I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

Find yourself doing more things, go out with friends, enjoy the company you have with them, read a book, write, paint, draw. Find something that fulfills you as it he did with you. Find a new hobby like photography who knows you might find a hidden talent you didn't know about

I've been through that too, My bf broke up with me even though he said he still loved me. It won't be easy, but you'll move on eventually. Maybe ask him if he still wants to be friends

It can be really difficult to move on from a relationship no matter the circumstances of the breakup, and its even more difficult when there was no particular cause. You mentioned that you had to break up with this person? It might help to write down a list of the reasons why you felt it necessary to break up. Sometimes these reasons can be simple - "we never had time to see each other", for example. Other times, they can be complicated - for instance, you might have simply felt 'off' when you were around them. It is perfectly possible to love someone and still feel as though you cannot fully be yourself around them. Following such a gut feeling and going through with a break up may be difficult, but if it makes you feel more at peace, then it might be the right choice for your own circumstances.

Focus on you and what you want to do and succeed at. Take one day at a time and remember that if you focus on that person it will be very difficult to be independent

I recently dealt with this issue in my life and yes it is extremely hard, but knowing that it was best for the both of you and right now isn’t a good time to be together, it will feel very relieving and worth knowing it was a great relationship.

I think you should just accept the fact that you two shared something beautiful and that there shouldn't be a reason for you to hate him to end it, because if you did, that reason could also effect your memories you two shared once. Just leave it as it was, and remember once in a while that something beautiful as this happened some point in your life, much love!

Sometimes, love is not all. You can love someone, but not every time that person is what you need, and you need more of a relationship.

I was in the situation like this. The first thing that helped me was to acknowledge that I’m not the part of the person I love. I can live by my own no matter I love it who loves me. I’m self-sustained and emotionally independent person and if I want my life goes on happily without that particular person I love now. I can love again. I can develop myself. I can do what I like to do. I can invest time and attention in my personal growth. I can fall in love with life, freedom and a lot of opportunities to feel good. The second thing I learned was to love the person without being in their lives. If you really love the person, and it is not just strong toxic feelings of addiction, you can just love them. You can with them all the wonderful things and be glad that they’re fine. The third thing is the embracing of separation, embracing the fact that you and your ex-partner are going in the different directions. And it’s not good or bad. This is just what it is. And life is wise enough to give you many wonderful chances to love and be loved again in the future. We can be grateful for the beautiful time we had with the person and move on. Of course all these things need long process. I was giving yourself time. I let tears to be, let grief to be, let weakness to be, let relief and new life to be. And I eventually I let myself to be happy again.

The best way to move on is to focus on yourself and figure out your happiness it going to be hard for awhile you can always be friends

A great first thing to do is to accept that you love him and that you might keep such feelings for an uncertainly long time, and that is okay that way. Not every love can be lived in the way we wish for, and accepting that fact helps us to move on. The process of moving on can be tricky, as the remaining feelings can fuel the desire to be reunited. Visualizing clearly why things did not work out and knowing what you want instead can support you on your path of moving on. Key is to see the whole picture here.

It can be very difficult to move on from someone you've loved, especially when you can not find a reason to hate them. It sounds to me like breaking up with him was something you chose to do for yourself, rather than because of something that was wrong with him. So it sounds like instead of moving on from him, you are more set on moving on for yourself. I think you are more of an expert on this and it sounds like you may have already set the framework for your self on how to move forward in your question.

Hating is never the right way of moving on from someone. Hate, anger, aggression are things that harm the bearer more than the person they're directed to. The key to properly move on from someone is acceptance. Sometimes it may happen that we have to break up with someone we're still in love with...but the main thing to remember is you must have had a reason to break up. Focus on that reason as much as you can. Convince yourself that you had to do this. Maybe you don't hate him or haven't fallen out of love with him, but you must have had some thoughts that caused you to end the relationship. Accept that fact and tell yourself that you did what you had to do at that point of time. You have given yourself the chance to seek what works best for you so that you get the fulfillment that one expects from a healthy relationship. Hope this helped. Lots of hugs and best wishes. :)

It's simple. You move on from someone with the same reason you broke up with them in the first place for. Why did you do it? What triggered it? And it will remind you of why you should move ahead, that's all. You don't have to hate somebody to move on from them. Some happy relationships do end, and that's okay.

You don't need to hate somebody to move on from a relationship: sometimes, it just doesn't work out the way we imagine, and that is okay. Treasure the memories you have with this person, with a happy heart, remember to be kind to yourself, and to not forget about the reasons for the breakup.

Why do you need to hate a person in order to move on from him/her. Think in the positive side. If you don't move on now and come back together, you are certain that it won't work. Eventually, you would have differences and you would find plenty of reasons to hate him. But you don't need to go to that point of hating him if you move on now. Treat him as you treat a casual friend or acquaintance. Meet and interact with new people. Spend your time in more productive ways which also divert your attention. You'll notice the change

You can find peace with the fact that you both have mutual feelings for eachother and things didn’t end badly. Remember you did what you thought was right.

Always remember hate is never the opposite of love...if the breakup was very recent then of course it will be so painful as if you are been hitted by a truck I left my boyfriend too because that was the best thing to do for me that moment and i don't have to hate him to stop loving him.Again if it was a toxic relationship then this is the trauma bond you have with him,most important step to get over someone is to go NO CONTACT after breakup it's important to stay away from your ex because if you both stay in touch moving on will never be possible you have to set yourself free and let it go.Feelings will not fade away over night though we all wish we had a magic pill which would take away all the pain away once and for all...But thats not something practically possible..healing will take some time and you will have to work towards it..accept that the relationship has ended for a reason living in denial is the worst thing a person can do in this situation...be honest with yourself let your thoughts settle and avoid overthinking...It will take some time but eventually you will heal

Who says you have to hate someone to move on from them? The aim of moving on is to be able to continue with your life without being affected by whatever person/experience you from which you happen to be moving on. There's no requirement to "hate" in order to move on, in fact, I've found it harder to move on from things I hate; it just makes us think about it even more. Like you said, you had to, that suggests what happened, was meant to happen! So, do your best to simply accept that it was the best and most appropriate course of action. Don't look for a reason to hate him, simply start to continue with life without him there like he was. This will help you to start to stop thinking about him, and stop the effect that he has on your life (also known as moving on!). Best of luck

You don't necessarily have to 'hate' someone when you break up with them. Sometimes relationships don't work out for the better and that's a good thing. If you two can have a good relationship as friends after the romantic relationship has ended, you may find that you two make better friends than lovers. It's a good thing that the relationship didn't end on a bad note. For example, if you broke up because the timing was wrong then you have a higher rate of getting back together in the future (if you both wish for that to happen) knowing that you two have ended things on a good note.

By finding a way to be happy with your decision! Rather than focus on the negative outcomes or the negative feelings, try to focus on the positives. If you are able to grow and gain strength from this situation, then you won't need to justify your decision by hating him! You can still have positive feelings toward him without being with him. Perhaps *not* being with him will allow you both to be healthier and happier people!

learn more about yourself, find joy in little things.. become self-dependent, hangout with your friends and slowly he will become just a memory

Well, one thing that you can do is pray about your situation and hope for the best results. Also, you probably had activities and fun things that you used to do with that person. You might try filling the void created by their parting with some wholesome activities such as reading a book, walking your dog or cat, or if you don't have any hobbies or pets. Perhaps, purchase a pet, ie, fish, cat, dog; and/or start a new hobby. Let me know if this helps. Thank you.

Keeping busy is always a great way to take your mind off of things. I usually like to focus on schoolwork and on my hobbies. I also would suggest listening to music, which is another great way to get your mind off of things. In addition, I like to talk to my friends about it so that way, I get it off my chest (your friends will always be supportive no matter what, and it's always nice to know that you have people who support and will help you regardless of the situations you're in). All of these things would help keep your mind off of things! Breaking up is definitely hard, but it is necessary sometimes.

You don`t need to hate someone to get over them. You have to clear your mind, go through the reasons why you had to break up. Then accept that you aren`t going the same road anymore. Acceptance is the key. You made goood memories together and now you have to move on. And you will be okay. Smile because of the good time you had and don`t try to spread hate. Don`t talk bad about him because it won`t make you feel better. Cry it out and talk it out. Try to distract yourself. Try new things out or find a new hobby and try to spend more time with friends and family. Little steps will take you higher. In the beginning it`s hard, but you will slowly move on and learn to live without him. Just don`t go back.

You can always try to find something to take your mind off it whether it be walking your dog or listening to a song that makes you happy. You can always find a way to leave something behind if you need to. I believe that it's like losing a pet but more mild. Eventually you will get over the attachment and it will sometimes hurt but that is what love mostly is. Youd do anything for anyone you love even if they dont feel the same towards you.

You don't have to hate a person to move on. It can get really tough. But you should give yourself some time to grieve. Losing someone you love and someone who loves you can be hard and it is acknowledged to be life-changing in some ways. We sometimes see ourselves from the perception of those we love and who love us, breaking up with someone can make us lose our sense of self for a moment. Focus on rebuilding yourself after you accept that you have just lost one glasses from which you see yourself. Humans are social creatures so I also recommend that you talk to friends.

You do not have to hate the person in order to move on from the relationship you had with them. if you definitely feel that breaking up with him is the best path to take for yourself, then remind yourself of this. But if you do not, maybe re-evaluate the situation to find the right path you truly want. If anything, talk it out with him!! Sit down in a safe place where there is no outside pressure and where you can be real and venerable with one another about your feelings. Take time and don't rush the conversation. Closure is an important factor in moving on in a healthy way. If you come to the conclusion that you need to break up, surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Go out and have fun. Allow the good times to heal the bad ones.

Its okay to go through hard decisions, life’s full of challenges ....sometimes you are enjoying a beautiful moment and sometimes we end up in a bad situation. As quickly as joy ends similarly hardships also end as quickly as joy does ...of course it will take time to heal ....you will have to be strong and brave and keep your head up. Remember that even if you didn’t hate him, there is a reason you two are not together ...trust life and remember that everything happens for our own good.

That's not so much how much you love or don't love somebody but you have to look at whether or not the chemistry between the two of you is something that becomes toxic to you and prevents you from either achieving happiness or from reaching goals that are important to you that you have set for yourself. If somebody is not giving you that which you need in order to continue to be happy and successful, then regardless of why you feel you may love or hate them, or any feeling within the gamut of that, you have to realize that distance or even disengagement from that person is the proper course of action. If you allow toxicity to change who you are and how you are just in order to hang on to them, then that is not a loving relationship... It is merely codependency and codependency will never provide you with any measure of security or happiness.

If you had to then you’ve realised that something needs to change, self growth and self love is one of the best ways to move on, make a list of things you would like to accomplish that would bring you more job and happiness, of course relationships are an important aspect in many people’s lives but being separated allows a wide breadth of progress to occur, spend time with friends and family that you can trust and talk to, this is helpful when trying to move on, although you do not hate this person there is a reason for the break, you have made a massive step already for self growth, continue to flourish and enjoy your life!