How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Getting closure is difficult. It is different for everybody. I, for example, am a very symbolic person. I like to give meaning to everything. I also like always saying what's on my mind, I am very honest and transparent with my feelings. I tried talking with my ex to tell her thanks for the time we spent together, thank her for what she helped me grow though and say sorry for what I knew I did wrong... but she didn't wanted to talk. So I wrote her a letter. I concentrated my attention on making that letter the final step for closure. I wrote EVERYTHING, always respecting her and in a tone that would make that letter good for both of us. Eventually I left it in her car. That was my closure to that breakup.

I think communication is must here. Without letting your partner know about what our want you can't expect them understand.

Consider if you really want closure, or if you're trying to restart the relationship. If you truly need the closure, be direct in telling your ex your need for closure. It's hard, but try to be satisfied when that closure is given and respect whatever answer you receive.

try to talk to him and tell him how you feel,explain that you want to try and make it better and that you need someone right now

It is best to pinpoint what happened, that is where you get the real closure from. It would be best not to force it from him but to think of what might've been of the decision

How to get closure from your ex,in my personal experience I never tried to get in contact with them I deleted all the contacts and messages with them to make sure I don't think about them anymore

What works for your friend, may not work for you, remember that. Everyone takes a different amount of time to feel and reach closure. One thing you can do is to meditate. It clears the mind and allows for more clear thinking. You can write a letter, but not intend to send it. Don't hold back while writing it either, say everything you've wanted to say and then throw it away. You also need to realize that forgiveness is not condoning. You have already forgave your ex by moving on. There's no need to say it in words, when you've already done it in actions.

When experiences linger like this it often points to some kind of pain that we have been ignoring. It's kind of like a bruise you forgot you had and then accidentally bumping it. Your ex has left (I assume) and you are by yourself in these moments of pain. What I am trying to say is that you are still reacting to something that isn't physically or actively bothering you. What ever fear or worry exists is coming from within you entirely. One way to approach this is to ask yourself "If this pain had a voice what would it say?". Then be ready to listen! It might be hard but you can't change what you can't see, right? Find out what it is in you that is holding on and why.

It’s normal to have questions or just things you don’t understand after a break up. If at all possible you could always get closure from the ex, you both could sit down and talk it out. If not you can also find some sort of closer from yourself and understanding your role in the relationship and if you played a part in its ending. There’s two sides to every story so i think it’s best to figure out yours first, and then try to understand someone else’s side. Also please understand your feelings are completely valid and you have a right to feel the way you do.

It depends what you need closure about. If you want closure about why he or she ended it then just ask it will not hurt if you do not try. If it is about anything related to why you guys broke up just figure out what happened that may have made him or her unhappy. Think about your happy memories and the unhappy ones. Ask his or her friends why you think he or she ended it. If they do not know I feel you should ask him or her and just allow the response from them to be understood or ask for more details if they are vague.

You should take a step back and think about yourself. What do you want for yourself? Your future? Also focus on what an amazing experience you had with that person, do not focus on the end result. All good things must come to end, leaving only the memories. Think about how much you have changed since the relationship began. What things about you have been changed for the better? I honestly do not know what else to say, just use your experience to make you a BETTER you! I know losing anyone you care deeply about can be tough, but cherish the memories and learn from your journey.

The best way from my personal experience, is to find in yourself what you found in them. Getting over an ex is a really difficult thing, and it may take some time. If they’ll agree, talk through what went wrong and why you’re broken up so you’re not left hanging. If you know why, but feel like it didn’t make sense ask about that as well, or anything you’re feeling unsure about. Closure is a good thing, especially if you feel like you need it from the relationship. Make sure you give yourself time to recover from the relationship as well, before going into a new one, to make sure you got the closure you were looking for.

Accept it. i have been down the same path in the past couple of months with a guy who i was in a relationship with and the thing is you never know you have closure until you do. surround yourself with people you love and things you love / enjoy to do. when you distract your mind from things that remind you of him / her they will slowly fall to the back of your mind without you even realising that it’s happening and when you do notice it will be in second nature to have them in the back of your mind.

I feel that it really helps to have personal understanding of why the relationship ended. And in order to get there, it helps to answer a few questions honestly. Are you looking for ways to get back with your ex? If yes, do you think that whatever problems you had before can be solved? If you feel hurt by the way your ex departed from the relationship, did you tell them about your feelings? Are you going to feel better if you share that with them? Did you leave anything worth-saying, unsaid? There are other things to consider, but I often found that these questions usually kept you wondering if they lingered unanswered.

I feel that in order to get the closure that you need from an ex can be a difficult situation to approach, but something like this needs time, yourself and your ex both need time to adapt to the changes that you are both going to experience at a world wind force, the heartbreak and the loss of a relationship that was once so familiar and warm, you’ve got to let yourself heal before you can step forward and have the closure that you need in order to move on and feel loved again. But subconsciously when you’ve learned to heal in time you’ll have already gotten the closure that you need without seeking it

Focus on yourself and the people around you. Once your mind is not on your ex or whatever they did, you'll be much happier and present in your life. Looking ahead helps us not linger on the past and what "might've been". Accepting that the past is the past can definitely help you achieve closure. If there is something that needs to be cleared up, talking it out with them is a good first step to take. After that, you can try to find a good way to deal with whatever brings up bad feelings about the relationship with your ex.

You can contact them and suggest a meeting in a neutral place to have a calm discussion. State your feelings clearly and give your ex the opportunity to tell you how they feel. Agree on a maximum amount of time to talk beforehand and avoid arguing. Remember, this is closure, not revenge, and it is important to stay positive and relaxed through the entire conversation. End on a positive note and thank them for talking to you. It may be difficult to have an emotional discussion like this after a break-up, but you will feel better and emotionally grow from the experience.

I find closure from within myself. My ex does not crontrol how I feel or my actions. Being kind to myself and doing self-care helps me be re-centered. I reflect on activities I used to do that I didn't do while in a relationship. I consider if those things are valuable to me. If they are, I strive to do at least one of them. I set a realistic time frame for myself to do one of those activities. For my closure and healing, I think of the good memories, acknowledge that there were good experiences with my ex, but also am realistic about what wasn't good. I think of what would make a future relationship better. For example, considering things in my control (myself), and how I can make changes to have a great relationship with myself and others.

1. give yourself time to mourn these feelings need to be felt and let out. holding them in will only result in breakdowns which will only make things worse. 2. i need to gain control on how you're going to make myself happy this process will help me find myself and feel in control about what i enjoy doing and what i don’t enjoy doing. 2. talk to friends they help you make those smart decisions. 3. no dating i obviously don’t want to, i need time to heal, figure myself out, i need time to reflect and process what happened. i don’t want the feeling of a warm body or sexual pleasure. i want love, real love, long term. and ill learn more of what i want when i first learn what makes me happy other than another person. 4. figure out what makes me happy this is all about me now. this is my time to do what i want. its a relationship between me, myself and i so let me get comfortable. 5. relax, treat yourself. meditate, color, read, run. just take a break and relax. smell candles. just chill , you deserve it. 6. set boundaries people need to learn to respect my boundaries in any relationship and if they don’t then they don’t respect me and i don’t have time or energy to deal with disrespect anymore. 7. be clear about what you want for your future over time, you will learn while loving yourself what is good for you and what you want.

Everyone needs a different closure depending on how deep we are connected to the people around us, events or things. When I was questioning my decisions regarding job or love I approached both with honesty, openness and curiosity. It is important that we are in touch with our emotions, our body signs of what instinctively feels right to us and try not to rationalize too much, but rather just be present. Maybe we should not ask for closure from our ex partners, but rather to think about as continuing process of building the relationships. If one finds that their ex partner is a human being that they want in their life maybe one does not want to call for closure, but rather for wisdom and possibility to transform and accept. Some people stay in our lives and some don't. If the ex is someone who should not be in our lives they will simply not be. If one really needs a visible "closure" maybe it is a good thing to meet with the ex and just reflect and say "good bye". Sometimes that can be useful. Sometimes if we don't have that opportunity it is a useful practice to write a poem or two, read the book regarding break ups and somehow create emotional distance from the source of love anxiety yet in some way still find healing and content. And sometimes just have a cup of tea and in time the healing will take place. Just love yourself and be sure that the "ex" is "ex" for a reason.

One good way to help process things is to write down the things that were good in the relationship, and the things that were bad. Often times, the things that were bad tend to outnumber the things that were good. And even when it doesn't, it still tends to put some clarity into the situation. Remember the good, hold on to it and learn from it, and remember the bad to remind of you of why things didn't work out. Hold on to that list, as time goes on, details tend to blur. It's easy to remember only somethings, and having a list to remind you that it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows can really help when you're feeling bad. Or, it can help to refer to the good times when you're feeling low.

Sometimes, when you do not get the closure you want, you have to demand it. You owe that to yourself. Call them, text them and tell them what you want, and make it clear that you want it. I know it is hard to be so harsh on someone you cared for so much, but you have been harsh on yourself too for not giving yourself what you needed. And in this case, you needed a closure. You have to know your worth and you have to know what you need for yourself. Despite what people around you may tell you, to not contact your ex again, if you think you will feel better with the answers, then go for it. You come first. Nobody else. Remember that.

The best way to get closure is just sit down and have a serious conversation about where it went wrong, the reasons it happened, and if there’s ever a chance for anything to happen again. Ideally having a lengthy conversation and hitting every point helps. This also depends from person to person but just not planning the conversation but instead saying everything in her mind and taking turns speaking without interruption helps. There’s no need to rush the conversation as it can be very emotional. Never hold back on certain things. Just saying everything on your mind prevents future regret

Sometimes, you have to make your own closure. Whether it is hanging with friends, binge-eating ice cream, or talking to someone about your feelings, no, it is not easy, and you may not be able to get the closure you really want. Define your own closure and make it something that will make you happy. Coming from experience, obsessing over getting closure can become unhealthy, and that's no way to live. Wondering about the what-ifs or what could have been can make things worse. So, be around those who love you and cherish who you are and look forward to what the future holds!

From my personal experience, I got closure from meeting up with them/messaging them and speaking openly about the relationship and why it ended. We argued a little after we broke up but that also helped me to get over them quicker and realise that there could be someone better and more respectful out there. I also spoke about my feelings towards them, letting them know that I would still be there if needed, however I feel as though this wasn’t a good idea for me to do. I recommend chatting with them when you are both comfortable, expressing some feelings and then ending things completely on a good note.

Are you on good terms? Is there a way for you to reach out that is healthy for both of you? If yes, then send them a text or ask to call. Find a healthy, safe way to communicate with the least amount of pain for both parties. It's so normal to feel like you need closure - I still get the urge to text my exes, even after years - but the most you can do is be open and honest with them, and if they do not communicate with you effectively in a way that eases your stress, then the best you can do is move on.

When relationships end, closure is often needed. Some relationships end when one person is left confused and wondering what went wrong without any explanation. Without closure, it can leave a person with sadness, hopelessness and even depression. It is okay to try and reach out to your ex to receive closure if they allow you to. However, sometimes it is best if a person does not get closure. Someone new can walk into your life for the better, and make you forget that you needed closure in the first place. Stay positive, stay strong, and don't forget to keep your head up

Talk to them about your feelings and think of it as a normal conversation with sentimental values!!!

Understand that not every small detail from your relationship that meant a lot to you will get closure. Sometimes closure only comes with time and moving on. I've been in a relationship for two years and still didn't feel closure until my ex came crawling back to me - and when I said no politely, I still felt empty without it. But time helped the most, and growing apart helps even better.

He best closure from a relationship that has ended is through friends and family, for example go to the movies or bowling with some friends to get your mind off things.