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Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 6:37pm
Sometimes it takes several breakups for us to realize that the person we are breaking up with will never be able to offer us the loving, committed and fulfilling relationship that we are looking for. We often end up entering into a relationship with them over and over again because we hope that this time everything will be better and he/she will be a different person now. While this might sometimes be the case, more often than not we will be left heartbroken over and over again and finally have to realize that things will likely never work out. Sometimes it's better to acknowledge this sooner than later. Because delaying the inevitable will in the end only leave us more heartbroken and cause us a lot of pain that could have been avoided
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 8:46pm
It Shouldn't be because but it's not healthy for the relationship . Breaking up is like a sign of trying to get away
Well with my experience, yes. People get angry and regret things. Maybe your partner was having a bad day, or they were drunk, or stressed out. But its normal :)
Hi there! Yes, that is totally normal! Many people break up multiple times, because they just don't find the relationship that they need or want. They just don't have that connection they are looking for, the connection that really makes them feel truly happy. And that's completely okay. Breaking up multiple times means that you have identified for yourself that this relationship will never work out, and you ended it before you got in a bigger mess. And remember, with every breakup, you've taken one step closer to finding the "love of your life". Keep looking - and never give up! Good luck! :-)
To have something be normal means to conform to a standard. If you have conformed to having a relationship(s) where you break up multiple times then it may feel normal....but something that is normal doesn't necessarily mean it is healthy or okay. You decide what becomes your normal. A healthy relationship is composed of healthy behaviors. If breaking up doesn't make you feel good about yourself or your relationship, but you have gone through it multiple times, it may feel normal to you but it is probably not healthy nor is it something you want to have as "normal." Love yourself and conform to standards that bring positivity into your life and self.
Yes it is. But what you need to really ask yourself is, Do you think it's normal to put yourself through this much amount of stress and heartbreak? If you are the one breaking up with your partner then maybe you should take a step back and analyze your relationship. If you are the one who is getting broken up with then you should start asking if you really deserve this unstable relationship.
There is no such thing as "normal" when it comes to relationships and break ups. Every couple is completely unique and has their own story to tell. Comparing your relationship to others can lead to unrealistic expectations and assumptions. Instead, focus on the reasons why your relationship specifically has experienced multiple breakups.
Although it may occur quite often these days, I believe that breaking up multiple times is a big sign of insecurity between the two of you. You have to push past the fluctuating emotions and decide to either break up for good or stick together faithfully.
I hesitate to use the word "normal" in these circumstances but I believe "Separations" (as oppose to break ups) usually occur because the couple believe that something in the relationship is wrong yet can be fixed. The final break up eventually comes when something irrepairable happens such as one partner falling out of love with another, or an unforgivable act e.g. serial infidelity
Anonymous
April 29th, 2015 11:17pm
Sometimes. There are times where things come up about someone in a relationship that the other may feel they can't deal with, then they realize that it sounds worse than it is.
From my past experience of breaking up multiple times with the same person, i think its not okay, because in my opnion it means that it will never work out, no matter how many times you get back together, you will break up again non stop and you can't continue your life like this. You both have to make a solid decision whether you can stay together in a relationship in ups and downs, or you both go separate ways. Best of lucks 💖
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 3:09am
Yes, it is perfectly normal! Sometimes people need the extra confirmation when they're going through a tough breakup that they don't want to happen. It could be a sign of being unsure.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 10:05am
It depends on your relationship. If you are constantly arguing but love each other, of course it is normal. However, if everything is fine but your partner keeps asking to go on breaks...
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2018 6:18am
Relationships are a celebration of life. There are highs and lows through everything, including emotions and reactions. Breakups can be tough, but a strong relationship can be determined on how you handle adversity. So, I don’t necisarilly think anything is, “normalâ€, I think it’s just a stepping stone to finding a real answer for who you are as a person.
It seems like this can happen often when you love someone, but they hurt you. Normal isn't a word that I use very often though. Because what is "normal" for some people isn't for others.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 10:27pm
Yes it is very normal but it isn't healthy. Each time you break up, the relationship weakens. Try communicating better with your significant other so to avoid always reaching to a break up. See where you can improve and ask them to try to improve as well.
yes very normal it only means that it wasn't meant to be or that it wasn't the right one for us, sooner or later we will have our right person that continues by our side for the longest time to come
Anonymous
April 30th, 2016 3:55pm
I wouldn't say it was normal to keep breaking up with someone multiple times but also depending on reasons for break ups
Many people seek relationships, believing it will solve all their problems. It is completely normal.
I don't believe it is normal. If it did not work out the first time there's a very slim change it will work out the next time. If you've both realized your mistakes, admitted them to each other, and are willing to try again, go for it!
Often yes, because people are constantly changing and you find different things about each other that you do and don't like. One of my best friends started dating a guy when she was 13. After a while they didn't think it was right. So they broke up then got back together again. That happenedabout another ten times, for about four years and there dating again at this point, but it was all because they were finding different things about each other constantly and neither of them liked the change but they still wanted to be together. So it's perfectly normal.
This friend of mine, when I had a multiple breakup times told me this: 'Giving yourself time is just prolonging the end.' In my opinion if it's some monotony so you take a break to recharge your batteries or if you feel like if you keep pushing - it will end for real - you take a break.
But if it doesn't go, but you keep pushing and breaking up - it's just not going.
Good luck !
Sometimes you just need a break from the other person, but frequent breakups can mean it's not right for you or for them, and that its time to move on.
As someone who suffers with Borderline Personality disorder I tend to push and push which can then lead to me saying its over, only then a day or two later wanting him back because I love him. It really is the I hate you, don't leave me disorder.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 3:29am
Yes we go through experiences to find our true selves, our past makes us the person we are today. Breakups are a part of life, sometimes a relationship has ran its course or sometimes it's just not meant to be, either way we live and we learn and whether we realise or not we always take something from the experience xxx
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 10:55am
If you are breaking up multiple times with the same person, start to think about why you are getting back together every time. If it's because you can't let go or you find it hard to move on (general statements) you need to realize it's natural. We have feelings that pass eventually, time will feel like eternity if we are feeling negatively and will be over in an instant when we are feeling positively. Look at how you and the other person in the relationship are feeling during the relationship and after each break up. Talk with each other to determine the next step, if you want to stay together or both try to move on. Love isn't love when you need to keep it under control and can't let it go.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 7:12pm
Totally normal for many people. I amone of them. It actually makes you less worried about useless relationships.
That depends on the reasons why you breakup .
And how was your life with your ex & without him/her .
Normal is a highly subjective term when it comes to relationships,however if you do find yourself in such a predicament where you keep going back and forth,I believe one needs to reevaluate their priorities. Think of what's important,whats less important to you,and what doesn't warrant your emotional attention at all. It's okay to be dissatisfied, we all have masochistic side to us. Just know that inside all you wanna be is loved and to reciprocate that love aptly. Don't give up on finding that balance with someone,Heaven knows we've all kissed many a frogs. :)
It is not normal to break up with the same person several times. It means you have issues with communication or core values and that person may not be right for you.
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