Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?
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Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 3:09am
It's a question that can only be answered at the personal level. Such insecurities regarding one's abilities can be caused by many reasons. Pinpoint the reason to uproot the cause of your insecurity.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 9:06pm
because you are your own worst enemy. You know all your flaws and your weaknesses. You can also easily neglect yourself. You just have to remember this fact and learn to have a bit more faith in yourself and in your abilities.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 11:34pm
with most things in my life i find myself always trying to better myself and not focus on getting the actual job done, sometimes if you just take one step at a time and not always try to perfect things you will find that in the end you wont thing your doing anything wrong
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 7:07am
because I can accept myself and make peace with my past, I know myself well enough, and I am grateful for that.
It sounds like you have some self confidence issues, when we think that we aren't good enough, it is easy to think that we can't do anything right, try to take time to appreciate yourself and learn to love you.
May be that is what you understood as a child from your caregivers/surroundings and it manifested in your inner self, so you might not value and trust yourself
There are a variety of possible answers to this question; and it is difficult to answer this about you and your situation without context. Off the top of my head though, your cognitive and emotional processes may be distorted, and it sounds like there could also be some anxiety or guilt in the equation. But please do not mistake this answer for an absolute truth or a medical diagnosis. Talking to a therapist about this might help you.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 6:59am
It can be that you are not confident with your own abilities. Love yourself, don’t doubts your abilities and do things with confidence. Everyone does mistakes.
This may be down to a lack of self confidence. Perhaps you should try to take a few deep breaths and with a bit of paper and pen, write down both the pros and cons of what you do.
Maybe you're lacking self-confidence, or you've experienced many failures in your life that made you believe that you do everything is wrong.
Just remember that failure doesn't mean you're wrong, it means that you're gaining experiences.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 7:22am
Thinking positive thoughts everytime you feel this way could help you to remember that you’re doing a great job.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 6:24am
You have trouble completing the task at hand and /or that the other persons work is different then yours you feel like you messed up,
Because you are quite unsure of what you do .Maybe,you are not confident about your work and hence keep fretting over it at length.
These feelings are common of anxiety and depression, both of which can affect self-esteem. Although it can be a daunting task, seeking the help of a professional therapist or counselor can be a great step to overcoming these feelings of failure.
if you feel like everything is wrong that you do then it may be time to reach out for help. it is ok to feel that way but it is unhealthy and you may not be giving yourself enough credit. people sometimes make you feel like you are living your life wrongly but don't let them
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 9:10am
It’s a natural human feeling to doubt your doings and deem them as wrong . And by doing that doesn’t mean your wrong.
The reason you do this is because you lack self confidence. Keep a positive mind frame, tell yourself you can do something and you will achieve it. Learn to love yourself
It might be beacause of a number of reasons. Nobody can do eveything right all the time, so chances are you're going to do some things that are wrong. However, If you feel everything you do is wrong, it might be because you have a low perception of yourself. Interpretations of facts are subjective, and it might as well be that you THINK you do everything wrong but you're actually not.
Step back and remember what you do right. We always remember the bad over the good. Make a list of right and wrongs and compare them. The wrongs that you see, maybe think of what you could have done differently and remember that when you face that problem again. Ask friends and family for criticism to be able to grow from past mistakes. Also- we're our worst critics. Don't beat yourself up when you feel like you made the right choices with what you had.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 4:29pm
I only feel this way when in a relationship or starting one. Maybe feeling insecure could mean the other person will leave if even one word or phrase comes out that would even resemble insecurity.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 5:21pm
Your mind can twist what you think into something negative because you constantly tell yourself you are wrong. You continuously tell yourself this and it becomes set in your mind that what you're doing is wrong.
Ask yourself this. Am I the one who is wrong, or is someone telling me that I am. Am I causing myself to make these decisions or is someone/thing making me?
Maybe that goes back to a bad childhood memory or emotional abuse done to you by someone (usually one of the parents who wanted you to be perfect or a school bully). We all have those times when we think everything we do is wrong, but sometimes it becomes a part of our identity (a destructive part) and we need to sit down and figure out the factors (people or events) that destroyed our confidence this way. If you're unable to figure it our on your own, you can always sit down with a therapist and let them figure it our for you :)
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 8:06pm
This is easy to answer and it by the response I normally get. Then the vicious circle starts. The question is where the truth starts or finishes. Is it better to ignore the fact people don't gravitate towards me and get on with the lonely existence. Or stay in bed........
Lack of confidence and self esteem, bothering what others think, fear of embarrassment and Bothering about Physique. All these combine and feel you are wrong and not worth of
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 2:21pm
Because we are our biggest critics. I have had to learn that it is ok to set goals and to push but I also have to speak life and encouragement.
Because you are not trust and believe yourself you are think that if you do it that become wrong for yourself
Maybe because you fear that you're doing the wrong thing, you have to believe in yourself and be confident!
You are your own worst critic! Stop being so hard on yourself. Do or write down the things you are good at. Focus on your strengths and not your weakness of what you can't do... just yet anyway. Because you can do anything!
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 10:20am
It sounds like you have some anxiety. I can't tell you why you do the things you do, but maybe you can try to write things down when you think you are being "wrong" and then write a list justifying the things you do vs explaining why they are wrong. It may help you get some perspective.
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