I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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Love is an extremely strong feeling. I don't believe there's a right answer to your question. Only you know your love story. Let your heart heal and try to focus on yourself.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 11:16am
Yes. It is possible to still have feelings for someone in your past. It can take time and courage to get over them feelings. It is not wrong that you still have feelings for them.
It's perfectly normal to still be in love with an ex, you've connected emotionally and physically to this person, and when a relationship ends it's a human reaction to still love him/her.
Sometimes it takes awhile to separate yourself from an ex. Abruptly moving on from someone who has been a large part of your life is difficult. Still having love for that person is not, in any way abnormal to the process on moving on.
Yes, because you was in love, but once reality kicks in and you're ready to date again then maybe the feelings will change.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 3:22pm
This is very normal. Love is love and you can't control it. Maybe if you find someone else then you will get over your ex.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 12:17am
of course it's human nature it's okay because you'll get over them soon and it'll be okay! ;)!!!!!!!
Ex's can either be the most heartbreaking people in our lives, or the most annoying people in our lives. For me, my ex was both. During my relationship with him, I never had to stress, because before he was my boyfriend, he was my best friend. There are some moments I shared with him that made me the happiest girl in the world, and I thought I loved him. Even to this day, I think about him at least twice a day. Good memories can't be gotten rid of so easily I guess. I constantly asked myself if thinking about him was still the right thing to do. He had probably moved by now, it's been a whole year. But seeing his name on everything that I ever owned was not making it any easier to forget him.
It is completely natural to feel such things. Sometimes when coming out of a relationship with someone you feel half; not whole. This is okay. Always remember that time heals all scars and bruising.
Yes this is totally normal. If you still love him/her tell them and if they dont feel the same way give it time
It's perfectly normal to still be in love with your ex, feelings aren't going to go away in a heartbeat, but that's okay - it takes time.
Everyone feels this way. Even if you recently broke up, its hard to get over it but it takes time to.
Your feelings are understandable and totally valid, there is no reason why you should be questioning yourself. Love is difficult to come by and difficult to get over. It is a process that happens gradually and there will be one day when you wake up and realize you are over it. Give it time and be patient with yourself.
you shouldnt feel this way because there is a reason she is youre ex. If you love her still then so be it, but you should love yourself more to realize she is not worth your time.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 9:09am
Love is a powerful feeling and it is perfectly fine to still have love for your ex because they were a part of your life.
Yes its completely normal. I have been with my ex for 6 yrs as common law we beoke up because we didnt talk much anymore he was too busy for me but yes its normal and natural for you to feel that way. I still love my ex he was a great guy :)
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 1:16pm
It is perfectly normal to still love your ex. They were an important part of your life, but remember that they are an ex for a reason. It can take a long time to get over someone that you felt such strong feelings for in the past, but you must remember to love and value yourself enough to let go, especially if holding on is causing you any hurt or trouble.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 6:48pm
It's perfectly natural to still feel love like this for an ex, time is definitely a great healer and although you may never fully stop loving this person you will be able to move on and love someone else.
It is a difficult time when relationships come to an end. Especially when you really love and care for someone. Nobody can determine how another person should think or feel. Not even yourself. No one can place a time limit on how long you will carry feelings for a past relationship. The best thing one can do is attempt to move forward and try to seek counseling if the feelings become overwhelming. You can also seek the advice of friends and family to help you through a difficult period. Perhaps even involving yourself in activities or hobbies you enjoy will help you cope and redirect your thoughts and energies elsewhere. Just know that you can go on and can move forward.
There is nothing wrong with carrying feelings for someone you are no longer with. However, that person is an ex for a reason.ðŸ˜
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 3:52pm
Its quite normal to feel this way. You were in a relationship with this person, maybe talked a lot, hung out, built trust, met each others friends and family. And now they're not in your life and you have a lot of changes to make. It will take time to get over him/her, love is a powerful emotion. Its important to do what makes you happy and healthy while remaining positive for the future. What you're feeling right now won't be forever, just hang in there!
Left over feelings are understandable, the best way to get over them are to remember why you both split, or to distract yourself with something else.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 5:29pm
Anyone who has recently broke up with their ex will still feel attracted to them, and it is normal to do so. However, the best possibilities is to try and distract yourself by he/she so you can work on other things. Don't worry if you keep on going, you will find someone even better than your ex!
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:31pm
Of course.You remember about the nice moments together.About what it was like in the beginning.Feelings take time to heal.But remember:you will forget the eyes that you don't see.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2015 2:04pm
Should you feel that way? You know, its not something you can control. But maybe learning how to let go may help.
It's not abnormal to still have feelings for an Ex. Remember before things went wrong they were a valuable part of your life. They were a constant. Someone or something Like that being abruptly taken out of your life can be a little Jarring.
Do you think you should feel this way? I mean do you think she is the one that steel makes you happy? Im here to help you
Anonymous
August 7th, 2015 11:12pm
It's totally normal to still have feelings for your ex, it's totally normal for you to still love your ex
It's natural to still love someone that you were in a relationship with. The love will always remain but the way a person looks at it changes
It's normal to still have feelings for someone you're no longer with. There's no right or wrong here. If you choose to act on these feelings however, it's always good to consider their feelings as well, dependent on the situation.
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