What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

If you feel like you aren't good enough for someone you should question why you feel that way. Is it something they have said that made you think that? Is it something they did? It might be worth directly asking if they think you are or are not "good enough" for them. Maybe you work on some self-improvements. Maybe you realize that this person doesn't deserve you. Every situation is different though. I wish you the best of luck and don't be afraid to walk away from someone who may or may not deserve you. If you want to become better then do that but don't do it for them. Do it for you. -LC

I don't think that doing something for it will make you feel good enough. There are no steps to follow. Insecurities don't just disappear. I guess, you learn to deal with it as time goes by. Not deal with it but you know understand. At this moment, you might feel this way for whatsoever reason but slowly,slowly you will understand what happened, what made you think this way, was it the person's actions that made you feel that way.Basically, it starts to hurt less and you gather diffrent views on it. Maybe after some time you will realise that, that person was not worthy of your time. Let it hurt. For only after hurting, the process of healing start. For a phoenix first, must burn to rise from the flames.

As an active listener I will try to follow all suggestions from the training. I can offer supportive conversation that will give space, time and empathy to the person in need to be heard and see more clearly their problem. If my answers do not help the person in need, I can recommend them to check 7 Cups Specific Guide, or contact a therapist. If the issue is more urgent and the person in need express possibility to hurt themselves or others I would urge them to contact the therapist as soon as possible or call a suicide hot line.

I think a lot of people can relate to this question. Most of the time, we encounter someone or the other who is very critical of us for no apparent reason. A lot of times, we ourselves do this job of being too hard on our decisions and personality. This constant negative feedback can lead to feelings of insecurity and it is very difficult to break out of this loop. However, please try to remember that you are not alone in feeling this way. Maybe the other person thinks they're not good enough for you! So, the only possible way to get the thought out of your mind is a conversation with them. And if it turns out that the other person is truly not into you, then it isn't because you are not "good enough." Please remember, these measures are all extremely subjective and arbitrary, so nobody can actually make that decision :)

I believe this means there's not enough trust in your relationship. You should talk to that person and this personal conversation will strengthen your bond. That way, you can confirm your role in that relationship with the help of that someone. But anyways, I don't think this should be your mindset because it is unhealthy. Know that you are worth MORE than you think.

I understand how you feel, and it makes you feel like you're not worth it and that everyone in comparison seems perfect and you're just there longing to be like them. However, in life, being able to take risks and chances makes everyone nervous, and stepping into a new atmosphere brings doubt on themselves because it's hard to reach your full potential and to show people you don't know, but people admire you for who you are and they want to know who the real you is, with your goods and your bads because that makes us human. It will make you happier knowing people love you for who you are and not the person you're trying to be, and you are perfect just the way you are, that's why we're all unique and special in our own way.

Not feeling good enough for someone might stem from not knowing your own worth. When you value yourself and know your worth, you will be able to see that someone's behaviour or expectations of you, are a representation of them and not of you. It's important to not allow someone else's behaviour to define your worth. Write down your worth and your value and if anyone or anything comes against that, you will know who you are and then you can take it on but not dwell on it because if it doesn't match up with who you think you are, don't pay attention to it. Easier said than done I know

Form me it is best to be your biggest supporter even if you are your biggest critic. By feeling inadequate you suppress your true self and emotions causing more distress since you are trying to be something you are not. If the person likes you in the first place there must be a reason that they do. That is because you are good enough, better even. If someone tells you that you aren’t good enough. It just means that they are not good enough for you. Surrounding yourself with negativity like that only plagues your image of yourself. Even though it is cliche positive vibes not only makes you happier but lifts your image of yourself also.

Being good enough for yourself is always enough. Be enough for yourself first and then you'll be enough for anyone that matters. I used to really struggle with not feeling good enough for people. But since I have started to feel like I am enough just as I am the right people have started coming into my life. If it is a partner I have also found talking about it with them really helps. I opened up to my partner about my insecurities and I was so shocked to find that he actually felt the same. So don't feel like you're the only one because I promise you aren't. As long as you are yourself and you're trying then trust me that's enough xx ❤️

No one is not good enough for anything. You are a human and you may have flaws and you have done mistakes, but those mistakes and flaws don't define who you are. it's what you've learned from them and how you tried to fix them that does. If someone ever tries to undermine me, I leave. If they won't say something constructive, then I automatically stop listening. No one has the right to tell me what I'm worth, and I shouldn't listen to the ones who do cause they don't really know me, or know what I have been through.

When you feel you are not good enough to get others approval, do a reality check of yourself: am i good enough for myself, what insecurities are prompting me to look out for external validation, do i feel low in self-worth, has something/someone caused me to disregard my self respect and become dependent on others. This process of inward looking, confronting your thoughts and inner chatter will help you to have a reality check and take stock of your mind matters. Then watch your emotions whenever it seeks /feels insecure. Observe and affirm within yourself -- that " you are good enough, that you are "sufficient" within yourself. Cheers!!.

Ah, a problem I face on a regular basis. This question really made me think: when we feel that we are not good enough for someone, is that not just a speculation on our part? To us, we may feel like there's so much we lack but what if to the other party, we are exactly what they need? I would say, do not try to change yourself for the other party. There is only one of you in the world and it would be terrible if you lose yourself to someone who does not see nor appreciate the real you. Do not beat yourself up too much, because you may be perfect in their eyes but you just do not know it.

If you ever feel like you are not good enough for someone the first thing to do is to know that you are good enough regardless what the other person thinks. It's normal to feel like we aren't good enough and everyone at least once in their life, has felt the all too annoying feeling of not feeling good enough. Even if hypothetically the person does for some stupid reason think you're not good enough, you shouldn't bother yourself with it. As cliche as it sounds, you know yourself best. Compared to the other person, he/she doesn't know you as well as you know yourself. If you can be good enough for yourself, don't bother yourself with somebody else's opinion.

'know your worth'. feeling of being not good enough for someone is not your problem anyway, because you don't need to please yourself to someone to like you or impress you. You live for your life not for them. always remember that your value doesn't based on someone's inability to see your worth. thinking that you are not good enough and that's bother you then move out and pretend to be okay. But instead of hating those people try to love them and you'll find peace of mind. remember, you are worth more than second thoughts and maybes..smile and be happy!

No one is good enough for another person—it is not a competition. We all have different values and beliefs, and our pace in learning is different too. Life is an experience, not a chore. We don't have to achieve anything in life to be successful. It is our experience, the process of learning that is enjoyable in life. We are born to be the person we are—not to be the person we want to be. What we think, we become, what we project, we attract. Be who you are, and the right person will find you. You don't have to be good enough for another person. You are enough.

First things first, ask yourself whether YOU think that YOU ARE good enough for yourself. Ask yourself why and try to work on loving yourself. You won’t feel good enough for someone else if you don’t feel good enough for yourself. Try positive affirmations and meditate & journal your thoughts in order to work on this. Remember that you are, always have been and always will be good enough😼 don’t let anyone else ever tell you any different. If the person is the one that is making you feel mediocre, I suggest that you talk it out with them and see where to go from there

When I find myself questioning "Why am I just not good enough?" the first thing I do is take a step back. I work re-evaluate the relationship I have with the person and what I've done that could have been wrong. If I find I'm fabricating reasons I am the problem I then evaluate the ratio of give/take and if the relationship is beneficial to my personal growth or well-being. If and when I find that the relationship is toxic and the person is hindering my ability to grow as a person I take the hard steps to sever the ties.

We have all felt this way at some point in time. The most important thing to remember is that it's okay to feel this way. We all have an inner critic and it helps us improve ourselves to become a better person. However, it is important to distinguish when to listen to that inner voice and when to shut it down. Negative self-talk breaks our self-esteem and creates self-doubt. The most important part to focus on is whether or not you are good enough for yourself. Everyone is unique and shines in different ways. The rainbow has different colours and they're all beautiful. However, some people like blue more than green and that's okay. In the same way people like other people for different reasons. Because no one can ever be good at everything. Not everyone knows where they shine or what they are good at that is okay too. Self-discovery is a beautiful thing and it supports self-confidence. The key is to feel good enough for yourself and to accept who you are. You are unique and an amazing person. You are the best you. Your self-worth is not connected to what others think of you. If they think less of you it usually means they're not comfortable with the person they are. Nothing exudes more confidence than accepting yourself with your flaws. To reiterate, it's okay to feel this way. Don't allow yourself to indulge in negative self-talk. Only you truly know your self-worth and your true strengths. Focus on that and embrace it until you believe it with your mind heart and your soul. There's something beautiful and worthy in all of us.

Not feeling good enough for someone in your life is a common experience, I think all human beings want to become a better person, whatever that means to each of us. Some of us have felt like we could never please our parents, or other family members, others have felt we were not good enough for our partner. Or perhaps you don’t think you are good enough as a parent to your own children. Everyone experiences self-doubt at some point in their lives, I know I have many times throughout my whole life! When feeling this doubt of being good enough it can be hard to practice self-love and one’s self-esteem and self-worth can suffer. A good first step when feeling like you are not good enough for someone is to pause and think about what the real reason you feel this way is. Has the person you don’t feel like you are good enough for actually said or done something that proves this? Or has your inner critic and negative self-talk convinced you of this based on incomplete information, misinterpretations in communication, etc. Maybe they didn’t say the right thing to make you feel loved and cared for but it was an awkwardness in how they said it, and they did not mean you were unworthy. Perhaps you saw something out of context on social media you thought was referring to you when really it was about something silly like a disagreement with an acquaintance or a game lost to a friend. The best way to find out how someone feels about you is to discuss it with them. Any healthy relationship requires good communication. Find a good time to talk uninterrupted and voice to them how you are feeling. If talking about it with that person feels too difficult right now, the good news is there is help. You can practice what you will say to the person in your life you are not feeling good enough for with a 7cups listener or if you have the funds or insurance to involve a professional you can find a therapist to help build up your self-confidence and help you work through many issues in your life. And try to remember, at the end of the day, what really matters is that you are an amazing person who can do great things, regardless of what other people may or may not think about you.

That is a question that I have even caught asking myself a lot. It is a very heavy feeling. Everyone is different. It depends on if you're comfortable enough talking to the specific person about it. If that's not your cup of tea, then that's okay too! The best that I can say is nobody deserves to feel like they aren't good enough for someone, if that person can't see how wonderful and unique you are as a person then just know that they are missing out on someone that could possibly change their life in a positive way. Eventually someone else will come along that will appreciate you and find you the most amazing person that's ever come into their life and that's something to look forward to!(:

It's for sure reasonable to feel like you're not good enough for someone. We're usually out toughest critics when it comes to our own value, doubting our self-worth and lacking self-esteem. This doesn't mean you're really not enough for them - as this is mostly negative self-talk. It's important to work on your self-confidence in order to have a good relationship with strong communication whether this is with your partner, parent or a family member. A good first step is to gather enough information on what they expect from you and if you're really needing to work on something. We're all human beings after and are allowed to make mistakes, learn from them and be a better person! Good luck!

I understand and can relate to how your feeling about not being good enough for someone. So often when we are going through our own personal battles, they can overwhelm us and make us feel that we are no longer good enough for someone. From your question I'm wondering if this may be the situation for you? When we feel like this it is important to discuss how you are feeling with the other person as opening up and communication is key to all relationships. I think the first best step to take is to let the other person know how you are feeling, open up with your what is going on with your thoughts and emotions so they can help you because it is difficult to manage this alone.

Well to be honest there's nothing called as good enough for someone as because I think everyone is good it's the situation that makes the person worst. When I feel like that way the only thing I do is make sure the person knows that I am with him or her whenever they need me and give some space to fill the awkwardness. Make sure the other person knows about your feelings and if they doesn't want to they take a step back and let them live their live as because we can't force someone to stay with us. The thing is we can't really hold someone cuz the tighter we hold them the more they want to slip away so the least we can do is make sure the person knows that no matter what the odds are you will always be there for them.

There are 7 billion people in this world. You think you might be good for someone but they might not think the same. because we find our reflection in other people. we find love and empathy. we find a spark when we are looking for someone. and that feeling has to be mutual in order to build a deeper mental and physical connection. You will be good for someone else. you just have to realize that. one day you will find a perfect person who is capable of loving you. so you just have to sit tight and wait for the right person

I can completely understand how hard and painful it must be to feel like you are not good enough for someone, be it your parents, partner, etc. With the increasing use of social media, our self-esteem has been dramatically affected and we somehow judge ourselves and question our self-worth. It definitely brings a lot of negative feelings. We all have this inner critic who always creates a sense of self-doubt. As a result of that, we engage in negative self-talk and become harsh on ourselves. This is the real reason for having such a feeling. We all are human beings and we experience such moments in our lives. But there is a good news. All you have to do is take the first step towards the path of self-growth, i.e. to be a better person. That is the right thing and the best way to deal with this unpleasant feeling, If this feeling is hampering your relationships with your family members, children, partner, etc. and you find it difficult to have a good time with them, you can definitely approach a professional and go for therapy. It can provide you with accurate information and can aid you in enhancing some basic skills such as effective communication. Remember one thing. You are an amazing person and you have your whole life waiting for you to create beautiful moments with your loved ones. You just have to find your inner voice which can help you in building your self-confidence. A healthy relationship takes a two-way street. So self-love is necessary to feel confident because at the end of the day, you are with your true self. Good luck to you.

Figure out whether they are good enough for you. If the relationship between you is mutual, you would not be questioning whether you are good enough. If it is equal and not a one sided relationship, you will know, and they will make it clear to you that you are more than good enough for them, this applies to relationships , friendships etc. You shouodnt question if you are good enough for them but in fact , if they’re good enough for you. Questioning this, can make you unhappy and you should always put your happiness first!

It’s natural to feel like you’re not good enough for someone, and I’m sure many others can relate or have gone through this at some point in their life. I would suggest first taking a step back to see if you can identify the root problem. In a sense, what’s causing you to feel this way? Did something change recently causing your self-doubt to kick in? Is there some negative self-talk going on that’s unaddressed? Next, reach out. This could mean talking to a trusted friend or counsellor or even therapist. There’s no shame in seeking reassurance. Self-love is something that’s often easier said than done, but it’s definitely important. As cliche as this may sound, but our inner critic is often our worst critic. Last but certainly not least, challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone! This would help you build your overall self-confidence and address some of the issues that arise from self-doubt.

Why do you feel you are not good enough for them? Analyze that, then write out all the reasons. Which of those reasons do you control? What can you do to make yourself good enough, or make yourself FEEL good enough for them? What can't you control? You can only hope they overlook that and love you for who you are, especially as you are becoming the best version of yourself! At the end of the day, when you like someone, you overlook their flaws. Ideally, they'll give you the same benefit of the doubt. Regardless, you can always find things to change or improve yourself as you wish!

If you ever feel that you are not good enough for someone, recognize that you ARE enough. Sometimes in a relationship, two people just are not the right fit. maybe take a step back and try to figure out why you feel this way. Is it low self-esteem? Anxiety? Depression? Have you been put down in the past? While it may feel like the end of the world and challenging to feel this way, you have the power to change it. With knowledge, support from others, and consistency you can change your way of thinking and build your confidence.

The good news is that this is a very common experience for people. The bad news is that it’s uncommon to know how to deal with these feelings. Here are some self-help techniques on how to improve your self-esteem: The first way of improving your self esteem is talking about yourself in a positive manner. Avoid using exaggerated language and don't put yourself down when speaking about yourself or comparing yourself to others. If you have no one else around looking in the mirror when speaking to yourself, it's time to get self-compassionate. Treating yourself with self-care can also help boost self-esteem. The second way of improving self esteem is by seeing the big picture. Self-esteem is often affected by how well you are doing in life compared to others - this is called social comparison. This has been explained as a self-defeating strategy because self-esteem is a self-evaluative process that varies from person to person. If you compare yourself with others you will always come up short, which can make you feel worse. This doesn't mean no comparisons should be made at all though since sometimes it's useful to know how well you are doing in comparison to others - just don't make self-esteem decisions based on self-evaluations. The third way of improving self-esteem is understanding that perfectionism can be a killer. Perfectionism is not always bad but it often leads to negative consequences if it is really high. Perfectionism is often associated with high levels of anxiety and depression as well. So instead of perfect try 'good enough'. The fourth way of improving self-esteem is learning to say no. Saying yes when you mean no can create a lot of inner conflict and guilt. Learning how to say no is a great way of increasing self-esteem because it helps you feel more in control and confident about yourself. Remember that you are not alone when it comes to not feeling good enough. The way you talk about yourself to yourself, your willingness to see the bigger picture, choosing to be ‘good enough’ vs. perfect, and learning to say no are starting points to improving how you feel about yourself.