How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Oh goodness this one hits me hard because i was with a guy 3 years. we had known each other seven things ended with abuse of every kind towards me and then he left me for an underaged girl. this resulted in alot of legal actions and hes behind bars i never got my answers as to why things went bad and to this day i wonder why itall happened. Today im engaged, running a charity, two businesses and im on my way to getting a deree. these things are way more inportant to me than knowing why i was a punching bag or why i wasnt good enough in general so my answer to you is that you need to focus on bettering yourself and moving forward with your life. Sometimes life doesnt give us the answers to everything and thats alright becuase its better to let it go and close that door than it is to wallow in sadness over something that in the long run is just something small.

Take the good things and the bad things and separate them. The good ones can stay in your heart as long as its in the past, while the bad things should disappear

In many situations it is not possible to geta direct closure, meaning not everybody gets to have one on one conversation with their ex where they can say all the things they didn't get to say. In those cases, there are various possibilities that can give you some form of closure. One of those forms is writing a letter, something like Lara Jean did in "To all the Boys I've loved before", and if you feel it's too risky, you can easily burn or destroy the letter. In the letter, you can write anything you want to say to them. And if writing is too hard you can try other mediums as some form of art where you will get your emotions out.

Decide that the relationship is over in your own mind. Once complete, look forward to the next person you welcome into your life.

Having a closure is really important after a relationship ends. Sometimes relationship end in a sudden way and we feel like there's so much more that needs to be said or addressed. Not knowing the closure of somethings gets me in agony and stress the whole time. I always keep thinking about the " What ifs" and where do we stand now and where's common ground and things like that. The most beneficial way for a closure is just by talking. Talk to your ex. Finalize your feelings and thoughts. Honesty is the best thing ever when it comes to communication.

It can take a long time to get over an ex, and sometimes it can feel that getting closure can help with that. Lots of things can help with closure. Some ideas include writing a letter and then burning it or tearing it up, or even making a box of things that remind you of the relationship and putting it away somewhere safe.

I totally understand how you’re feeling. Sometimes it’s easier to just accept a apology we may never receive. Often I’ve had to come to terms with and accept the fact that some situations won’t ever make perfect sense or feel fair and we just have to leave them where they are. It’s better to let a wound heal than to pick at the sutures. The most helpful thing that I’ve experienced is trying to find the lesson in that experience/relationship. What did you learn about love and life from that person or the pain it caused you? People look for closure in the hands of their ex but often it’s within themselves.

Talk to him about it. Whatever youre feeling you should adress it, Im sure he will understand. Ask questions aswell!

Sometimes you will never get closure from your ex. The closure comes from within you when you've moved on and you're ok with your life on your own. It can be a daunting though but it's critical that you see yourself as the soul responsibility for your happiness. When you focus on yourself you no longer need that closure because it's in the past. I always take a learning lesson from each relationship. Choose one thing that I could have done better and work on it for the next one. I don't put myself down, I am realistic.

As the saying goes" no revenge is the best revenge" . My dear time geals and patience is the key. Dont have any expectations. Learn to accept that whatever the case may be ut was destined to happen this way .accepting is the first step. By becoming aware of that it will help you to grow as a person .from experience playing the waiting game never worked in my favour instead i learnt to love myself and unexpected when i have completely gotten over the "waiting for a closure " to be at peace, i became mY own peace and happiness then they come slong vack.only then it alll up to you to realise your worth .

I hear you! It would be absolutely wonderful if each relationship that ends comes with closure for both people. Why do we think closure exists outside our own hearts and minds, though? If we couldn't get what we need from our ex during the relationship, what makes us think we can get what we need from them when it's over? I think pampering oneself is a great form of closure, and also doing an "exit interview" with yourself, in a journal perhaps. What questions would you ask yourself as a "former employee" in the relationship? What were your strengths and weaknesses? What can you take with you into better relationships?

I would suggest simply getting out! Whether it's going to the mall, out with friends, or even for a walk or run. I've found that getting in the habit of doing this can help break a possible need for closure. Don't expect for these things to dissapear immediately, but over time that need for closure becomes less and less! :)

If you have any mementos, it may feel satisfying to put them away in a private place for some time, or destroy them, if you're feeling any violent urges.

Sometimes simply talking to your ex may help to bring closure. It is also important to try to help yourself understand the circumstances that led to the breakup. Understanding why you broke up is the first step in achieving closure.

Are you on good terms? Is there a way for you to reach out that is healthy for both of you? If yes, then send them a text or ask to call. Find a healthy, safe way to communicate with the least amount of pain for both parties. It's so normal to feel like you need closure - I still get the urge to text my exes, even after years - but the most you can do is be open and honest with them, and if they do not communicate with you effectively in a way that eases your stress, then the best you can do is move on.

Take time to spend with yourself and tell yourself that you don’t need someone to make you feel happy.

I can totally relate to using closing as a means of moving on. Your feelings are telling you to go forward in your life.

One way to possibly get closure from your ex would be to write about your feelings in a journal or in a letter. You wouldn't necessarily have to show him what you've written, but it gives you access to express your feelings without necessarily speaking to him. If you feel like you need to verbally tell him certain things to have closure, you could always do that as well, whether it's by calling, texting, or other ways. I hope this helps!

Inorder to do that you need to talk to your ex and finlize the situation in order for you to move on with your life

I am sure you dont neet it, you just need you! He is not going to make you feel better. Trust me, you can do this on your own

When relationships end, closure is often needed. Some relationships end when one person is left confused and wondering what went wrong without any explanation. Without closure, it can leave a person with sadness, hopelessness and even depression. It is okay to try and reach out to your ex to receive closure if they allow you to. However, sometimes it is best if a person does not get closure. Someone new can walk into your life for the better, and make you forget that you needed closure in the first place. Stay positive, stay strong, and don't forget to keep your head up

When you start loving someone that boy/girl becomes your lover. You give a tag on them and they become very important to you because of that tag. Now when you are no longer with the person you give them a tag of ex-lover. They still play an important role in your thoughts. The moment you remove the tag, and see them as just an individual and not think about the memories together you will feel less sad when you think of them. I have tried this and it has worked.

The only way to get closure is to talk to your ex. Ask the questions you want answers to. If your ex won't allow this than at least you know you tried.

Tell them that you feel like you need confirmation about it. If the person doesn't know this then things won't change. The best way to receive closure is to tell them how you feel and that you feel you need it.

Both of you should get together and have a small meeting confirming to each other that it is over. Be open to his thoughts and then accept its been done with

You can write a letter/journal about why it is good it has ended and why it is better if you go your separate ways. You can send the letter, rip it apart or burn it. It helped me.

Sorry to say but they may never happen. It depends on so many factors. How bad was the break up. Have you talked since. Is there still anger and resentment. So much.

Getting closure is difficult. It is different for everybody. I, for example, am a very symbolic person. I like to give meaning to everything. I also like always saying what's on my mind, I am very honest and transparent with my feelings. I tried talking with my ex to tell her thanks for the time we spent together, thank her for what she helped me grow though and say sorry for what I knew I did wrong... but she didn't wanted to talk. So I wrote her a letter. I concentrated my attention on making that letter the final step for closure. I wrote EVERYTHING, always respecting her and in a tone that would make that letter good for both of us. Eventually I left it in her car. That was my closure to that breakup.

I think communication is must here. Without letting your partner know about what our want you can't expect them understand.

You can contact them and suggest a meeting in a neutral place to have a calm discussion. State your feelings clearly and give your ex the opportunity to tell you how they feel. Agree on a maximum amount of time to talk beforehand and avoid arguing. Remember, this is closure, not revenge, and it is important to stay positive and relaxed through the entire conversation. End on a positive note and thank them for talking to you. It may be difficult to have an emotional discussion like this after a break-up, but you will feel better and emotionally grow from the experience.