What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
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you look in the mirror and see what a beautiful person you are. you point out all your good qualities and write them down as a reminder of when you feel weak and cannot see how special of a person you are. if you don't feel good enough for someone, then you aren't with the right person.
Figure out why you feel that way. Is it something they did? Do you just feel that way for no reason? Try to figure it out.
Try and figure out where those inadequacies may lie, and do your best to change them :) Rather than wallow in possibly not being good enough, it's best to strive for excellence.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:02pm
Write a list of all of your positive qualities. Remember that you're worthy of being more than enough for someone. Also get them to write a list of what they like about you.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 4:12pm
If you ever feel your not good enough for someone try to remember your just as special and important as everyone else in the world
Look at all the things you do that make them smile and remember every smile is something positive to them.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 12:18pm
When you see that you are starting to have a cold conversation or relation with someone, try to make the first step asking politely what is going on, the situation, why and what comes after that. Communication is the best thing in such cases.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:35pm
Take a deep breath. You need to realize that sometimes those people are not meant to be in your life. Find people who are worth your time.
You don’t have to be good for anyone as long as you feel good about yourself that’s all you need so don’t give up hope .
Is to be true to yourself and acknowledge that it is time to completely remove yourself from that relationship
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 6:01am
Think about it: they are not good enough for you! You deserve the best and if they don't recognize it, find someone who does. They are out there.
If I ever feel like i’m not good enough for someone, I directly talk to them. I tell them I don’t think i’m a good enough friend, good enough boyfriend/girlfriend. Usually, people will rebuttal that by saying you are good enough. They’ll tell you how thankful they are for you because they know you are good enough. They’d tell you to stop doubting yourself.
Look inside - why are you feeling that? Are you a bad person? We all have different timetables for success. All that matters is your intentions.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2018 2:17pm
I usually talk to the person about or try to rid of that negative thought somehow. Maybe make a list or think if some reasons why I am good enough.
You tell yourself that you are because, well: You are! Regardless of who you are or what you've done, you're an incredible individual, and you have every right to believe that.
You feel that you are not good enough for someone because your judgement about your own worth is low. You are unique, special and amazing just the way you are. It's important to love yourself before you love someone else. I'm sure you would like to think about your compatibility with the person but you are good enough for the universe and never think low of it.
Remember they are just human also.
When I feel like I'm not good enough for someone, I try to be the best I can and hope that it's enough.
Reflect on why you feel this way - is this because you have self-esteem issues, or because your partner is making you feel like you are beneath them? If it is the former, you must think about how much this is affecting your partner and the relationship, and sometimes it is healthier to take a break to work on yourself, rather than seeking validation and assurance from your partner. If it is the latter case, that is an abusive relationship and you should leave.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 10:00am
you trying talking to them and or try to be good enough but really there is no reason why you should think this
feeling like that is very common especially if you struggle with anxiety.if you feel like that and the "someone" is a person you are comfortable with. you can tell them about how you feel and mostlikely they will give you reassurement.. if you feel you havent do enough for them . you can ask them what they would've like you to do more.. or is there anything about you that makes them uncomfortable :D usually if the person is someone you are close and comfortable with.. they would give you as much as reassurement and effort as how you are willing to gie them :D
Sometimes it might be because you feel guilty, or the past is weighing you down. Remember that every day brings new opportunities and perhaps if you feel that way the person may be the problem, not you.
Learn to love yourself for who you are. No relationship will be healthy if one person believes they’re not worth the other’s attention. I’m in a relationship where we both believe we’re good for each other, but it’s taken a year of learning and communication to truly feel that way. Don’t focus on why you think you aren’t good enough. It will always make you feel worse.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 5:44pm
Think about the reasons that made you feel so. Did that person tell you that directly? If so, its more likely to be his problem than yours. Remember, you don't have to change yourself but improving yourself is good
I tell them about my feelings and try to talk it out with them. If that does not work, I will try harder and up my game.
Do you love this person? Talk to the person. Tell them how you feel. Communication is very important. You need to be able to express how you feel.
Just try your best and remember that your intentions are far more important and are also worth far more than the results you get.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:43am
I remind myself that I am good enough for myself and that means a lot. You will always be good enough for yourself. You deserve the world. Don't let anyone take that away from you. You deserve everything.
When you feel you are not good enough for someone ask yourself what it is about that person that makes you feel inferior. Also, compare yourself against the other person by writing it down. You will see there is not very much difference between you and the other person. Remember, thoughts are just that, thoughts.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 2:16pm
we never know what are the persons desires and wants. it do change with time.
its our thought that keep on going in our head suggesting that we are not good for someone, with out knowing anything...
so in this kinda situation the only thing that need to be done is that just stop overthinking and keep doing your good work...
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