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How can I open up to people more even if it scares me?

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MonicaQu
February 3rd, 2018 6:07am
It can be scary opening up to people when maybe people have done something so we can trust that easily. I guess you could start little by little opening up by spending time to form friendships and get to know other people.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 10:16pm
Everything takes practice. The more you open up to people, the easier it will become, even though it will probably still be scary. A good way to start would be opening up to somebody on 7cups because then they don't even know you in real life!
Anonymous
February 15th, 2018 6:54am
Take it slowly don’t rush into it, it may take some time it won’t happen over night. You just need to work your way up to trust certain people.
Reira2224
February 16th, 2018 7:32am
First of love, you need to start trusting yourself only then you can trust anyone else with your feelings okay? ... Its totally okay to not to open up with people much because you can't trust a boy or a girl you met 3 days ago... You can be friends with them but a secretkeeper, a person who you should fully trust.. We all have that kind of person in our life.. Keep your limitations with everyone. And you need to boost up your confidence level.. Start talking to yourself in your room infront of a mirror for like 15 to 30 minutes everyday and that would build up a great confidence level yo!
Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 2:37am
You can be scared, but once you do it, a lot of people actually feel a lot better - because you make awesome connections with others.
helloiamhere
February 17th, 2018 11:10am
Talking constantly (or every day, if you want) will help a lot. I used to have a friend online and we used to talk every day, and it took years for him to finally open up to me about his personal problems (it honestly took me about two years to earn his trust) and secrets. It takes time to open up to people, for them to earn your trust and vice versa.
Pumpkin74
February 28th, 2018 9:00pm
Opening up is so difficult for anyone but if you feel that someone has earned the privilege of knowing you deeper, take some time to plan ahead. Perhaps writing a letter and practicing how and what you will share. Create a setting that makes you feel comfortable such as having them come to your home or a favorite place. If you're still overwhelmed, try bringing a friend or family member who can sit with you while you do this. Congrats on taking such a huge step!
gentleRainbow87
March 1st, 2018 5:02am
i know how it feels not to open up to people because it's scary i say try to make just one new friend do you can just be open to him /her so if you got open to one person you would then know some basics things about opening up to others :)
Dreamer42
March 28th, 2018 3:18pm
You don't have to force yourself to open up to people too soon. :) Just take your time loosening up and loving yourself and once you feel more confident in doing so, that's the time you'll be able to open up.
ilikepie22
March 31st, 2018 5:53am
sometimes, people don't expect what you're going to tell them. let them know, breathe, and know that these people you can trust. you won't regret it.
sheknows1188
April 1st, 2018 5:59am
Opening up to people really is scary and I think the best way to open up to them is to become more close with them at first, so that you'll gain your trust to them and easily open up to them.
ImyourHope127
April 1st, 2018 8:26am
Practice, with people who you close and slowly approach people example your close people's friends they can help you slowly open up.. and the most important is a support fro friends, family and people near you
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 3:49pm
learning from my own experience opening up to people it's not easy for there is so many reasons to have fear of being laughed at being made fun of not taking you serious not caring about what you truly feel inside your heart and soul not understanding the true struggles that we face each and every day and that includes our habits the hardest lessons for us to learn is that not everybody thinks and feels the same way everybody is different we always have to understand and considered that everything when it involves a brand new person it is a fresh start our lessons from that is not to assume or picture that person as the previous person who has hurt us
LucieG
April 7th, 2018 2:59pm
I found that when i opened up to people after I was assaulted I felt a release, like I was no longer alone in the fight. I find talking over a chat rather than face to face makes to easier to explain and be honest about how i feel. Its taking the first step which is the hardest part..
peacefulHug92
April 14th, 2018 7:26am
I suppose it's good to start small - tell someone a tiny thing about you that makes you feel uncomfortable, then you have achieved the first step *high fives* next try saying something else/something more and keep going. I believe that you can do this buddy ❤
wishfulRose80
April 25th, 2018 11:10pm
Start by talking to someone you are close with. You just have to take the first step, and then things will start falling into place. Once you get comfortable opening up to that person, try someone you are not as close with. Continue this process!
HarleysApricot
May 2nd, 2018 2:27am
Push yourself. Push beyond the butterflies, the nerves, the fear, just everything. And don't be to hard on yourself. Be patient with yourself too. Don't think pushing yourself is forcing yourself.
professionalSunshine36
May 3rd, 2018 7:33pm
Start with the small things. Use this as an avenue to get more comfortable discussing the major things in your life.
Abby040304
May 17th, 2018 1:43am
Its very scary opening up to people for multiple reasons. But it always feels good after if you tell the right people who care and/or love you. Be sure to start with the people you're closest to, either if that's a parent, significant other, friend or anyone. If they play a big part in your life, they deserve to know and they should want to help you with whatever your going through. You can start by just a regular conversation, it can be worrying but talking to the person about something else first eases everything. This is what i do, i always say "I need to tell you something". It will be hard to spit it out but that means they know something is up, and you have no way of backing out. Then you say it, you can tell the person to wait to say anything until you're done explaining. Also, haha, do it in a comfortable environment, not someplace tense, like a grocery store. Always remember, everyone needs to open up about something some time in their life, so you are not alone!
blissfulEyes47
May 20th, 2018 12:43pm
Be confident and make sure you take a step at a time don’t rush! Write out what your going to say before hand on notes so it gets you prepared but most of all be brave and you’ll be fine.
Thmas
May 20th, 2018 1:34pm
Practice every day and take small steps to increase the difficulty. That way you take smaller challenges at a time and it will come to you naturally
kindheartedSoul43
May 23rd, 2018 9:32pm
This may seem stupid but do it. Life is terrifying and plenty of things are going to scare you, if you trust the person to open up to them and if you feel that its important than just take a deep breath, and tell them. Once its out it's easy, a weight will have been lifted off your chest.
Anonymous
May 31st, 2018 2:19pm
Try to start with small scale first. Like talking to your friends about hobbies and stuffs, then try bigger scale, like to your neighbors and people at the supermarket. After some time, you'll get used to it. Trust me ;)
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 12:26am
By saying how you feel, without thinking about it. I understand it can be hard to talk to someone if you're scared, but it's better to be scared than to sit and think that you're alone.
Taconnie72
June 13th, 2018 4:48am
Start off small, Ask someone if you can borrow a pencil or something and try starting a conversation with them. Try to talk to people who seem lonely because they are probably just as scared as you are. It will be hard opening up to people at first but you will get used to it after a while. Don’t be afraid to go a little out of your comfort zone.
LovelyLinaeBza
June 16th, 2018 5:18am
You can open up to more people by joining events, activities and others. Try other cultures and learn from them.
beautifulbird
June 23rd, 2018 2:45am
opening up to people can be super hard sometimes, just try to be honest and share what you're comfortable sharing with the people around you that you trust the most. stay safe
heartfulBeauty84
June 23rd, 2018 2:50am
Start small. You don't have to tell people your life story all at once. Tell them little facts about your life. Once you do it more often, it'll get easier!
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2018 8:18am
I suggest you need sometime..You don't have to open up at one go..Take some time and breathe relax and don't stress out..Eventually you'll open up
Thislittlelightwillshine
July 6th, 2018 10:15pm
Start with baby steps. For example, if crowds scare you, don't go to a Grateful Dead concert, instead try something small like a library event with few attendees.