What do I do if I love 2 people at once?

loving two people one time is very difficult. Especially if those two people are unaware that you love two separate people for me it would just be a huge sign of being selfish even though both sides make sure to different qualities that you love the most about them especially when it comes to treating you with those wonderful gifts. But in the long run you're somebody is going to get hurt and it is going to be all three those two because they trusted you with everything they had and you simply because you are being selfish with what you seek

Love has no limits. Let your heart decide. It’s going to be hard, so really think about it. Pros and Cons.

Depends on what your definition of love is. However let's say that you are saying you are sexually attracted. I think that you are here because you sexually want them both but are worried if that's okay morally. So you have several options: 1. Don't tell them about each other and enjoy the company of both. This is the most egocentric approach and because of that has the potential to emotionally harm every participant. 2. Tell both of them about your thoughts and feelings and that you want them both. This is the high risk high reward scenario where you could lose one or both of them or get to be with both of them. Because of human nature it is also the most complicated route when more meaningful feelings develop. 3. Pick one. This is the least egocentric approach as you have to focus on what you value and want and put all your faith in yourself and your potential partner.

Also, in some cases this may be down to polyamory: where people physically get into relationships with more than one person at a time with all parties consenting to it (the mechanisms of polyamory can be quite complex but as long as all parties consent to it, that's all that matters really). If this may be the case, I urge you to look deeply at those feelings for both of those people and also to look inside yourself and ask yourself whether these are "true" feelings or they're superficial, do you love them both or is there one person that seem to be just interested in because they fulfill some things that the other person doesn't?. If you decide that you do not feel genuine love for both, then it's worth looking at which person you feel you will be able to get along with best and decide based on with whom you believe you will have the most fulfilling relationship. :)

You try to met go if the one who cayses you more hurt than happiness. You beckme aware that it would onlt lead to stress and fustration

Love is complicated, you can love different people for different reasons. I fall a little bit in love with people I meet all the time, I can love someones kindness, their drive and the way they see the world but it doesn't mean I am IN love with them. I'd say imagine your life with both, how it would be...then imagine out either one of them- if the thought of losing one hurts more than the other I'd say you have an answer. Or perhaps polygamy is something you're more open to- don't force yourself to choose unless you're hurting someone in the process. Let these feelings unravel naturally, give it space and time. Answers will come.

It's very possible that while you do love both of those people, you love them for different reasons and/or in different ways. Basically the love you feel, and the reasons for that love, are probably different. After all, these two people are different people with different lives and different relationships to yourself. And while I understand that it is hard to imagine a life without them, even when your love for these people conflicts, you should try to understand what you love about those people, and make a decision based off that understanding. Also, consider the possibility that your love for both of them will cause the loss of both of them.

You tell them. Let them know how you feel. Tell them you need time. Then work on yourself, see who helps you most. But always put yourself first.

You could be polyamorous! There's nothing wrong with pursuing relationships with both persons as long as your partners know and consent the relationship to avoid misunderstandings

I don't think there is any right or wrong answer to this question.. the way I would go about it is i would go with one that treats me better and genuinely cares about me and my well being. But that it's easier said than done.

First take a big breath in and exhale. I'd suggest maybe write on paper on both of these folks you love. Do the pro's and con's. Then you can see which one supports all your needs and fits what you are looking for. Good luck with this.

Loving two people at once can be very stressful, especially if you fear hurting them because of it. If you are certain that you love both individuals, then the best thing to do is communicate with both of them so that you can all express your feelings/ concerns and come to better understand the situation you have all found yourselves in.

Ask yourself: which one of these people do I reach out to more often? What do each of them offer and bring to our relationship (eg. they're comforting, they're fun, they're always there for me, etc), and which of those traits are more important to you? What are your incompatibilities with each of them? Thinking about these and similar questions can help you make up your mind. Polyamory and staying friends/in touch with the person you choose not to pursue romantically are also possibilities to consider, if you want.

The feeling of love isn’t always mutual. First see if the feeling is mutual. Loving someone doesn’t always have to mean dating or being in a relationship.

through my own personal experience, I have found the I am completely capable of fully and honestly love in more than one person for different reasons, and he given time. The things that make us unique and special are also the things that bring love to us and when we find that we are attracted to more than one person in a sense that can actually be considered love, then regardless of what society says we are supposed to do, we really simply have to follow our heart. Not everybody is wired for monogamy and we have to be able to be comfortable with Who We Are exactly how we are, and not find fault in our cells for not wanting to settle for less than what actually sustains us and makes us feel whole.

Find the one who makes you the best version of yourself, who brings out the best in you and who cares and tries to make you happier. Choose the person that would love you with the same intensity that you love them. We often forget that the person we choose now greatly impacts our mental and emotional stability later. Confusion is natural and love is never easy. However, love is beautiful when it is given back to you in a positive and healthy manner. Choose the person you see a future with not just your presence. Choose yourself and your happiness too.

Sometimes we don't really love two at once, sometimes we think we are in love but we are just kinda confused, the best thing is clarify our own mind so we can see what our heart really wants, try to see what you really want and then you can know if you are trully in love of any of them, also distract yourself and take your own time, don't take things too fast because you can loose the little details and sometimes the details are the things that solve everything and clarify your own mind, do what you really think is the best for yourself

Take some time to figure out what you love about each person and see which person you think about when reading a book or taking a walk. One time I was told that you must not have loved the first person as much as you thought in order to fall in love with the second. Unfortunately I can’t really give you advice but those are some methods Ive picked up when it comes to relationships. Also remember to communicate with these people because they probably love you to. It won’t be easy but hopefully when you figure out who makes you the most happy you will feel much better.

Sometimes this situation can be hard, The thing you need to work out is who do you love more, it is possible, very possible. Sometimes you are in love with someone for so long that when another person comes along they seem to b like the perfect person for you however you then find you only saw what you wanted, I would advise to keep both people close, however if you love them both you have to make a choice who you want to be with and who you need to let go a little so they can find their true love.

I think the important thing to do is to first of all accept that you. We live in a society where monogamy is the go-to option, and by many religious and conventional standards is the only acceptable one. But people's emotions cannot be placed in neat boxes like this, everyone is different. Perhaps, allowing yourself to feel the way you do will help you further examine -- do they ways i love these people the same? What is affecting my feelings for the first person, what is -- the second? If you decide, that you honestly love and yearn for both people equally, then why not explore whether it is something that can work out?

My honest opinion is that you should make a pro and con list! It is a very simple and easy way to see what qualities you are looking for in a person. If you notice you are very unsatisfied with the answer the list gave you then you will know your true answer for which person is “the one”. It is so important that when choosing between these people you make sure you understand that they are human beings, and to consider your own relationship priorities. Ask yourself if you love these two people because they love you, you sincerely love both of them for who they are, or if you want to be in any type of relationship as long as you get the love you are looking for.

The first and most important thing is to push any thoughts that something is wrong with you out of your mind. It is very possible to love more than one person! I would say to give it a lot of time and see who comes to you. Especially since you love both of them, it is probably hard to choose just one of them. Time heals all wounds, it's cheesy but it's true. So yeah time and space, don't go telling them both that you love them or anything yet, see who comes to you and has the guts to spill their feelings to you. I hope this helps :)

There's a thing called polyamory, I recommend checking it out! It's about feelings love and passion towards multiple people at once, and being in crossed relationships. It a little different from the normal relationships we know, but for the people I know who are in polyamoric relationships, it works well!

If you love two people at once, it is completely your choice what you want to do. If you feel it is right for you to tell them both that you're also in love with the other, then go ahead, do that. If you feel that telling them would do more harm than good, then maybe give it some time and find a way to tell them when you think it's time. There is no right or wrong answer, what you choose to do is your choice and nobody should tell you what to do. Do what you want to do, what you think is right.

Many people love, in different ways. In current days, we tend to love more than one person for different reasons. occasionally, there comes a time when you are torn between two people. You, of course, know that you cant be with 2 [people at the same time. You need to make a choice of who will make you, the happiest. You can still be friends with the other, which means you have 2 kind s of love., you keep your love and you have an amazing best friend and if the one you chose to be with, works out wrong. Then you have your friend to lean on

Hello. Love is such a beautiful and powerful thing that can be shared amongst many or few. Most cultures have convinced themselves that we can only deeply and rommantically love one person (I am assuming when you say love you mean, in a non-brother sister friend kind of way) and this belief in only one person is able to love only one person can be tracked to either judeo Christian biblical morality "God says so" or the social understanding that the less people we are intimate with the stronger our links to that one person we have. But then you meet people like "matt" (name changed) Matt is deeply empathetic, charismatic and seems to remember everything about everyone. He treats people with care and concern and has found that he can feel deeply and fall in love with many people at a time. Looking into polyamory and the modern expressions that that brings, communities all around the world have started looking and experimenting with how one communicates a deep love with multiple people and how that is communicated to and between the multiple people. So, then you have the choice - could you hold both humans you love respectfully whilst communicating to and between an honest depiction of your desires and hopes? And would those 2 people be willing to be apart of a love community? Now if you are more asking "What do I do if I love 2 people at once and I only want to love 1 person" Then thats different. way up the pros and cons and just choose. Love has a habit of becoming quiet and disapearing when it is ignored.

Polyamory, or the love of several people, is a real thing. It’s not common in our modern societies, and generally frowned upon, and that’s why you only hear bad stories about it. But it can work, through communication. Are you in a relationship with either? Try to define what everyone wants from it, and what are your limits. You may need to define what kind of relationship there will be between your two lovers. Then again, it’s possible one or both of them do not love you. If you want to be really honest, you could declare your love for them at the same time, with both being present, and explaining the extent of your feelings. You must remember however that this is not the way most people see love, and it will take hard work, mostly through healthy communication, and you may face hard rejection

Make sure the person you loved second is worth it, if not stay with the one you loved first. If you really loved the first person you wouldnt have looked to the second person, but it could be just a crush so make sure its actually love or a crush, if its love then definitely stay with the second one as this person could possibly have better qualities and gave you things you never saw from the person you loved at first, try to compare both of them and realise who you truly love and can imagine living your entire life with, its okay to have mixed emotions.

It is possible to have romantic feelings for more than 1 person at one point of time; but it is up to your choice whether you want to love 2 people at once. Assuming you are not in an open relationship, being in love with two people will definitely hurt at least one person in this love triangle (and possibly hurt both parties and yourself too eventually). Think about this : if you truly love a person, would you bear to hurt him/her? Ultimately, you may have to make a choice. And how you want to choose depends on what you are looking for. Looking for a marriage partner and a relationship with no goal of marriage will produce two different sets of criteria for selection. Some of us go by our gut instincts, shared chemistry and our feelings - nothing wrong with that too. It totally is up to you. All the best!

This sounds a lot like what I actually went through recently, and am still kind of dealing with. If you were as deep in love with the first person as you had originally thought, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second person as well. It is possible that you can love both of them equally and at the same time. The best decision would be to wait things out and see how things change over time. Don’t act on either person right away, try to wait and see if your feelings change for either person during about a one month period if possible.