How to forgive someone who cheated on you?

This can be a very long process, because it's not just that you got hurt. Trust, the very foundation for a healthy relationship, was breached. Mending it back takes time. Take it slow. He/She must be willing to do all it takes to rebuild it. Seek some counseling.

Forgiveness comes when you are ready. Look after yourself first and foremost. Forgiveness, if you choose to forgive them, will be a result of healing. So focus on you first.

This is a hard one, as I've never been cheated, at least that I know of. Anyway, if you truly love the other person and believe he/she is trully sorry and committed to be entierly faithfull to you, then it becomes a little easier to forgive. But every situation is different, the circumstances that led to cheating can sometimes be less bad (they are always bad, though), while in other cases, like if is repeated, it's harder to understand and thus forgive.

You can only really forgive someone else if you can forgive yourself. Love them for what they gave you in life, be grateful for the good and then let them be.

Try thinking of it as a past event. Tell yourself that everyone deserves forgiveness. Not giving them a chance will just fill your heads with thoughts of "what if"s for as long as you can remember. Try giving them a chance to explain. See their side of the story. Then make your call from there.

You must forgive the cheater in order to have peace for yourself. It will be the hardest thing you feel like you have ever done. The truth is, either you forgive the cheater or there can be no more relationship. You may never completely forgive the cheater, and it will cause stumbling blocks throughout the remainder of the relationship, but it will give you healing to forgive.

If someone has cheated on you, you have to remember it isn't your fault. When someone cheats, it's because of their own internal issues. There is no rush to forgive, give yourself time, think through everything and know that when you choose to forgive, it is for your peace of mind. Forgiving does not mean staying with the person. That is another choice you'll have to make through your experience and knowledge of the person. Only you would know if the person is worth another chance.

Forgiving someone for cheating on you is definitely one of the hardest things anyone can do. For me I just took time for myself and then when I had come to terms with it, I had a conversation with the person about it. It's never easy but I find that forgiving the person was very helpful in terms of moving on.

It depends on what you're forgiving. If you mean the hurt you felt at feeling inadequate, maybe investigate if that is even true. Many people cheat without really thinking it through. If you feel violated and cannot trust the person, that isn't always something that can, or should, be forgiven.

Forgiving is one of the hardest things to do when someone has hurt you. In my experience you have to forgive in order to heal. Take time for YOU, as much as you need to process your thoughts. When the time is right... when you healed some you will be able to forgive.

Think of what you two meant to each other before it happened. Think about the weight you carry and hold on to by keeping their negative actions towards you in your heart. Let go even if they don’t want forgiveness do it for yourself

Don't focus on what they did to you. Focus on comforting yourself and moving on. It's not about what they did but you accepting and realising what it did to you and what it means.

This can be highly dependent on the situation and what exactly happened, but you should be asking yourself why you are asking how to forgive them. Are you supposed to be forgiving them? Some say that cheating is the ultimate deal breaker. Just be careful and listen to your heart the best you can, because your gut will tell you!! :)

that will take time and a lot of work to forgive someone for cheating on you. keep in mind that forgiving them does not mean you have to like them or what they did to you, also that you do not have to stay in contact with them. you just have to let go of the person for what they did and move on with your life. that is forgiveness... being able to bring peace into your life by letting go.

This is very tough on you and your esteem - I know because I've been there (: I can tell you that by forgiving that person, you will actually do yourself a favor. See, if you don't forgive them, it doesn't make a difference to them. It only limits your productivity and social interaction. Accept what happened, close that person like another chapter of life, place that chapter aside where it'll get buried under layers of dust, and move on (:

Learn to forgive and forget, if they prove themselves to you, meaning they prove their love for you, then they simply made a mistake. We’re all human and we make mistakes.

This really depends how guilty is the person feeling after being cheater. The trust would be very difficult to build again and take years. Depends on situation and the reason of cheating if forgiveness is deserved and also on the length of the relationship because if it has been done in early stages say couple of months, then I wouldn't personally bother with someone like that. If its 5 years of relationship then all you can do is talk about it.

If you keep the anger, frustration or hatred inside yourself then those negative feelings won't harm that someone even a bit but on the other hand you will be the one feeling that pain again and again. So instead of keeping it inside, just let it go.

I don't think I would be able to forgive someone, but if they proved they wouldn't do it again and proved their loyalty towards them, I might give them a second chance.

To forgive is to settle with an issue and move forward. In relationships, trust is set between the couple in which is the basis of feeling comfortable and confident with one another. To forgive someone who has cheated on you will enable for you to forward as well as understand that what happened has happened and cannot be undone. Although emotional pain may be present, the only way to move forward is by understanding and forgiving otherwise it would remain an issue.

Forgiving is hard, but forgetting is harder. Cheating is something that is done conscious by a human being and it would be really hard to forgive that person, but if you do manage to forgive that person wholeheartedly, you'll feel lighter and better than you are right now.

I have to forget to live better . what is good about thinking of something heartful matters . forgetting is tha best thing to do

Realize that though it feels like a big thing, Nothing really matters much in the End Game. God forgave us all for everything we did, and that should be the spark behind our forgiveness. Should you withhold forgiveness from someone for some great, singular sin, when God forgave you for all of your sins?

I'll ask a question back; why do you need to? If you think you should, the best way to do so is taking a shot at empathy. Were they drunk? Lonely? Confused? Scared? Angry? Humans don't hurt other humans without reason.

This is a very unique question and I do strongly believe that the way one would go about answering this depends upon the factors and circumstances that make up the event. The betrayal and distrust that comes with infidelity can be an overpowering feeling for anyone. Cheating can truly make or break a relationship. "Did you just say make one?" Surprisingly yes! Depending on the circumstances and factors, a couple can grow exponentially from a trauma or they can meet the end of the road. Being completely open and honest is important so that both people know what happened and both perspectives are on the table. If it is decided that forgiveness is an option, there are several paths to take. Forgiveness is a strange thing in itself because our confidence in ourself often causes self-doubt when trauma strikes. I believe that forgiveness of unfaithful activities comes by addressing what caused or led to the initial event, addressing existing problems in the relationship, and commitment to the betterment of both partners as a whole. The bad side of these types of events comes about when resentment sets in. It is not healthy and a partner should try not to hold the event over the others head or use it against them. A committment to a better relationship and forgiveness is about coming to terms with what happened, addressing the problems that exist, and building a better relationship.

It is difficult to do this, sometimes you can't forgive them, it all depends on the type of relationship, how long it is and what exactly happened. Some people find it easier to forgive people than others. If you can't forgive them then it's fine, you should just tell them that.

I think the best way to do it is forgive the person. i know its easy to say so. But its important for your mental health and for you to kove on.

Remember that there may have been other reasons than you think. It may not have been the best choice, but you can still be acquaintances in the end.

Accept the feelings you might be feeling, and understand they are normal. You were hurt, and your feelings are real. If you feel you can continue on a relationship without hurting yourself, or you feel that you can forgive someone for their indiscretion, then consider moving on with the relationship. Have open and frank discussions about your feelings and express your emotions. When you are ready, talk to your partner about what happened, and how they feel as well. This well help you both find common ground and move forward in your relationship.

You first have to know if you really want to still be with that person after they have cheated on you. Once you have decided that then the next step would be to speak about the reasons why that person cheated on you and thereafter take that step of forgiveness. Its more difficult to be the "forgiver" than the "forgived"