I still love my ex. Should I feel this way?
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It's okay. Love is a thing you can't control. But don't let get in love to heavy, you can regret that later.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 6:50pm
It's nice to keep them for something to look back on. If you don't know where you've been then you don't know where your going. Having said that if you find yourself holding onto them then its best to put them somewhere you can't daily access or delete them. It makes moving on easier and its healthier for you.
You feelings are valid and that shouldn't be the question. The question should be why you still have feelings for this person. It could be that not enough time has passed for old feelings to be forgotten and that's expected, but if enough time has passed you should remind yourself that they are an ex and try to focus on the incompatibilities that led to the demise of this relationships. Often times we romanticize relationships and people after they are over so remember that and try to look forward in life and not backward. Seek help from a counselor if this doesn't work and try to keep reminding yourself of all the things that were unacceptable to you in the relationship.
Loving your past is never a bad thing, nor is hating it. It allows you to move forward, and if the feelings stay; and you know them to be true, and perhaps with enough growth you can combat the issues you had before and maybe one day get back together.
Its perfectly normal for you to feel this way. If you were really close to this ex or in a long term relationship with your ex its normal to have lingering feelings for them. Over time they may fade but of course there are no guarantees
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 1:03am
Well..its natural..you can't erase love just like that..but..it will hurt you in future so try to move on.
Yes, its not bad anyway. Your ex is part of your past. But please remember, you also need to prepare for your future. Keep walking forward, remember your ex have helped you in the past. No matter your ex will back to you or not you must keep moving. I hope you will meet your future partner of life. cheers
Many times feelings remain after going through a breakup, with both the person doing the breaking up with and the person being broken up with. These feelings are a completely normal part of the process of ending a relationship. If you want to talk to someone about working through this issues, join a group chat or connect with a trained listener for a 1-on-1 session.
Definitely normal to still have feelings for an ex, especially if it's hot off a relationship. If you keep these feelings for a long time or they start to affect your life in a negative way, try to look at what you can do to find closure and move on.
He/she is your ex which means there will be some sort of attachments felt, it will take time depending on how long you guys have been together and how attached you guys were.
yes you can... love is a feeling that is so extreme to be forgot. You may feel this way. you have to control your feelings.
Yes, it's absolutely normal. You don't have to freak out. A lot of us still love and remember our ex even after the relation ends. But that just shows how real it was, and helps you to reconcile. It lets you remind yourself that what you had was very real, and there's no way to deny it. So you can consider it as a learning experience. Just think of it as- Everything good has to end.
It takes time to get over someone you used to love. Give it some time & talk with a trusted friend about it
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 7:37pm
Of course you should feel like this. Sometimes it takes long to forget somebody you loved but try to think of something else and do things, that makes you forget about him/her.
Yes, completely normal. every always have somewhat of a little connection to their pass relationship. completely normal. don't stress
It perfectly normal to feel that way. Sometimes it takes time to stop loving your ex and to get over that relationship you had
Sometimes, people do feel this way. It's perfectly okay to still be in love, however, maybe you should think about why the breakup ended in the first place. If either of you weren't happy, it will not work out - as relationships are double sided. If this was the case, give as much time as you need to grieve, but be sure to move on when given the chance.
I think you are feeling somwehat guilty because you have feelings for someone who isnt even there, but its nothing out of the ordinary. We mostly still have feelings for that other person because we felt special with them, and we think that we will never have anything better.
Its a matter of perception but also a matter of how you feel about yourself. Ask yourself, was the relationship really that perfect? Why did it broke in the first place? Do you really want to get over them? If no, why not and is it worth the pain? Are you idealising past ?
I don´t know if this will help you in any way, but if you want to talk I am here for you .
it is normal to still have feelings for an ex because maybe you're still attached to him and used to hem but since he's your ex you should try to move on even if it's very hard cause this feeling will onlt torture you
There is no right or wrong way to feel. You probably feel you still love your ex just based upon all the great, fun and shared moments you spent with each other. So, it is perfectly normal to still love them.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:44pm
Well you shouldn't feel or not feel this way it just depends on you. If there are still some unresolved things in the relationship that could be part of your problem. Talk to them and sort things out
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 7:30pm
No, you shouldn't. You have to fine new love. Open new door of happiness and closed the previous one.
There is nothing wrong with that. However, it probably is something that you should try to change for your own good. Holding on to a lost cause can be very harmful.
It's perfectly normal to still have feelings for your ex! Whether you want to act on those feelings is up to you. If you think that getting back together with your ex could result in a healthy, happy relationship, go for it!
There is no right or wrong way to feel. We cannot control our emotions. How would you like to feel about this?
Yes it is normal, there is a chance you and your ex will get back together. Never give up hope, because you never know.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 4:59pm
Yes some people feel this way. If you still love him and he like you still you should ask him out.its up to you.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:02am
It depends on you, if you don't have anyone in your life and you love your ex. So, you need talk to them and find the solution.
It's normal. You put so much time and love into this person, and in the end, it feels wasted. It takes time to get over them, and soon enough you will notice the love for them to start to disappear.
It all depends on your own situation. If you weren't expecting a breakup, and you were perfectly happy with the relationship and had no intentions for it to end - then it's perfectly normal for you to still love them. Sometimes things don't work out due to the circumstances and not the person, sometimes it's a matter of situations that can't be dealt with. As I see it, even if you've broken up with someone, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have emotionally severed the bond you had with someone.
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