I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 11:25am
It's completely normal to still have feelings for somebody after the end of a relationship. They don't disappear just like that. It takes some time and it can be a painful process, but in the end, you will have learned a lot about yourself and you will have grown as a person.
It's normal to feel that way after a break up, especially if the two of you had been together for awhile. The two of you went through a lot together, so it is typical to still feel something for them after a break up.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 4:47pm
Well when we love someone and had a longest relation time, it's normal have feelings for this person yet, but I guess you should forget him and move on, unless you and he still love each other and want the same thing. If not, then move on and be happy :)
there is no right and wrong when it comes to love. it depends on the situaion the feeling may fade in time
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 12:08am
It is perfectly okay to still have feelings for someone that has been a part of your life in this way! It is normal to still have an attachment as long as its healthy.
I think its okay if you still feel this way. You dated them because you love them. It will take time to fully heal and finally say "I don't love him/her anymore" with confidence xD The healing process is faster if you have someone to vent to like a friend, relative etc. There's no need to rush take all the time you need :)
Try to ask yourself first does your ex still loves you? it's only normal to feel that way I also experience that but it will only make it worst because you expect that your ex will love you back, just don't assume too much about it if both of you are meant to be? God will find a way...
You may feel like you love your ex but what you more than likely love is what he is or was. People usually confuse the two and sometimes it's also the reason people end up in a relationship with someone.
There is nothing wrong with the feeling of loving someone who is your ex now. What's wrong is to stick with their memories and not letting go of their presence from your life. What's gone is gone and you can never bring it back. Try and learn to let go off past. People come and go nobody stays forever except for the feelings you have for them. It's absolutely alright to feel love or compassion for them, they were once a part of your life :)
It isn't unnatural to feel this way. We are only human.
If you feel that you have invested a lot of time, energy, and effort into a relationship, you may find yourself in love with them even after the breakup.
Maybe you could take some time and figure out what you wish to do about these feelings: overlook them and try to move on or try to give that relationship another shot.
There is no specific way you should feel. Just because someone becomes an ex, that doesn't mean the love you had for them goes away. Love doesn't work like that. However in due time, you will be able to move on and love others.
You have to ask yourself why did the relationship end? If it was initiated by you then there will be compromises you will have to make. Can You?
If it was by your ex, then is it worth getting hurt again?
He is your ex for a reason. what i mean to say is that you guys broke up for a reason, get over him and get back on your feet.
Its natural to feel that way. Normally in those situations I find its healthiest to stay away from your ex until youre ready to further dissect your relationship and see the faults in it. Why it didn't work out. Take some time away to clear your head and be able to see things from a different perspective.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:37am
It is quite natural, but after sometime it has to go away or it will get in the way of your life. You have to stop thinking about that person and move on.
Depends on what he/she did to you if you just "broke" up that's its normal to have feelings for him/her. If he cheated, hurt you physically or emotionly than its hard to say because if and when you love someone and they hurt you many times or break up with u many times of course your going to want Him/her back because they were your bf/gf. Message me for more support of needed
It's something that will either go away with time or will stay with you always. The memories and feelings will remain there if the relationship was great, especially if it ended because of circumstances not related to the relationship, such as one having to move far away. The best thing to do is focus on your life now and carry on, using distractions and maintaining the relationships you have now. There's nothing wrong with still having feelings for an ex, but don't dwell on the thoughts and continue with life. Everything unfolds one way or another.
Your ex is ex your for a reason, it doesn't just happen. You shouldn't feel that way it takes time to stop loving someone.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 9:09pm
It is normal to still love an ex because when you were together, you shared many memorable times together. Usually people like to remember the good and fun times in a relationship and sometimes that love doesn't go away.
It's perfectly fine to still love someone after the relationship has ended. You're not going to be able to immediately stop feeling love for them if you truly did care. However, if they treated you bad, you owe it to yourself not to go back to them. It's okay to still care for them, but don't put yourself back in a bad or harmful situation.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 6:20am
Its okay to feel this way because youve spent times with him be it through sad, happy, or plain times but there is nothing much for you to do but be happy with what you have right now and learn to grow individually.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 7:27am
Yes, it takes a while to let go of someone you cared about deeply. You'll think about them and you will still care and love them for quite some time, but after a while those feelings will fade.
It's normal to still love someone even after a break up. It's not wrong at all. It's not every person that get's over a person just like that.
Yes. It is normal to still be in love with your ex. Base on the time you spend together or the things that tie you and the person; maybe anniversary or weekly activities you both did in the past. You will not easily let go off these feelings unless you have found different activities to do that a new. Change your surrounding and clear the things that remind you of the person.
Feeling love for an ex is completely normal! You have memories that you will always share wit this person and caring for them, even after a break up is not only normal, but expected. If you were in a healthy relationship that came to end, it is sometimes hard to let go of those feelings of love you had for one another, but trying accept them, and allowing your memories of the relationship to help you move forward will always open your eyes to greater things that are just around the corner.
It is natural to still love someone after breaking up with them. You're used to the routine of spending all your time with them and getting their attention. It will take time to get into a different routine without involving them in it! You will move on in your own time, you won't just wake up one day and magically be over them.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 2:13am
I think this feeling is normal. Love is not a switch that can be turned on and off. It takes time to build up and will take time to be let go. Time does heal, and I think with a situation like this you need to give yourself time to heal and accept how you feel.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 2:47pm
It is natural to still love someone that you had a long and withstanding relationship with, so it isnt wrong to feel that way.
Sometimes it is good to recall people's face. You'll get over it
Dont worry.alright, dont think too much
Anonymous
July 19th, 2015 4:10am
If you didnt love your ex, then what your ex meant to you wasnt as strong as you once thought, Your ex was the one who was there for you and all the good things you saw in them isnt just going to disappear after you break up, itll take time and you might still always have that little part that will love him
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