What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Feeling not good enough for someone, whether parents, partners, or peers, often stems from self-doubt and negative self-talk influenced by social media and comparisons. 1) The first step towards overcoming these feelings is recognizing your self-worth by ignoring others' opinions. 2) Practicing self-love and addressing the inner critic can boost self-esteem and self-confidence. 3) Open communication with family members or a partner can clarify misunderstandings and reinforce your value in these relationships. 4) Therapy is a valuable tool for unpacking these feelings, understanding their actual reasons, and developing strategies to counteract them. Remember, you're a fantastic person deserving of healthy relationships. You can strengthen your sense of worth by self-acceptance and pursuing personal growth.

I think at some point we all feel this way. I know I do a lot. I have found it best to be open with this person and let them know how you are feeling. You both can work it out together!

Everyone has a different definition of "good". So what really matters is whether or not you are good enough for yourself. Because YOU are what you need. People change, and they leave. You should be enough for yourself. To fight back. To rise after falling down hard. You don't need anyone's validation and you clearly don't need anyone's approval as to how amazing you are and what you're capable of! So ask yourself, is the other person "good" enough for you by your definition of what should be "good"? And you'll know when they will accept and appreciate you the way you are! Cheers! :)

When I feel that I am not good enough for someone, I ask myself what about that person it is that I am attracted to, and write down all the things that are good about me.

Think of why you feel that way, for every reason think of a reason you are good enough for them

Try to talk to someone who has always been there for you no matter what came in your way...and surely you will realise that you are important for someone and it is not necessary that everyone whom we value will reciprocate the same thing.

Remember that you are worth as much as any other person. If you are good enough for another is not for you to decide, be confident in yourself, and as a relationship progresses you will be good enough if you let yourself be. When you feel you are not good enough it's easy to let yourself fall down that path, remind yourself that you are valid, and that someone loves you for who you are. Be brave and kind toward yourself, believe that you are good enough for anyone. You can express this feeling to the other person, try to make them understand how you're feeling.

It's not important whether or not you're "good enough" for someone. What IS important, is that you are good enough for YOU! If anyone makes you feel like you're not good enough for them, then you have to remember that you need to put yourself first. There's no such thing as being good enough for someone. There is, however, such a thing as not being right for someone, and in that case, do your best to move on to something that you are right for.

Try to talk with that someone and settle things down, you know, build up personalities together and if that someone really cares about you, he/she will help you solve this matter!

I live for myself, I'm just me. If I don't please to someone it's not important. There are people will love me for what I am.

The question before me is "What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?" As I remember it was Friedrich Nietzsche who said "You need to know, what kind of a monster you are" For me I dissected that in to "we are all unique", "we all have our strengths and weaknesses", "we all need to know about them". So, to answer this question (and I am assuming that we might be talking about anyone - including parent, partner, co-worker, boss, child etc.) I would recommend You to ask: - why is this meaningful for me? - can I speak to the "someone" and clarify what is it, that they need/expect (from me) and how they need it (dont forget to ask yourself if you are willing to accept)? - how can I tell them what I need in return (to feel meaningful/enough) - where is my limit (where there is more harm than good in the exchange and I need to back off/try something else, in order to save myself)

I find that the only person we should feel good enough for is ourselves. Everyone grows and learns at different paces. It is not the place of another to determine we as individuals are not good enough. They may say we are not good enough for them which is their choice to make. I still do not allow this to deter me from being the best me I can be on any given day. No matter what any one person says, somewhere in this very big planet is a person who will love you for being you. The fun part for me has always been finding those people. I hope it can be just as fun an experience for all who read this.

Quite often, when I find myself questioning "Why am I just not good enough?" the best way I tackle this is by taking a step back and evaluating the real reason that is making me feel this way. And, quite often, it comes down to that nagging voice inside me that just won’t stop bashing my self-esteem. Especially when it comes to relationships – be it with family members or with a romantic partner – there’s always a pressure to constantly do the right thing to appease the other. It’s absolutely normal to sometimes question your actions in order to be a better person to your friends or significant other – what isn’t right is to have that inner critic take over your whole life, so much so that you end up being consumed by self-doubt. But worry not; there’s always a first for everything, and the first step to ending this constant negative self-talk is replacing it with acts of self-love. It doesn’t have to be as extravagant as social media makes us believe, either: just take some time out of the day to connect with yourself, reminding yourself that you’re an amazing person bound to do great things in life. You’ll find that building strong positive communication with your inner self will do wonders for your self-confidence, and gradually, for your relationships with others. Before striving towards a healthy relationship with someone else, you need to establish one with yourself because, at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with you for the rest of your life. I know this isn’t something that will produce immediate results, but the good news is that you can start immediately ☺️ Good luck!

When you feel like you are not good enough for someone you should first appreciate that you are feeling anxious which is completely fine. Then you should try and rationalise these feelings by writing them down in a logical way. By writing how you feel down your feelings can become a lot easier to manage and it can help you to see where you can start to work from. Even if you don't get to the point where you rationalise and process these feelings, venting how you feel can help to reprieve a huge amount of pressure. The most important thing is to remember that you are always worthy of the best things in life, everyone is, and this includes you. Repeat positive affirmations to yourself to help boost your self-worth. Finally, do try and speak to someone about how you have been feeling as they are likely to be able to help you as well. Keep smiling :))

In life, there comes a time when we cannot help but ask ourselves whether or not we are good enough for someone. Do I deserve my partner and their love? Am I worth it? Do I make my parents proud? These questions slash our self-worth and self-esteem to a point where we do nothing but doubt ourselves. The best way to avoid these questions is to answer them affirmatively. Accept that we all are humans, trying our best to become a better version of ourselves. With some luck and a lot of practice, you will be able to overcome all the self-deprecating, negative, criticizing talk. And look at the world with confidence and self-love. Forget about what other people expect from you. Do what you wish to. Remember, you are good enough. You are worth it. You deserve it. Strive for the best, work towards the best, and you will get the best. Great things will happen when you set your mind to it.

When you feel like you are not good enough for someone, look inside yourself, and know, and believe that you are good for yourself. That you are good for someone else. Also that they may have not been good enough for you. Timing in life sometimes may not make sense and a connection from your view may be stronger towards a person that may not feel the same. Remember that, that is ok. Someone that isn't interested or who may feel as though you are not good enough is simply that, their opinion. Not everyone's opinion.

When you feel like you aren't good enough for someone a lot of the time it can stem from self deprecating feelings. You will only feel good enough if you yourself know that you are, so practicing self care and helping yourself feel loved by you is very crucial. If someone is making you feel like your effort is going unseen then communicate it to them because more often then not people feel that same way. Theres been many times in my life where I've felt unworthy of a specific individuals love or even just there presence, but the only thing that made me feel true value was searching for love in myself. Know that you are good enough and being self aware is the first step.

As human beings we spend a lot of our time on social media, looking at all these amazing people living their best life. They’re full of self-esteem and confidence and their whole life seems full of great things. Looking at that, it’s easy to forget our own self-worth and start giving ourselves negative self-talk. The good news is that you are also an amazing person, even if your inner critic doesn’t agree with that right now. Just ask your family members, your friends or your partner. You don’t need to change yourself to have a good time with people who care about you. . You are enough just as you are. When you start to doubt that, remind yourself to talk to someone you care about, or even your therapist. Communication is the first step to healthy relationships. At the end of the day, great things will come your way too.

As human beings, it is natural to struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk. When we feel that we are not good enough for others, it is often the voice of our own inner critic that is actually making us question our self-worth and which is undermining our self-confidence. By comparing ourselves with others—which we often do through communication and the exchange of information on social media—these hurtful internal voices can become louder and more frequent, reducing our self-esteem in the process. The good news is that at the end of the day, no matter what anyone tells you, you’re an amazing person who deserves nothing but self-love and compassion. The first step is to recognise that there are real reasons for your existence on this planet: you are worthy in the fact that you are here. You can be the better person who does the right things. You can be the person who is already inside of you and has been their your whole life even if you haven’t noticed them right in front of your eyes. One of the best ways to develop a healthy relationship with yourself might include going to therapy. In good time, it might help you to see the the great things you are capable of doing. If you have close relationships with your parents, children, family members or any other loved ones like your partner; they’ll remind you that you are enough when you are uncertain about this. Good luck on your journey friend! Be kind to yourself. I believe in you. Just take it one day at time.

On the inside, I can really hear that you feel you are not on the same level or up to the same standards as someone or feel unworthy of someone. It's easy to tell someone in your situation to trust the other person but this difficulty to trust or confide in others can be due to betrayal in a past relationship through neglect and abuse. It can seem difficult especially when you have low self-esteem. But being a friend or a significant other is something others appreciate and want. Try to look inside yourself to see where these feelings come from, did someone say something to you in the past that made you feel this way? If they did and you still talk to them, communicate what their words made you feel to them. I can understand you may worry about what will be said to you if you ask them. This is a choice for you to make. Are there sometimes things you wish others would tell you? Are there things others would wish you tell them? If you're trying to be friends with someone else, know that your past doesn't define you and you can be good enough for someone today, just be your best self and that's more than good enough! You are welcome to reach out to one of our listeners for further support. Thank you for your question!

Feeling not good enough for someone is an absolutely normal and common thing. As human beings one of our primary psychological needs is the need for a healthy amount of self-esteem in order to be fully functional and self-actualized about our potentials. Almost all people spend their whole life in an environment which conditions them to base their self-worth on others’ opinion of them, to do the right thing in order to gain the approval of people like their parents, family members and partner. However, what is learnt can be unlearned through altered behavioral practices and the best way to do so is to get the required help via therapy and other means which assist us in reducing our self-doubt. They help us in dealing with the real reason for our low self-esteem, that is, our inner critic, that prods at us whenever we are about to do something or are done doing it, and negative self talk, which only adds on to the feelings of worthlessness. In this age of social media and information, the content we expose ourselves to matters profoundly as well. Consuming good news and positive information exponentially helps us in elevating our moods, self-confidence and optimism. At the end of the day, we must remember that self-confidence resides where self-love does and the first step to loving ourselves is consciously acknowledging our current state and making the active choice to improve it. Through proper communication of our needs and listening to others, there is no doubt that we will come off as an amazing person to our peers. We progress on our way to be a better person by being disciplined yet gentle toward ourselves, establishing healthy relationships with others and setting proper boundaries.

Many things can cause us to feel like we are not good enough for another person. Self-esteem, social media, self-worth, self-doubt, negative self-talk, our inner critic, and other human beings can all influence this. Maybe you feel this way around a certain family member, a parent, a partner, children, friends, or any other person in your life. It's important to know your own worth, but I promise you that it's a high one. The good news is that there are many ways to overcome this feeling, lots of great things to do. Personally, I think the best way is to practice self-love, cultivate and maintain healthy relationships, grow your self-confidence, and remember you are an amazing person. One of the first steps towards those actions is remembering that that little voice that says you are not good enough, or that you need to be a better person, or even sometimes that there's no real reason to anything or your whole life, it's wrong. That voice is wrong. Some people may need therapy for this, it can provide more information, and more open communication, though that is up to what you feel is the right thing for you to do. At the end of the day, know that you are not alone in this, many people, including myself, have struggled with this same thing. It's ok not to be ok sometimes, we cannot expect life will always be a good time, but you have people willing, ready, and wanting to help and support you. I wish you all good luck and feel free to message me whenever to talk. You're all amazing *offers hugs if wanted*

I think you should find your value and worth and know that you do matter and are very important to many people! I understand value and worth can be very difficult to find, but once you do find it, you'll know for sure that you are good enough for people to love you, although you should lover yourself first. Self-love is very important. You are the most important person in your life, so you should take care of yourself first. Know that you certainly do matter to people, you are human and deserve all the love in the world!

You're always good for everyone. Everyone is unique, if someone doesn't like you, there will be the one in the world to love you. Trust me! There will be someone to match with you. Always have confidence. If people see you with confidence, then, you will be liked. At the end of the day, if the person doesn't like you, nothing really happened. You can still be friends and go on. If you check deeply inside you, you will find the real you. You will literally learn to admire yourself. If you feel good about yourself, then others will feel good about you. So what you need to do: Get self confidence. Like yourself, love yourself.

We are all human, we are the same but also different in many ways. I encourage you to become independent and do your best in what you do or love to do, find happiness within yourself. When you focus on yourself, others will start to realize that they are not good enough for you. If they are miserable, they have no right to drag you down with them. I wish you to try your best in everything you do, find happiness, and the world would never be good enough for you.

I tell myself all the great things about myself. All the things I love about myself. I remind myself that there’s people who love me no matter what. Also, in times like these you need to give yourself the love you give others. Listen to your favorite music, perhaps take a bath, meditate. I also have a collection of kind words from my friends saved in my notes and when I feel down, I read them and my heart fills with warmth and love. It helps me. And last but not least, put on a song and DANCE AROUND YOUR ROOM. It releases so much serotonin.

Cry. Ruminate on why you are not good enough. Give rationalizations as to why they don't want you. "Because they are human with needs and I don't meet them." Whatever humanization I can attribute to this pain so it makes it "manageable." Well, I wish I can do anything but I can't. Bear the pain of helplessness until you feel so numb then take the drug called hope. "Oh, if I do this then maybe." Then fall into a cycle of depressive thoughts sometimes the occasional suicide ideation. Talk to some random internet stranger to express your feelings because they can do a better job than a friend who knows your situation. And then you know about your friend's situation who probably miles better than you or not. Then get depressed. Think of the "You can't control what you can't control." Feel good about it then feel bad about it as well.

If you feel you are not good enough for someone you may want to take a step back and think about what exactly makes you think that, if you cantalk to that person about not feeling good enough this will help alot not only will you be helping yourself by further understanding that feeling. a benefit of this would be that whoever you dont fell good enough for will know that and such they will be able to understand what you are going through and may be able to help you more than if you just asked yourself the exact same thing.

Start to note what makes you special about yourself (what you bring to the table). When we don't feel good enough for someone else, we tend to put them on a pedestal and put ourselves in a corner in light of who we think they are. There's nothing wrong with admiring someone else, being inspired by them or wanting to share a connection. It can take effort to put yourself at an equal stance as them. But it can feel like we're giving so much of our power away when we don't give ourselves the same recognition we give other people.

If I am in this situation I make sure I do self care. I eat right, get enough sleep and do thins I like. In addition, I write out positive Affirmations and read through them daily. Also I try to turn my negative thoughts about myself to positive every time I catch myself feeling negatively. It is hard to do this at first, but with practice it does get easier. I am still working at this myself, but if you are consistent with it and dont give up it hopefully will make a difference. The biggest thing to remember is these negative thoughts are ingrained and it will take time, effort and repetition to break the habit of thinking negatively.