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I think that sometimes breaking up is a good choice when the relationship is not working well and becoming source of stress , but , breaking up multiple times indicates that there is a problem in the way the person uses it to chose his lover and then , the person should think again about what he wants from the relationship and is the other one is the one or not .
Yes. No one's first relationship can be perfect, as they're just learning how to work with it. Sometimes we think someone is right for us and it turns out they're not.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2016 3:21am
Yes, its normal. Its not that easy, as we usually think, to find the right one. So don't worry. Its completely normal: )
It truly depends on the relationship and what the situation(s) of the breakup(s) are. If you are breaking off a relationship for little things, then it is unhealthy, but equally so if you get back together just in order not to feel alone. Please seek help from good friends and family members.
yes. It is normal to breakup multiple times with the person you are not compatible with. If you really love a person, and your relationship with them is an honest and caring one, breakups wont happen.
It depends why you're breaking up. If it's for a lot of the same reasons, it may indicate there's some underlying problem with the relationship.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 4:01pm
yes it is, as u get into relations many times so it should be perfectly alright to break up if the relationship u are in doesnt make u happy
Yes. Very much so. A lot of people go through the on-off stage multiple times. It might be a process to better accommodate individual differences.
It is completely normal to breakup multiple times. It isn't your fault nor is it the fault of your ex. It just means that you're destined for someone better
I would say yes, and no, it depends on why you breakup in first place. I think its unhealthy behavior though. but many people breakup for various reasons, maybe they can't get along with each other very well, or outside forces eg parental involvement, church involvement, friends, or it maybe workwise or time issue that cause someone to breakup. Many people also breakup because they are emotional unstable so they cant seem to commit fully to one relationship and so as soon as someone else comes along they breakup or when problems arise they quickly breakup
Normal, sometimes. Healthy? Quite often, not so much. In all reality, is anything really normal? Food for thought.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 3:11pm
I know many people who have been through relationships with multiple breakups and the breakups help them realize how important they are to each other, however breaking up multiple times can also be upsetting. I think it is all down to how it makes you feel personally because every relationship is different.
Well I would say yes because I have many times and we've been together for 9 years. Sometimes you just need a break and sometimes you don't even mean it.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 3:02pm
Not at all. Making someone go through all the stress and emotional drama is not okay. Nobody deserves to be treated like this.
As it has happened to me and as I've seen it happen to a few friends, one could say that it's normal. Whether it's healthy or not is a different issue.
I find that it's totally normal to breakup with your lover more than once. It usually happens when there are many problems getting in the way.
No, it is not normal. That means your relationship is toxic. In fact, I've been in one of those relationships. It only lasted about a year and we would literally break up every week. It was awful. If you and your partner are prone to break up often, you should consider breaking it off for good. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of emotional stress. Take care.
Not really, but it depends on the reasons of breaking up. Typically when breaking up it's to break off interactions with that person because of something that makes you upset or there just isn't a connection anymore.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 3:19pm
It is probably normal, but unhealthy. If the relationship is on and off its probably not a mutual relationship.
People break up and get back together frequently. What's normal in a relationship? What's normal depends on each person who is in the given relationship. But whether or not it's 'normal' probably depends on the circumstances in which you break up each time. Ask yourself if you think it's normal and if you're okay with it. Sometimes people break up and get together again for the wrong reasons, other times they get back together for the right reasons.
Yes, but it could be a problem if it's happening too often. If it's a mutual breakup, I'd say that it's pretty normal. If it keeps happening where one person is leaving the other and then coming back later on when they want to then that's when it maybe be something toxic. Depending on how you left things with this person each time a break up occurred with them and what the reasons were for there to even be a breakup in the past. Obviously this person see's something in you for them to keep coming back. Just make sure that that this is someone that you really like/love and care about Otherwise you're just wasting your time.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 6:38am
The normality of it depends on why you are breaking up. If you are in a toxic relationship yes this is normal, and I suggest getting out of it. It may also be that either one of you may have commitment or trust issues, and are afraid or scared. If this isn't the case well in my opinion I think it is normal, although maybe talk with your partner about. You might be surprised and learn the reason this is happening.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2017 11:16am
Breakups are a part of a relationship every relationship has a breakup and it's normal that people separate and go there way but if u breakup and go back together and be like that all the time then it's not normal and it's not good bc u hurting yourself so my best advice for u is think about if u really want to be with this person if not then Yall better off Yall way
Anonymous
March 26th, 2017 8:12pm
It is totally normal. We usually have to try, and go through some situations that will most probably make us more experienced, then we will be able to reach our goals or in this case find the perfect match. It needs patience in some cases.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2017 2:51am
There is no normal when in a relationship. I know some people who have broken up many times but are now married and happy with their lives. I also know people who broke up many times to realize that they are hurting each other more than helping.
Relationships are never easy. There will always be bumps and sharp turns on the road towards the future of every relationship, and breakups definitely aren't any easier. Communication plays a big role in the majority of break ups and relationship problems. It's very important to have good channels of communication established with your partner when laying down the foundation of your relationship, that way it will be strong and you will be able to confide in each other when things get rough instead of arguing or breaking up, etc.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2017 6:51am
Based on my experience, it's not because it suggests that you don't get along very well. I remember, when I was still with my great love, we would always fight and break up. No matter how I genuinely love him and no matter how I truly care for him, I left him. You see, breakups hurt both parties - it will hurt both of you, and we wouldn't want that.
I think there is no such thing as normal or not normal at all. Anyhow, it seems like you guys are having some troubles you haven't worked through. You should both sit down and talk about what is it that keeps causing you breaking up and think if you can deal with it. If you both agree to work on the issues you are having, then it's fine! If you realize that one of you can't or is not willing to work for improved relationship, I think it says it all.
The answer depends on your definition of a break up. Sometimes taking a break in a relationship, two or three days can be a healthy thing. A short period of time for one of you to be yourself. If your relationship keeps ending because you can't stop bickering then what is abnormal is getting back together again and again.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2017 2:58pm
After the "honeymoon phase" of the relationship is over, we start to reconsider and re-evaluate our relationship altogether. It is very common to break up multiple times during that stage because of agruments over anything and everything. But, if you feel like you talk less and fight more, maybe it is not normal. Towards the end, all that matters is two people who refuse to leave each other.
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