How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

You could try talking to them, asking them what you feel you should, although sometimes it's not possible to get closure from an ex.

Closure is hard trust me I know. Maybe telling him or her how you feel and treating yourself to things like cake or to the movies with close ones do stuff that makes you feel better and free. Go on dates, love and live and be the person you want to be without him there

You just need you. Not anyone. Start becoming independent my friend In the end its you who matters. Stay blessed

Well first, acknowledge that you are taking this step and stay focused. Next is to realize you can't get closure from your ex themselves. Spend time with friends, talk it out, cry it out, write it out and vent it out. Once you get all your feelings out and reminiscing, then can you start replacing daily conversations between the two of you with hobbies and activities you would do on your own as an individual. Realize that there was a reason why you broke up and look ahead based on that! It's not the end of the world but do seek for help from other people if you can. Even on 7 Cups!

Time, sometimes it takes them cheating on you are doing something awful and hurtful to fee closure, but those things are painful to deal with. Maybe moving on will give you the closure you need

A close reminder on how the relationship has negatively affected is an essential step . Secondly, realising that the fact that there is no future with a person who has impacted in a negative way to your life..Last but not least ,being aware that a right person would make you feel back in track because you are an amazing person and you totally deserve to be happy.

Whenever a romantic relationship ends, we tend to only remember only the good times. I personally kept a dairy of all the bad time and fights after we broke up :) I made a list of what did not go so well in the relationship and reasons why he is now an ex. I find that helped me get closure.

The best way to get closure from your ex is to go out with friends, and don't check on his/her social media. Make sure to surround yourself with positive people, and go out and do all the things you might not have been able to before!

Good question! In order to get closure, you need to see the reason clearly of why you broke up. Was it harmful? Loosening up? His feelings changed? If so, know that when you think of the reason why, and how it was for the good, you would eventually realize that is it time to move on. Hope this helps! :)

Just remember the good times that you had together, and don't dismiss them with the bad, because they were still times you enjoyed, and time that you should never see as wasted.

Not having closure from your ex can be a daunting and lingering feeling, and from my experience I decided to not ask in order to keep good relations. But, I do believe that asking for closure is something you should listen to your gut for; if you think it is appropriate to ask, do so. If not, wait until you feel you can. You may even find that you don't need it after a while.

Personally, I find closure in just knowing that I am going to get through it and that this does not mean life is over. Burn a few pictures, read a book, and start working on the real you!

I don't know if closure exists. I think we all have our own idea of what closure means- Do you want to find out why? or who? or what? Ask yourself what closure actually means. If you feel like you found your answer and you need it, you should communicate that to your ex. Get to the bottom of it and ask for what you need. The most important thing here is to ask for what YOU need and what YOU want. Not the other person. Maybe look at it as "feedback" for your next relationship or where you think you can change and help yourself but you have to be prepared if it doesn't go your way, or the answer is not what you want to hear.

What I did was write a letter that I would never send. I wrote a letter to my ex stating everything I felt I wanted to say to him but couldn't. I forgave him for the awful treatment he gave me, and I learned to forgive and forget. I also deleted all photos and videos I had with him and I blocked his number and all accounts on social media - this way when I did have the urge to contact him there was no way I could. I put all of his clothes that he left at my house in a bag and I donated all of them. I got closure, not from my ex, but from myself.

Try asking yourself what are you trying to get from them. Will you be disappointed with what their answers are to your questions? I think it's really important to think about what we're trying to get from conversations and find positive people in our support systems that can help with that. From personal experience, I felt I needed closure from a 3 year long relationship. I did speak with the person, but they were not saying what I expected to here. It did not make me feel better at all. However, it is understood that every relationship is unique.

I understand your sentiment and I respect it. When a relationship ends, it causes us to feel and experience different kinds of emotions, a mix of both positive and negative ones. If the relationship ended on a confusing note, seeking closure might give us a sense of completeness. We seek closure because we derive meaning out of it. We have some questions and thoughts in our mind that we wish to address and we feel that they would be best answered that way, hence putting our mind at ease and allowing us to finally move forward. If you seek closure and the relationship did not end brutally or on a particularly negative note, it is alright to ask your ex for just a meet up or even a call, where you discuss what exactly happened and why they happened the way they did. It is called a "closure conversation". Before that though, it is important to think through what are your goals for this meeting, how you'd want to achieve them and also, embracing the possibility that the conversation might not exactly go according to plan. With this in mind, you can approach your ex and then, proceed. However, if the relationship was abusive or toxic, it might not be very helpful to have this conversation. It will only amplify the pain and confusion and I say this from personal experience. In this case, it is important for you to seek closure within your own self. If it is needed and you require support to recover from the ill effects of this relationship, please access all your support systems and go for therapy. It helps in processing of traumatic information and will help you rebuild yourself.

The reason you do not have closure with your ex, is because the fear you have which propelled you into the relationship in the first place has not been worked with yet. The fear still rules and thus you feel incomplete without your ex. We all were born whole and complete, only the conditioning from those who modeled for us in our youth have lasting effects if we do not work with them. Getting closure from your ex is working on yourself from within to discover why you are still searching for someone else to complete you. There is work left to be done. The uncomfortable feeling you have is pointing to inner work for you to do. What fear are you avoiding and wanting the presence of the ex to fix in you?

Closure starts with you. I feel the most successful road to closure is by first working on yourself. Do some deep introspective work and listen to your feelings. Let yourself process them by journaling and write a redemption narrative to show yourself how strong you are. Learn to love yourself first. Once you feel that you are ready, reach out to your ex. It's okay to have a conversation and ask for closure. You can ask why things ended the way they did and be comfortable with whatever feelings come up. Once you get those all out, end it amicably.

You get closure from within, never from another person. When u realize and accept that you are worthy of respect and loyality (nothing less than that) and you are complete in yourself, then you don't feel a need for any explanation, a final talk, or a closure. The hardest part of this process is that, it takes a long time to heal completely, to learn how to take time to intellectually check a person and then decide if the other person is worthy of your time and emotions as a partner. Seeking a closure from other person, seldom makes you feel healed or peaceful.

I'm a huge fan of writing letters you never send, or even those that you do. Depending on the terms that you ended things on, even getting those feelings out onto paper as opposed to keeping them inside can provide release. I know I have had experiences where both methods have worked for me. Also knowing that sometimes you may not get closure, as I have been on that end of the stick too, is important. It's a 2 party process, so you both have to agree it is in the cards, but you could maybe do a mock break up with a trusted friend?

Closure is something that varies from person to person. How do you think you would feel if you could express your feelings of the breakup to your ex? It's never easy to let someone go, so it's completely fine to ask or want closure. As humans, we want to be able to let go and move on from experiences that end with pain. To forget seems like the best way to move forward and carry on. It depends on how you feel you could best handle it. After all, only you know yourself the best.

It is really hard, especially if you are feeling like it is not possible to reach out to them and talk. Although the hurt goes away eventually, closure really is much harder. I recommend distracting yourself as much as you can. Personally, I use humor to cope but that doesn't work for everyone. Also, finding a new hobby could be very good in diverting your energy into something good and not only getting closure from the person but also a time in your life. I like making healthy changes in my appearance, like hair color, but that is counterproductive for some people.

If there is communication, i must convey my feelings, or at least write them down, to get them out of my head and on a paper, put into words, sentences paragraphs. To view them with my eyes instead of just having them run crazy in my head. To accept a relation is over, to accept that it is time to walk away, to accept that my life is worth more than being stuck on a person who couldnt be my partner for whatever reasons. Life is beautiful when u r comfortable to be by urself and not have ur peace and happiness relient on another person.

You need to understand your Ex properly , if its closure you need then some things would be. Put into consideration knowing your ex properly will help you know how to handle and treat them being on their good side is the fastest way to get it Although you should know having a strong desire for something i s not similar to needing something .its normal to long for them after theyve left but you need to really thing about the probably outcome to getting back together with them So in summary to get closure is to get close to them

This is very gray-area topic. It really depends on the following: -How much you cared/loved this person -How complex the relationship developed to -And how the relationship ended. If you feel the need to get closure there is nothing wrong with writing your ex about this and expressing you most sincere feelings about the circumstances. it is not easy, but if you manage to do so, you will most likely feel better. something to keep in mind is that if your ex and you ended up in bad terms, you might want to make sure you don't bring the circumstances in this conversation. rather, focus on moving forward and letting all the negative things go. good luck!

It is normal to feel the need for closure in situations like this. But before jumping into that, I personally like to look into myself and understand what do I expect and want from the closure and am I ready for it. As to the big "how". Always talk to the other party and determine whether both of you are on the same page of being okay with talking to each other, as understandably, just like a relationship, breakups and closure involves both party as well. And later if and when an agreement is reached, remember to always hold on to the peace in your heart and be genuine with what you talk about. Remember anger and revenge are very natural response to hurt, and they are valid feelings too.

Depending on how the relationship ended, sometimes talking to them is the only way to get that closure. If you are talking about getting closure for what went wrong, take some time apart, then come back later with a clear head and simply have a discussion. Time apart always helps heal relationships, especially if they ended badly. I started dating my best friend last March, we broke up in April, and the whole summer we didn't talk. When school started again last year, I spoke to her and apologized for what I did wrong, she apologized for what she did wrong, and we became best friends again. It is important to know it doesn't always end up that way, though. It is also important to know that in a break up it is almost never one person's fault, both people have their flaws that contribute to the end of a relationship in most cases. It is rare that there is only one person at fault, although, it does happen. I hope this helps!

Talk to them in person, discuss, and say things you want to get off your chest. Talk about the things you want to clarify and/or disclose. Ending things on a good note can be from understanding both of your viewpoints and letting go. If your ex was toxic or in any way manipulative/abusive, maybe in person confrontation won't be the best option. Only you know yourself to the best and it is up to you to do decide what to do next. Sometimes, getting the closure will be to get it from yourself without the help of your ex. An example of this can be rethinking your relationships with the good and the bad, to then focus on yourself and who you are as a person. From personal experience, feeling content with yourself first helps with closure and self growth.

I try to remind myself about why the relationship ended and why it wasn't right for me, and then I focus on what I want now, what I want from my next relationship and what will make me happy. I also think blocking your ex on social media is pretty essential, at least until you have moved on. Try to spend time with your friends and nurture the relationships you perhaps have neglected in the past. Invest time in yourself and your hobbies. Try to view your ex as a person with which you have fond memories but they are just memories now. Hope some/all of that helps you/is relevant :)

What do you feel that you still need closure from? Maybe make a note in your phone of how you ask for closure and get the answers your searching for and see if that is something you’d want to send to your ex. Do you want closure or do you want to reconnect? It’s important to ask yourself exactly why you want closure so you know what you’re looking for from the situation. If you send the text he may not answer and that is okay too. Some people sadly do not provide closure and unfortunately we cannot control what other people do.