I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

Sometimes there are good reasons for moving on, without either of you being "in the wrong". What's so bad about valuing the person for their benefits and the good times you shared, without demonizing them?

You don't need to find a reason to hate said person in order to move on from them. Breaking up with someone you still love is one of the most difficult things you can do. You just need to keep reminding yourself of why you broke up. Find new hobbies, spend less time with them, slowly start to move on.

There are so many people that you need to find another person, perhaps ten people similar to him. If the love is not mutual, keep meeting new people. Keep meeting new people.

Oh man, that's a good question. Even if the romantic relationship didn't work out, you can still be good friends and maybe later down the road it may resolve itself.

First of all, I wouldn't suggest that you try to hate him. Hate is unhealthy and causes issues in and of themselves. Remind yourself of the reasoning as to why the breakup had to happen and how it will benefit you both, assuming that it will.

Don't hate. Let hate go. Let time take you away.

you'll have to remember why you broke up with him in the first place. surely there must be a reason as to why you guys broke up (even though the love was mutual). you don't need to "hate" him to move on. you just need to stop having any sort of strong feelings (love/hate) for him. in time you'll be able to stop thinking about him and that's when you'll finally move on :) it takes time.

There must have been a reason you broke up with him. Focus on that, and remember him as that. That might help you get over him.

Don't? When I hear "had to" I hear a bad reason. If it's a temporary thing, call a cease-fire. Let your love go dormant till that temporary thing passes, then get back together again and keep going.

It not easy, it never is. But perhaps you can take this time to focus on achieving a goal of yours or starting a new hobby.

You can’t time will let you heal don’t think about him too much as it might make it harder for you to move on

Remind yourself of the reasons you left. It doesn’t matter if you hate someone. Maybe things weren’t right circumstantially. It’s your decision.

Its real hard but you sometimes got to do what you have to, I really hope you guys work things out it would be great if you did.

It is very hard to move on. For me, it helps to talk to someone about what i am feeling and spend more time with my friends. Friends are truly the best medicine.

If you had to broke up with him, maybe he isn't the one, you know? :) So.. move on and be positive. You'll find your true love if you get through the passenger loves.

This is hard, but the best thing to do here is to remember the reasons why you broke up. Maybe you just weren't compatible and despite this, it's better for you both. Surround yourself with supportive people.

I know what you are feeling right now. Leaving someone that you love is very difficult and sometimes harmful but you had your reasons and that is great. It is great to end something that you know it is not going to work out the way you would like to. I am really proud of your decision. I am sure that you are going to find someone that loves you more than your ex boyfriend does.

Moving on from someone doesn't necessarily mean you hate them. You can care about someone but come to accept that the two of you are not compatible and don't work together. I think once you love someone it's very rare to just not love them anymore, or unlove them, unless they've done something really grave. If you hate someone, you have not moved on from them, you are still stuck having passionate feelings towards them; the line between love and hate is very fine. So I think you've got to come to terms with the things that drove you apart, be it the difference of values, ways of living, compatibility or anything else. Sit with yourself and accept that you care about this person but you want the best for them and for yourself, and this best cannot be achieved while the two of you are still together. Accept your pain and your love and make peace with yourself and your decision.

You have to let yourself decide if you can find someone else but if you can't or want a bit of a break then you can always talk to me about it.

It is hard to let go of someone when you are both in love. I believe that time is the best solution here. Just take it one day at a time. It will get easier with time. Keep yourself busy. Focus on the other important things in your life. Hope I was of some help.

Well if you feel like you had no choice but to break up with him, then you probably didn't love him as much as you think you did? Or something was wrong in the relationship and you must have partly disliked him or a part of him. It's similar to hatred if you process it that way. Moving on shouldn't be a problem if you were the one who was so confident about ending it, and you shouldn't have to worry about hating him since there is a part of you that already did if you feel like you "had to". Don't try and put the hatred on him, it was all your idea, not his. Acceptance is the only key to moving on.. even if it means accepting the blame

There had to be a reason why you broke up with him. Even individuals in love are not always suited for each other and a long term relationship. As far as the moving on...you must remember that when all is said and done....you and you alone are responsible for how your life will be and the amount of happiness it will contain. If the reason you broke up with him is something you feel cannot be fixed..then you need to move on and remember the best parts of being with him, and hate to me is off the table. But you cannot go back and forth..the break my be final...no looking back or second thoughts.

You do not have to hate someone to move on, it takes time. The main thing is to be content in your current situation, find yourself in the life without him, and realise that it is not so bad.

If you had to, then you know your own reasons and be proud that you were courageous enough to make the decision. Not everyone will leave their comfort zone. But you have to be realistic with your expectations. It will take a whIle until you will be completely moved on because our brains have a way of getting used to what's familiar. You will move on when you will be ready. And be glad that you didn't reach the point of the relationship when you hated him. That means that you had enough self-esteem to let go before things got too bad. You know what you deserve and you are not afraid to go after it. Keep in mind the reasons that made you take the decision and be happy with yourself that you still have a kind attitude towards him, that you can appreciate what was good but you have your own journey to take.

Everything happens for good. If we have to let go anyone then definitely there's a good reason ahead of it.

you think of the reasons you had to, hating is bad, love is good, think of what good its done, and if you can,t try distracting you self or talk about it to someone

Think about yourself! You broke up with him for a reason! Figure that out and go from there. Maybe there is someone or something better coming into your life!

If you really believe in this love you should fight for it. It will make you feel personally better. Trust me all things undone left behind ache. But living it in the Maximum is the secret meaning of life

You can remain friends with them if you still love them because friends love each other too. You can slowly find a reason to be, without them.

Let's think about what happened in the relationship that went wrong. If you had to break up with him, what can you learn from this relationship that will help you avoid these issues the next time you encounter a similar situation like this with another person?