I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

I hear you and can relate when you said, "I had to!" Recently, I broke up with my long-time best friend due to an inevitable reason. It was me who proposed the idea of breaking up, and we both parted ways amicably. There were no hard feelings or hatred, but I had to end it. Sometimes, we have to take certain decisions in life that we wouldn't have taken if circumstances were different, and I feel that it is completely okay. Just because we parted ways with someone doesn't mean we have to hate that person or forcibly find a reason to hate them to move ahead in life. As the broke up took place at a point where you both were in love, hating each other may not be possible for any of you. You can be in love with someone and still stay away from them. Moving on may feel like walking on burning coal now, but it will get better as time passes. Reminding yourself that every human being goes through pain might motivate you to look ahead in life. It is okay if you're struggling with it now as moving on after a breakup isn't an overnight process. Take some time off from work, studies and indulge in self-care activities. We tend to overthink and forget ourselves after a heartbreak. Therefore, shifting your focus from "What went wrong?" to "How can I better care for myself?" will help you keep yourself sane. Wishing you the best! ❤

Moving on is definitely a difficult thing to do, especially from someone you still feel you love. But moving on isn't about hating someone, it's about improving yourself. You have to choose to do what makes you happy, and what will be better for you in the long term. Focus on yourself and maybe find a new hobby or interesting show or book. Over time, it will get easier and easier and you will realize that the choice you made was right for you. Love isn't the only thing needed to keep a relationship going. Keep working on you!

here is a reason that you have broken up, hate is a strong emotion and letting someone go is not a reason to hate them. it sounds as if you are setting both of you free for a reason that doesn't seem clear now, but perhaps will do later. You move forward by becoming fully you, by taking a step back and assessing who you are without the other person. Where are you going? What/who do you want to be? It's time to work on yourself now. Deep breath in and out - it's time to focus on you.

I found that the best way to let go of my past was to look toward my future. To look, not with fear or anxiety, but with clarity and insight. I focus on what I want to accomplish and find the healthiest path that will lead me there. Letting go of the past is not forgetting. We can’t learn from the mistakes of yesterday if we forget. Let the past go, embrace the present, and all of its imperfections because that is how we can achieve moving forward. We live it, learn from it, snd then let go of it. Only keeping with us what we need for our journey to a better tomorrow. That is a path worth taking.

It is a tough process. We become invested in the relationship and we become a part of each others lives. Unknowingly we share so much and that and experience things together. When the person is no longer there its like a piece of you is missing. So that is normal and okay. Especially if you know that the relationship was unhealthy for you. There are tough times ahead. But it will pass and you'll be able to invest yourself into another relationship and try again. Remember the reasons behind why you are choosing to not be together and know that the pain will end.

I understand how you feel. Letting go of someone you still love can never be an easy thing to do. But I am sure you chose what was best for you when you decided to break up with him. I am here to help you to go through this journey by giving a listening ear everytime you experience sadness as a result of your emotions. I am pretty sure that you chose your self first when you decided to end things and you know the kind of partner you want to be with. Never feel bad about choosing your self.

Sometimes its okay to move on without letting go of what you love about him. Moving on doesn't have to mean forgetting or hating him. Sometimes it can be accepting that you tried your best and it didn't work out. you don't have to hate him if you don't want to. Maybe you can just accept that you love him but also accept that its better to not dwell on it. Remember the happy times. Forget and hate the sad ones. But overall, don't force yourself to feel any emotion that doesn't come naturally at the moment. Just live through the feelings you have. It'll get better. I promise.

You don't need a reason to hate someone to break up with them. You can still love people and part ways. This is perfectly normal and very mature too. It is simply acknowledging that you and your partner have different paths and still have a love that is grounded on mutual respect. As for moving on, it is a step by step process, one that can be fueled by self love and focus on self growth. Hating someone, would only lead to a unprogressive step back to recovery, and to focus on healing, it would mean to forgive and let go of past grievances.

You don`t need to hate someone to get over them. You have to clear your mind, go through the reasons why you had to break up. Then accept that you aren`t going the same road anymore. Acceptance is the key. You made goood memories together and now you have to move on. And you will be okay. Smile because of the good time you had and don`t try to spread hate. Don`t talk bad about him because it won`t make you feel better. Cry it out and talk it out. Try to distract yourself. Try new things out or find a new hobby and try to spend more time with friends and family. Little steps will take you higher. In the beginning it`s hard, but you will slowly move on and learn to live without him. Just don`t go back.

You can always try to find something to take your mind off it whether it be walking your dog or listening to a song that makes you happy. You can always find a way to leave something behind if you need to. I believe that it's like losing a pet but more mild. Eventually you will get over the attachment and it will sometimes hurt but that is what love mostly is. Youd do anything for anyone you love even if they dont feel the same towards you.

You don't have to hate a person to move on. It can get really tough. But you should give yourself some time to grieve. Losing someone you love and someone who loves you can be hard and it is acknowledged to be life-changing in some ways. We sometimes see ourselves from the perception of those we love and who love us, breaking up with someone can make us lose our sense of self for a moment. Focus on rebuilding yourself after you accept that you have just lost one glasses from which you see yourself. Humans are social creatures so I also recommend that you talk to friends.

You do not have to hate the person in order to move on from the relationship you had with them. if you definitely feel that breaking up with him is the best path to take for yourself, then remind yourself of this. But if you do not, maybe re-evaluate the situation to find the right path you truly want. If anything, talk it out with him!! Sit down in a safe place where there is no outside pressure and where you can be real and venerable with one another about your feelings. Take time and don't rush the conversation. Closure is an important factor in moving on in a healthy way. If you come to the conclusion that you need to break up, surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Go out and have fun. Allow the good times to heal the bad ones.

Its okay to go through hard decisions, life’s full of challenges ....sometimes you are enjoying a beautiful moment and sometimes we end up in a bad situation. As quickly as joy ends similarly hardships also end as quickly as joy does ...of course it will take time to heal ....you will have to be strong and brave and keep your head up. Remember that even if you didn’t hate him, there is a reason you two are not together ...trust life and remember that everything happens for our own good.

That's not so much how much you love or don't love somebody but you have to look at whether or not the chemistry between the two of you is something that becomes toxic to you and prevents you from either achieving happiness or from reaching goals that are important to you that you have set for yourself. If somebody is not giving you that which you need in order to continue to be happy and successful, then regardless of why you feel you may love or hate them, or any feeling within the gamut of that, you have to realize that distance or even disengagement from that person is the proper course of action. If you allow toxicity to change who you are and how you are just in order to hang on to them, then that is not a loving relationship... It is merely codependency and codependency will never provide you with any measure of security or happiness.

If your needs to break up with him is more reasonable than you loving him than i would support your decision.i’ve been in a similar position and from my experience as long as this decision doesn’t affect your future then there’s no need to be afraid of feeling regret. It’s normal to feel despair/loneliness and it’s okay! We just need to learn how to cope or even better deal with that kind of emotion, just don’t i repeat do not give in to any negative feeling that relates to your break up. You can talk to me if you want to hear my advice since we’ve been in a similar situation after all.

Keeping busy is always a great way to take your mind off of things. I usually like to focus on schoolwork and on my hobbies. I also would suggest listening to music, which is another great way to get your mind off of things. In addition, I like to talk to my friends about it so that way, I get it off my chest (your friends will always be supportive no matter what, and it's always nice to know that you have people who support and will help you regardless of the situations you're in). All of these things would help keep your mind off of things! Breaking up is definitely hard, but it is necessary sometimes.

Breaking up with a significant other does not mean that you do not love him. Or that he doesn’t love you. Sometimes you outgrow people and both are moving towards different life goals. You don’t have to hate him to move on. Keep yourself busy, confide in close people in your life. Get a hobby. Sometimes it’s best to leave a relationship especially if it’s something you feel you “have” to do. Just break up on good terms, you never know what the future has in store for the both of you. This could eventually be a good thing. When one door closes another opens.

It can be hard to break up with those we love. Love is a strong emotion and gives us many reasons to not want to see it die. We all seek connection to others in a meaningful way, you are not alone in this. I too have also left those i loved because it felt like the right thing to do at the time. It is painful and confusing, and can seem like you have made a mistake. Why did you feel you had to end the relationship, and Why do you find it so difficult to move on?

Moving on from someone can be very challenging,and when you have no reason to hate them its even harder.Loving someone can be a great thing,it can have a lot of pros but also a bunch of cons.When we are told to move on from someone without a valid reason,its hard.We don't want to let go of that person but sometimes we need to no matter how much you guys love eachother.It won't be easy but it will take time and it will take a lot of strength,you don't need reasons to hate them if you want to let them go,there's no point if they did nothing wrong.Maybe it wasn't your time and place but you know what I promise you it will get better.Just move on peacefully or maybe you don't even have to,just depends on the situation.

Ask yourself if the relationship you were in had a future. Go down the memory lane and revisit the times when you had fights with him. Ask yourself why you two came to the point of break up. You'll find your answer.

If you had to then you’ve realised that something needs to change, self growth and self love is one of the best ways to move on, make a list of things you would like to accomplish that would bring you more job and happiness, of course relationships are an important aspect in many people’s lives but being separated allows a wide breadth of progress to occur, spend time with friends and family that you can trust and talk to, this is helpful when trying to move on, although you do not hate this person there is a reason for the break, you have made a massive step already for self growth, continue to flourish and enjoy your life!

Getting over someone is never easy. I do not know exactly the circumstance of your break up (or your relationship), but there was a sentence I heard in a talk, that helped me a lot by putting things in a different perspective. The message was, ‘You don’t move on, you move forward.’ Which I think is a really important difference. This person will always be part of your life story and that is okay. Maybe there is no need to find a reason to hate him, it’s probably okay to allow yourself to keep the nice memory you have and move forward whenever you are ready. By acknowledging your feelings, reflecting on them, understanding them you will be ready to take the next step.

It is going to be really hard to move on it is. It is not an easy journey. I am not here to sugarcoat it for you. But, I am here to tell you that you will get through this. It is going to take time as well as distractions. It is going to take self-care. Focus on improving yourself. Focus on the things that make you happy and surround yourself with them. You like to eat? Look up a recipe, go to the grocery store, buy the ingredients and make it! You like to go shopping? Ask a friend to go shopping (or window shopping) with you! Pet your dog! Brush your teeth! Wash your face! Exercise! Do what makes you happy! Over time, you will start to forget about loving him and remembering to love yourself! You are beautiful! You are amazing! You will get through this! Good luck on your journey!

It must be a really hard time for you because breaking up with somebody you love is one of the hardest things to do. I don’t know about your personal situation but I think first: it is a good thing and a brave choice to break up. I also think (however difficult) you should focus on you! I remember what my father said during my first brake-up: “breaking-up is like a heavy flu. You have to get through it and that really really sucks. But you will get better and even be immune to this flu.” This sounds more easy then it is I know.. but your relationship will not have ended for no reason. I think a break-up in lots of situations makes people suddenly feel very positive about their ex, you might forget the negativity, the reasons why this is a good choice. Try to tell and remember yourself the bad things about your relationship with your ex sometimes. Can you remember who you were before you’ve met your ex? There was a time you managed to live without your ex. And do you will manage again! My advice: try not to contact him/her now. Try focusing on yourself. Can be really difficult but you will find out that it gets easier over time. Give yourself some space to feel sad and talk about it, but also give yourself space to to carry on with your life and happiness.

I think that the most important thing to know when moving on from a breakup is acceptance of your decision. I think it's important to remember your reason for breaking up with him and that your reason is very much valid. If you had to, then it's okay to still feel those feelings. I don't recommend trying to find a reason to hate someone to move on from them as this is unhealthy, mostly in cases where they haven't given you a reason to hate them. One way I recommend coping with this sadness is to hang out with friends/family. While it may be seen as a distraction, it is still a coping mechanism. It's important during a difficult time like this to surround yourself with people who are important to you. Another way to cope is to either partake in activities/hobbies you enjoy or are curious about. You may feel a lack in motivation, especially if these feelings are fresh. However, once you find a way to occupy yourself, you will find it easier to deal with these feelings.

I had to break up with someone who I loved and who still loved me. It was like I can't live without you, but I can't live with you either. Love was so strong, but relationship was very unhealthy. I had to leave. It was very hard to move on because I still loved him. I thought I couldn't even start dating, because it would be so unfair to anyone one - how could I be in a relationship or date someone else, when my heart was still breaking and I was still loving my ex. It took a lot of time. And patience. And self love. That's when I really learned to love myself. I took time for me, to learn to be happy being alone, being by myself. And eventually, I knew I was ready! It was then when I met my current partner (5 years together) and haven't looked back.

It's a bit confusing that you "had to" break up, yet can't move on. Sometimes, we know in our heart that it just isn't going to work. It hurts but we break it off. In these kind of scenarios, we usually move on quite easily (in time) because we know it is the right thing to do. It feels like there is something (or someone) else in between you two. Maybe a third party or situation where you being together would be an issue for other people. This would explain the feeling of you needing to break up but not want to. We only live one life (well, this time around, anyway) and you have to be a little selfish and put your needs before others, sometimes. Think about what it is that is preventing you from moving on. If two people love each other, it is always worth pursuing.

It’s always going to take time into the healing process. You may never be able to fully move on from someone, but there is always a time where you feel content with the decision you made. Whatever the reason may be for you to break up with him, you always have that reason to why you did it. Learn from it, and become a better person. Talk to friends and/or family through it, and take time to yourself. Remember the reason to why you thought it was the best to break things off and that in the end you will be alright

I think you two should get back together if you people love each other so much and if you can't because of some reason then I guess you'll have to wait, it will take time, the hurt won't go away so soon. You can try meditation and journalism. Try to forget them by erasing all your memories and starting fresh. It will be hard because you love them but that's the only way out, forgetting them and removing them from your memory because moving on from someone you love, it's not really easy but it can happen! Though I am really confused why you two separated.

Being mindful of what "moving on" means as well as our expectations of break-ups can help in how we narrate the story of ourselves. Some things we know as facts and yet conflict with how we feel. You don't have to hate someone to break up with them. Breaks up, even if we are certain is the best choice, aren't easy to deal with. Moving on a process. - Sometimes it's the uneasy feelings that arise that bring up a lot of self doubt in our decisions. So it's important to ask ourselves, if we know the uneasy feelings will pass one day, would we still make the same choice? And if we know it's normal to feel "stuck" on someone for a certain of amount of time, do we believe we deserve what we want? - Wherever there is resistance, is an opportunity to grow from.