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Is it normal to breakup multiple times?

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Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 7:12pm
Totally normal for many people. I amone of them. It actually makes you less worried about useless relationships.
insightfulTruth93
March 31st, 2016 7:49pm
Normal is a highly subjective term when it comes to relationships,however if you do find yourself in such a predicament where you keep going back and forth,I believe one needs to reevaluate their priorities. Think of what's important,whats less important to you,and what doesn't warrant your emotional attention at all. It's okay to be dissatisfied, we all have masochistic side to us. Just know that inside all you wanna be is loved and to reciprocate that love aptly. Don't give up on finding that balance with someone,Heaven knows we've all kissed many a frogs. :)
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 3:29am
Yes we go through experiences to find our true selves, our past makes us the person we are today. Breakups are a part of life, sometimes a relationship has ran its course or sometimes it's just not meant to be, either way we live and we learn and whether we realise or not we always take something from the experience xxx
melsue84
November 24th, 2017 3:02am
As someone who suffers with Borderline Personality disorder I tend to push and push which can then lead to me saying its over, only then a day or two later wanting him back because I love him. It really is the I hate you, don't leave me disorder.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 4:17pm
No, I don't think it is, since people don't change very often, so they get back together to repeat the same old mistakes.
happyrosestar
September 30th, 2016 5:55am
It is not normal to break up with the same person several times. It means you have issues with communication or core values and that person may not be right for you.
Darkrains
March 18th, 2016 11:02pm
That depends on the reasons why you breakup . And how was your life with your ex & without him/her .
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 10:55am
If you are breaking up multiple times with the same person, start to think about why you are getting back together every time. If it's because you can't let go or you find it hard to move on (general statements) you need to realize it's natural. We have feelings that pass eventually, time will feel like eternity if we are feeling negatively and will be over in an instant when we are feeling positively. Look at how you and the other person in the relationship are feeling during the relationship and after each break up. Talk with each other to determine the next step, if you want to stay together or both try to move on. Love isn't love when you need to keep it under control and can't let it go.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 4:27pm
Yes, this is common of people and everyone has relationship problems, don't worry but dont keep breaking up thinking it will solve the problem.
lexieejolleen
March 19th, 2016 3:32am
In some experiences yes. It just really depends on your very own relationship. Whats it about you two are fighting over just really depends.
latticinio
November 16th, 2017 4:12pm
If you are breaking up with the same person multiple times, no. That sounds very unhealthy for both of you.
ChloeKoala
March 3rd, 2017 10:09pm
What is normal for one couple is different for another. Depending on the reason of the break up it can be healthy to have some time to yourselves before investing in the relationship again. Heartbreak is one of the hardest things anybody can go through and getting back together may seem like the easiest path to take. But if old issues are not resolved they will more than likely keep coming back to haunt you and then cause another break up. Lives change and people change and it is really difficult to know when to move on for good. It can be normal. But it isn't healthy if the relationship breaking up over and over is causing more stress and hate than it is resolving any problems.
acaiaboo
July 4th, 2018 4:52pm
There is no "normal" in relationships. One of the biggest mistakes one can do in a relationship is make decisions about whether a relationship is good or not, by comparing to other people's. Everyone is different, and no one else knows the relationship you have with your significant other. Maybe it helps give you the space you need to think clearly and learn to appreciate each other, but it's no one's business to judge. If it works out for you guys, then so be it. As long as you're constantly communicating your needs to each other and everything is fine with that, and you guys know that you love each other, and nothing shady is going on, then you should be good.
Briyonalove
April 7th, 2018 5:02am
Yes. It is very common it may be upsetting to keep dealing with things like that , but its very common. But tell me about it.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2019 1:21am
It takes time to find the right person for you or the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so it is normal to breakup multiple times because you are going to be with different people throughout your life. While being with those people you can figure out what you like or don't like in a person, and it can give you an idea or experience of how it is to be in a relationship. Don't worry if this is happening to you a lot, finding your other half takes time and commitment. Good luck!
Pinkpunk96
January 2nd, 2020 8:10pm
Personally I don’t think that it is normal for couples to break up numerous times. In a healthy relationship the both people must be willing to keep on working in the relationship no matter how hard things can get during their time. This in my opinion is why it is so important to not start the on again off again pattern that can immerse from something like this that starts. But each relationship is different than another and no one can tell your relationship better than you can! Unless things are physically or mentally abusive! Communication in relationships is the key
Anonymous
January 9th, 2020 4:41pm
It can be abnormal. A relationship isn't healthy if y'all break up multiple times. Technically, you are pulling yourself in and out of a toxic relationship and the more y'all break up, the more toxic the relationship gets. This has happened with me and a girl in the past. Me and her were in an on and off relationship, and every time we got back together, there was a loss of trust each time we got back together, and the relationship also became more toxic. It eventually got to the point where i felt nothing for that girl and it put me in a bad spot. So, with all of that, breaking up multiple times isn't a normal thing and a very bad thing to do.
GemmaL0uise
June 21st, 2018 10:54am
When it comes to relationships, there is no "normal". We're all different, and as such, every relationship is different and that's what makes them special. One thing you can do when finding yourself asking yourself this question is look at it from an outside perspective. What would you think and/or feel about the reasons why you keep breaking up if you heard about it from a friend. But always try to put yourself and your emotional well-being first. Do what makes you happy.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2017 1:45pm
Yes it is. I have done that before and now I'm in a happy, loving relationship. It might not have been the most mature thing to do but we were working our problems out and learning from our mistakes that way. It helped us grow.
Yiding
January 30th, 2020 9:47pm
If you mean to breakup and get back together soon afterwards, yes, it's normal for couples to fight like that. It would only become a problem if either person finds someone else during that period. Ultimately, what a breakup means depends on the two of you. If both of you love each other enough, getting back together would be a natural thing to do. The events that led to the breakups are clearly areas of improvement and you should both try to work on them if you intend to keep the relationship. However, if you aren't interested in a relationship anymore, then breaking up and getting back together several times becomes a problem.
Sharon544
April 26th, 2017 12:13am
Of course it is. Sometimes it is hard to forget about the person you spent so much time with and loved so much. In the time after, sometimes both people don't know what to do with themselves, and run back to each other. They have to both find something to do with the new freed up time they used to spend together. Sometimes it is hard to let someone you love or loved go. You have to always be sure you really love the person they are, and not just the memories you used to have with that person....
DarkPiT23
November 22nd, 2020 10:05pm
Of course, It is!! A relationship can work after a breakup. Even after multiple breakups! ... Breakups are no walk in the park, I know. But I'll tell you that if you're both willing to do your parts, you can absolutely get back together and make it work differently this time around! Getting back together after a breakup is pretty common, and it can be for any number of reasons. Sometimes it really is because you've both realized that you've made a mistake and you want to get back to what works. Other times, it just sort of… happens. You can Get back with your ex permanently after multiple breakups! If you and your ex haven broken up a multitude of times the good news is that you know for sure that you are capable of winning them back!
Misssnowflake01
June 8th, 2017 8:05am
Yeah... Its totally ok. Somtime it happens you love the person and dont them to go but at the same time you cant stay with them.. Sometime compatibiliy matters... More than love
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 6:24pm
Yes, of course! Sometimes, a person messes up and you feel like you can't be with them anymore, but that time away makes you realize that you do love them even if they did mess up.
ruedabega13
April 19th, 2018 7:43pm
It varies from relationship to relationship. I will say that on and off relationships can be evidence for some deeper rooted problems that you'll have to work to fix
bouncyBraid80
April 4th, 2018 4:15am
It's only normal if you accept it as normal. Conflict is inevitable; however, the outcomes shouldn't solely be ignoring issues or breaking up. Once you've established better boundaries, better honesty, and open communication, you'll be changing your standards. Establishing boundaries means clearly communicating your yeses and your nos. If your nos are frequently challenged or violated by someone, it's more beneficial to make that break up a permanent thing. Yes, people can change. It's up to you to discern if giving things another shot is going to be worthwhile for you and your partner. But there's the rub: your self-love and self-preservation are more important than holding on to a situation that does more harm than good.
MintedTea
May 24th, 2018 2:36pm
That is completely normal. Lots of relationships have instances where you are still sitting on the fence because you care so much about them, yet you also think that you don't work well together. This may cause for a couple to breakup multiple times. It's important to get out of this loop by sitting down with your partner and deciding once and for all whether to stay apart or stay together. But, if you both are having doubts about your relationship, it's probably the best thing to stay apart. When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to be 100% sure that you want to be with them.
impartialBlueberry8015
May 14th, 2018 9:23pm
It’s normal , but at the same time. It’s not healthy - sometimes you have a genuine connection with someone and breaking up with them can make you realize just how much you love them. But if our break up every other week or month, that’s not a good relationship to be in. If you break after several months then there may an issue with communication and until the both of them change the relationship won’t.
starlitestarbrite
May 13th, 2018 5:10am
yes definitely! rships are never easy.. & sometimes we all want to give it another shot.. but at the end of day love should not be conditional nor restrictive..
Anonymous
March 8th, 2020 5:55pm
I don't think that's healthy. Maybe you should consider stay away from a unhealthy relationship like that one. I've been through that and, when I finally could let it go, I realized that, when we love someone, it's not normal to even consider breaking up, not even once... When you love someone, you only want his/her best. Trying to stay with someone when all you can think is breaking up it's not healthy, it's bad and can really damage you self esteem, your self love and can make you feel not wanted. So no, it's not normal. Is toxic and unhealthy.