I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?
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Anonymous
May 5th, 2017 2:20pm
Take some time alone everyday and think about how he truly has made you feel. If he's harmed you in any way please seek help, contact the police if needed.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2017 12:24pm
There has to be a reason you decided to break up with him. Even if you love him, the reason you did it should motivate you to find someone without that same problem or issue. And eventually, if you really want to, You can move on.
There was obviously a reason why you broke up with him. It's easy to get a skewed vision of the past when there are things from the past that you miss. Case in point, your continued love for your boyfriend. You simply must ask yourself "Why did I break up with him?" If it is a valid reason, then follow your primary instinct and stay away from him. If it is an invalid reason, you may consider rekindling the relationship.
Staying with someone isn't about always sharing love - it's about building a relationship that helps you both become the person you want to be. You don't need to hate someone to realize that being with them isn't good for you, or isn't letting you grow in ways that are right for you.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2017 9:21am
Life is full of ups and downs. You will have lots of opportunities. Have confidence. Concentrate on your passions
Anonymous
June 16th, 2017 4:47pm
It it possible that you can move on with your life without having to associate anger and resentment.?It may bring you more peace and understanding.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2017 10:13pm
It is really tough to break-up with the person you are still in love with. But it is really important for you to understand why you had to breakup in the first place. Acceptance is the key to let go and move on. There are lot of wonderful experiences to look forward to in life. Treat this as a joyous memory instead of a sad one.
Much love.
Sometimes good things come to an end. Don't blame yourself, try and look past any negative, be happy about the relationship you had and learn from it for the next one that you encounter.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2017 2:50am
If you really love someone, why end it? Maybe you should try things out with him again, see if it works.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2017 7:48am
Recognize the reasons you thought it was best to split up, and see that it was for the best. Relationships don't always work, even if their are feelings. Recognize how each of you grew throughout the relationship, and how you learned from eachother.
You don't have to hate someone for it not to be right. If you have to end its, there's good reason, and moving on is best for both of you so you can find somewhere where you don't unintentionally hold the other back.
Time you need time and distance, you need to distract your feelings for him so need some space between you for a while before you even start to think about becoming friends
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 11:20am
I don't think you're required to hate this person. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't fully understand how you necessarily have to hate anyone. You can still be in love with him. If it's your parents who have a problem with him, you might want to try to figure out why that is.
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2017 11:43pm
Just because we break up with someone doesn't mean that we have to hate them. When we are in relationships we share our lives with the other person and sometimes things end. This doesn't mean that we become enemies or that we hate the other person. Remember the reason that you decided to end the relationship and think forward
Well if you two broke up even though you still love each other, I assume it was because of outside circumstances you couldn't control? If I knew more about the situation I could give more detailed advice, but I can give some general advice on moving on. I would say try occupying yourself with other hobbies, spend time with your friends, and focus on your obligations like work, school etc. And of course self-care is important too. If you find yourself thinking about him and missing him I wouldn't try repressing those thoughts, just try and let it pass because repressing feelings usually make them stronger and it's a lot of unnecessary stress. Anyway I hope things go well for you.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2017 9:26am
Realize that happened for the best.. You know yourself and your relation with him better and if you think it was the right thing to do then know that you just have to walk away from him no matter what.. However, If you both love each other then maybe you should just go get him and deal with the mess later.. Life is too short to play games and besides, If you look for the reasons not to be with somebody, you are always gonna end up finding them
You don't need a hurting reason for you to get over someone. You just need to realize that there is some people that come into our life to show us a lesson, to be a chapter in our life, but they can't come here we are going to. There's a huge difference between getting over someone and forgetting about them, only the first one is necessary.
You don't have to hate a person for you to move on. Acknowledging the fact that you two's paths had crossed, and the journey between you two had ended. Accept that you still love him and he reciprocates. But now is not a good time anymore. Bless him with his future. And cut out all contacts with him for the upcoming months.
Continue to tell yourself that there was a reason you had to walk away and that you deserve better, even if the love is still mutual. But not all relationships are meant to last.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 10:56pm
Try and get distracted? Because distractions can help us forget about our ex boyfriends sometimes.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 9:45am
By giving myself time to grief. Accepting the pain. And focus myself in family my work and my friends.
I can find the ans in your question as you say, if you don't have any reason to hate him except to love him why don't you be with him instead of going away. You will have to be with someone you love instead of going away.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 12:41am
First of all. Why do you even want to move on when you love him and he loves you? Try to work things out.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 9:43am
We will always love those people and I know it is hard to have reasons to hate them just because we want to move on. But you have reasons and those reasons are yours, you move on through time. Heal yourself and tell yourself that you had to do it for something that must be important for you to breakup with him. You don't need to hate a person in order to move on, you just have to realize that there are things in this world that we cannot achieve.
engaged in something you will enjoy. Keep yourself engrossed in work. There are many more wonderful things in this world, explore them
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 6:13pm
It is all going to be okay. You are beautiful the way you are and I know you will find someone better than him who can take care of you and love you with all his heart. Life moves ahead so you should ahead with it rather than being stuck. You might have other good things waiting for you.
It will be hard but think about all the opportunities ahead of you. Your life is full of choices you get to make! Instead of dwelling on not having this guy think of all the things you can do now that you couldn’t do before because you were with him.
Focus on yourself, clear your mind and take the time needed to heal... if it is mend to be things will work out in the end
The same as you would with any other relationship. You don't need to hate somebody for you to be able to move on. Keep yourself occupied away from thoughts of them, keep super duper busy as much as you can. Break-ups are different for everybody and everyone has different tactics of coping with it. I hope you'll be alright
That really is a tough situation to go through and learning to hate someone isn't always the answer. With all of my break ups, I look for lessons to be learned and remind myself that better will come for me. I personally believe everything happens for a reason. Over time, the pain will get less painful. Above all, be patient with yourself and do all you can to relax and focus on yourself. :)
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