What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

First of all, I want to acknowledge your emotions. What you're feeing is completely valid and you're very brave to have opened up about your fear. Feeling like you're not "good enough" shows how much you care about the people in your life and how much you want to be the best version of yourself and become a better person for yourself and the others. That's an admirable quality. It is important to remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. The concept of "good enough" varies from person to person, and trying to meet everyone's expectations can be overwhelming, crushing and unrealistic. Instead, we can focus on accepting our imperfections, understanding what we need to work on and being kind to ourselves in every phase of the journey. From my personal experience, when I feel this way, I take time to acknowledge my emotions and try to understand the root cause behind them. Where are these feelings of inadequacy and inferiority coming from? By finding the source, I can view the situation more clearly and rationally like a third person would. It also helps me see it as a problem I can solve and gives me a clear line of focus. And, it narrows down the range of emotions I'm feeling in that particular moment and then I can label them more appropriately. Imagine if someone close to you said they don't feel good enough for you. How would you respond to that? Likely, you would be compassionate towards them and reassure them, which is exactly how we should treat ourselves. In addition, practicing positive self- talk can be very effective in countering such feelings. It may take time to believe the affirmations, just as it took time to believe in the negative self-talk. But with consistent effort, we can unlearn the harmful thoughts and replace them with the compassionate ones. Remember, you are whole and deserving, no matter what phase of life you're in. Don't beat yourself up if you fail to do this the first few times. Researches support the power of positive self-talk in cognitive behavioral modification as it influences behavior by shaping the thought patterns. Self- talk has been shown to improve task performance by increasing self-confidence, self-love and reducing anxiety. Additionally, studies on self-compassion show that it helps counter negative communication behaviors like worrying, rumination and self-blaming. People with higher levels of self-compassion tend to be less self-critical and handle personal challenges and failures in a better way. With self- compassion and acceptance towards yourself, you can cultivate a healthier and stronger mindset. Remember, we all are different from each other. What works for someone else may not work for you. You will find your own path when you look within yourself. Good luck! Resources: Hatzigeorgiadis, Antonis, et al. "Mechanisms underlying the self-talk–performance relationship: The effects of motivational self-talk on self-confidence and anxiety." Psychology of Sport and exercise 10.1 (2009): 186-192. Raes, Filip. "Rumination and worry as mediators of the relationship between self-compassion and depression and anxiety." Personality and Individual Differences 48.6 (2010): 757-761.

Feeling like you’re not good enough for someone, whether it’s a parent, partner, or family member, can significantly impact your self-esteem and self-worth. The real reason behind this feeling may stem from your inner critic and self-doubt. The first step towards overcoming this is to practice self-love and acknowledge that you are an amazing person, deserving of healthy relationships. Communicating openly about your feelings can also strengthen your connections. Remember that everyone has their struggles, and you are not alone in this. At the end of the day, focusing on your achievements and embracing your unique qualities can help you become a better person, ready for great things in life.