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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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awesomePower17
June 8th, 2018 12:22am
Yes it is normal but it also depends on of the relationship is healthy. Many people go through phases where they miss their s/o and will want to go back, this is completely normal!
Sanar
June 29th, 2017 10:49pm
There is no "normal" in terms of relationships--there's only what works and doesn't work for each individual and their partner. Highs and lows in relationships are common so it's up to the people in the relationship to decide if breaking up and getting back together multiple times is fostering their relationship or if it is hurting it.
SitaV
June 14th, 2018 9:28am
Normalcy in relationships is hard to define. The best person to answer this question is yourself and friends who you trust. Reflect on your past relationships and try to see what led to each of these breakups. Try to understand your feelings and discuss them with people you feel safe with and trust. The more you talk and reflect the more thing will make sense to you. Good luck.
Misssnowflake01
June 8th, 2017 8:05am
Yeah... Its totally ok. Somtime it happens you love the person and dont them to go but at the same time you cant stay with them.. Sometime compatibiliy matters... More than love
DarkPiT23
November 22nd, 2020 10:05pm
Of course, It is!! A relationship can work after a breakup. Even after multiple breakups! ... Breakups are no walk in the park, I know. But I'll tell you that if you're both willing to do your parts, you can absolutely get back together and make it work differently this time around! Getting back together after a breakup is pretty common, and it can be for any number of reasons. Sometimes it really is because you've both realized that you've made a mistake and you want to get back to what works. Other times, it just sort of… happens. You can Get back with your ex permanently after multiple breakups! If you and your ex haven broken up a multitude of times the good news is that you know for sure that you are capable of winning them back!
Sharon544
April 26th, 2017 12:13am
Of course it is. Sometimes it is hard to forget about the person you spent so much time with and loved so much. In the time after, sometimes both people don't know what to do with themselves, and run back to each other. They have to both find something to do with the new freed up time they used to spend together. Sometimes it is hard to let someone you love or loved go. You have to always be sure you really love the person they are, and not just the memories you used to have with that person....
Yiding
January 30th, 2020 9:47pm
If you mean to breakup and get back together soon afterwards, yes, it's normal for couples to fight like that. It would only become a problem if either person finds someone else during that period. Ultimately, what a breakup means depends on the two of you. If both of you love each other enough, getting back together would be a natural thing to do. The events that led to the breakups are clearly areas of improvement and you should both try to work on them if you intend to keep the relationship. However, if you aren't interested in a relationship anymore, then breaking up and getting back together several times becomes a problem.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2017 1:45pm
Yes it is. I have done that before and now I'm in a happy, loving relationship. It might not have been the most mature thing to do but we were working our problems out and learning from our mistakes that way. It helped us grow.
GemmaL0uise
June 21st, 2018 10:54am
When it comes to relationships, there is no "normal". We're all different, and as such, every relationship is different and that's what makes them special. One thing you can do when finding yourself asking yourself this question is look at it from an outside perspective. What would you think and/or feel about the reasons why you keep breaking up if you heard about it from a friend. But always try to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. Do what makes you happy.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2020 4:41pm
It can be abnormal. A relationship isn't healthy if y'all break up multiple times. Technically, you are pulling yourself in and out of a toxic relationship and the more y'all break up, the more toxic the relationship gets. This has happened with me and a girl in the past. Me and her were in an on and off relationship, and every time we got back together, there was a loss of trust each time we got back together, and the relationship also became more toxic. It eventually got to the point where i felt nothing for that girl and it put me in a bad spot. So, with all of that, breaking up multiple times isn't a normal thing and a very bad thing to do.
Pinkpunk96
January 2nd, 2020 8:10pm
Personally I don’t think that it is normal for couples to break up numerous times. In a healthy relationship the both people must be willing to keep on working in the relationship no matter how hard things can get during their time. This in my opinion is why it is so important to not start the on again off again pattern that can immerse from something like this that starts. But each relationship is different than another and no one can tell your relationship better than you can! Unless things are physically or mentally abusive! Communication in relationships is the key
Anonymous
December 20th, 2019 1:21am
It takes time to find the right person for you or the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so it is normal to breakup multiple times because you are going to be with different people throughout your life. While being with those people you can figure out what you like or don't like in a person, and it can give you an idea or experience of how it is to be in a relationship. Don't worry if this is happening to you a lot, finding your other half takes time and commitment. Good luck!
acaiaboo
July 4th, 2018 4:52pm
There is no "normal" in relationships. One of the biggest mistakes one can do in a relationship is make decisions about whether a relationship is good or not, by comparing to other people's. Everyone is different, and no one else knows the relationship you have with your significant other. Maybe it helps give you the space you need to think clearly and learn to appreciate each other, but it's no one's business to judge. If it works out for you guys, then so be it. As long as you're constantly communicating your needs to each other and everything is fine with that, and you guys know that you love each other, and nothing shady is going on, then you should be good.
ChloeKoala
March 3rd, 2017 10:09pm
What is normal for one couple is different for another. Depending on the reason of the break up it can be healthy to have some time to yourselves before investing in the relationship again. Heartbreak is one of the hardest things anybody can go through and getting back together may seem like the easiest path to take. But if old issues are not resolved they will more than likely keep coming back to haunt you and then cause another break up. Lives change and people change and it is really difficult to know when to move on for good. It can be normal. But it isn't healthy if the relationship breaking up over and over is causing more stress and hate than it is resolving any problems.
Mediocreatbest3
August 23rd, 2018 12:15pm
It is, breakups can happen at anytime, people often change their minds when in a relationship and it sometimes doesn't go as planned but getting through with it is also a tough part but having someone help and guide you through it is a great step, being in a relationship is a great feeling but ending one isn't as great, being in a hard situation like a relationship ending is something people often find as hard, but once you're finally ready to try again can be difficult, you'll need to fully understand if you're ready to try again, but even when that happens you'll still need to be careful with whom your next relationship will be with.
AnimalOfFood
May 21st, 2016 7:31pm
Depends on the relationship and how stable it is. Sometimes couples break up and make up every week.
blissfulembroiderer06
May 20th, 2016 6:00pm
While every relationship is different and needs to be considered on its own, a relationship may not be very healthy if it has gone through several breakups.
WilhemStudley
March 27th, 2016 10:42pm
Yes it is, till you find the person/persons that compelete you in ways that no others can even if they love you with all their heart
truefriend123
May 20th, 2016 2:41pm
No, I thinks a healty relationship are maybe some fight but not always. If you breakup you clearly see the lack of communication and atraction
Square
May 18th, 2016 8:20am
To some people yes. But always comes back to the same reason....when you brake up once...it's for a reason
SoftTree88
May 15th, 2016 4:36am
You might want to ask yourself the reason for so many breakups. A solid, healthy relationship does have rough patches now and then, but a real breakup is usually a sign that something deeper is amiss.
happyHippo88
May 12th, 2016 2:11am
Couples often break their relationship several times during a relationship, but this is usually normal depending on the reason.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 2:52pm
yes it is normal but if it is continue then its hurts,it makes us nervous.........
BookwormGabby
May 5th, 2016 2:53pm
What is "normal" anyway? Relationships are really complicated. Timing is a big part of it and that's something we don't have control over. Sometimes people do change, as well as circumstances, over time. Everyone's different too. So, is it normal? I don't know. But does it happen? It certainly does.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 3:43pm
It is not normal if you are going through difficulties in your relationship it might be time to rethink it and decide what's the correct path for you to follow
auditrice
September 22nd, 2015 7:00pm
Yes. Its definetly normal and it proves that you dont settle for anything less. And break ups help us grow in a most unique way so take it as positively and move on
Dannie2319
January 23rd, 2019 4:07am
Humans are never perfect. We all come with our quirks and characteristics. Finding someone that cares about them and loves them is hard. So sometimes when we leave someone who was part of that side of our life and cared about them we often go back to them. Even though they might love are quirks, sometimes they just aren't our match. So yes it is completely normal to break up with someone multiple times. Sometimes you just want to make sure you didn't make a mistake. However, when you break up with someone it's important to be sure you are completely ok with resonating with the fact they won't be in that aspect of your life anymore.
thaedeus93
April 15th, 2016 2:30pm
don't worry its completely normal,happens with best of us if we're not satisfied with our partner..!
Anonymous
May 29th, 2019 9:13am
It is normal, but I wouldn’t say it’s the most healthy thing to do. Breaking up multiple times can leave a hard toll on you and your relationship, in my opinion it shows that although you want to hang on and you’re most likely in love, there’s something there telling you to let go, and maybe you should listen, breaking up so much is a sign of toxicity and more than enough problems and that's the worst in a relationship. No one wants a toxic relationship, it’s one of the hardest parts of dating when you want to be with someone because of how they make you feel for that split second, and although you know they’re not what you need you keep going because you can’t help but love the fragments of love that they give. It’s okay to let go sometimes.
Evelynna
April 7th, 2016 2:54pm
There is no demarcation between normal and abnormal. Your life is your own. No outsider has ever been in your shoes. Maybe you may meet a person who you think is 'THE one' but then there may be a co-ordination problem and you can always break up. It may be zero breakups or it may be a hundred breakups before you meet someone who is THE one for you , even then you cannot be sure. Life it One day at a Time...