Having no belief in yourself and your abilities leads to uncertainty in many aspects of your life. The uncertainty seems to have a flow in effect that becomes apparent in many daily living activities you try to achieve. Being able to acknowledge and remedy any situation as soon as you are aware of an issue is important. Sometimes issues are not always apparent and we need to trust those around us with any information or guidance they may have to help us move forward. Some times you feel like you aren’t moving forward and allowing others to help us forward is important in our journey.

Its easy to think of wrong things because as humans, we tend to take note and be more critical. This is where self praise can come in handy. Evolutionarily, we learn by trial and error. Unfortunately it can be too easy to get stuck on errors. Everybody would benefit from taking note of the good that one does as an individual. Getting over the slump of negative thought concentration can be tough but if you can disclipline youtself to reframe your thinking structure, you will feel foolish for only concentrating on the negative in the past. The future is full of oppurtunities for growth and development, you cant have either without learning from past mistakes.

Actions and decisions are meant to be right and wrong, but at the end of the day, they're the ones that should come from your heart. Sometimes the actions and decisions we make seem right or even wrong, but at the end of the day, it's not always about the outcome, but the process. In our journey through life, we will come across many actions and decisions to make, and sometimes they can be the best ones or even the worst ones, but it's about how you learn from them. There are people who will support you through your decisions and some won't, and each moment in your life is for a reason, good and bad. It's just the doubts and fears that come with those deeds. In our minds, we seem to envision the outcome of our actions and how we will feel about it, but really, the outcome can come to be the opposite of what we think. It's just our thoughts overcoming the chance for happiness and confidence in those decisions. Eventually you will find things that turn out right with people there to support you, and that's one of the most beautiful moments in life, and sometimes even the ones that feel wrong can lead up to that too, it's all for a reason and purpose.

This may be from several reasons. More information or reflection may be needed from you. It could be your upbringing or the way your parents/caregivers/family treated you. Were you bullied or ridiculed? Do you find yourself being more anxious over certain activities or things that you do? Are you very sensitive to criticism, a harsh inner voice, or do you have low self-esteem? It’s hard to come to a conclusion here or give the help that you may need. You may be experiencing a form of anxiety, like social anxiety if you are preoccupied with thoughts like these around others, but I am not sure. More information is needed.

In this high pressured society, we are conditioned to think that perfection is the standard. Whether it's in how we interact with others, the grades we score on arbitrary tests, or the career options we want for ourselves, there is always this looming notion in society that we could do better and more to reach perfection. The issue is that perfection does not exist, and so all too many people are spending their lives chasing a standard which is simply unattainable. Thinking that everything that you do is wrong is a product of a culture which praises unnatural flawlessness over happiness, personal growth, and self-respect.

The reason for this could be that your parents or people you know would have been very critical of every work that you have done. This often results in low self-esteem. You are not the reason for it. The good news is that you can build up your self-esteem. There are various self-help activities and tips on how to improve your self-esteem. Overall, you need to believe in yourself and appreciate what you have done. You can try guided self-appraisal meditation. These things would take time and everyone has their own pace. You can chat about with our listeners or go for professional help.

Some of us are raised with value systems set up to tear us down. I think that often our parents don't even realize they are doing it, but it helps to keep us weaker and more pliable, easier to control. To deal with it, I have told myself that criticizing myself everywhere makes me a better person, because if I criticize myself, maybe I'll become a better person. As I've grown away from my parents, I've realized that hurting myself doesn't help anyone, especially not me. It's taken years of concentrated effort, but I'm learning to congratulate myself more and be willing to feel pride in myself. This is what is actually beneficial to others, as a more positive attitude is more positive for the whole world. But it also makes me happier, and I deserve happiness as much as anyone, as we are all equal.

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