How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

When it comes to ex's and feeling negative feelings towards them, that is completely normal. Depending on how the relationship ended, people tend to find different ways to cope. The best thing to do to let go of this anger is to distract yourself with doing things you enjoy (reading, watching shows, writing). Think about why you still feel such anger for the person, it is something that can be addressed? Try talking to someone and let them know how you feel, if it is really bothering you, maybe talk to your ex (if that option is available) and be honest with how you feel about them. Relationships are never something easy to get over, especially if you had very strong feelings for the person, and it is important to remember you are not alone. Understanding why you feel that way and addressing the people who are making you feel like this is the first step to forgiveness.

Write down on a piece of paper how you are feeling. Every single detail. Then rip it up, let this signify you letting go. You have poured your feelings and so there is nothing left to give. Take it as a learning experience and remember what makes you smile and do all the things you love. Life goes on regardless so don't waste any time on dwelling on any anger you have towards your ex. Remember, you are better than that. Don't let you ex have this much - if any power over you! Be the bigger person for yourself.

A brilliant way to release some anger in a non aggressive way is writing. Write a letter to them with everything you are feeling all the wrongs you may feel have happened, dont think just write until you cant think of anything more and then just rip it or burn it ( safely). This way you dont have to engage with them but you have still released those thoughts and feelings

You could take up some kind of physical activity. Such as running, boxing, etc. This way you abled to let say, run longer than usual, burning out all the anger that you may feel to replace with the great feeling of exercising,

Accept that the past is the past. Holding grudge towards someone who is no longer in your life is pointless, they probably don't know and don't even care. Try to focus on more important thing in life, focus on things that are ahead of you.

Be positive. Just think like this. Hating someone will only make you tired and wasting your time, because he/she will not even feel pain while you're hating him/her. So, why wasting your time. Holding an anger is like holding a hot burning charcoal, it will only burn yourself.

Just let go. If it wasn't ment to be this way letting go is the best thing to do. Your perfect girl is out there don't waste time on your exes

I like to read Wayne Dyer books, they give you a lot of good helpful hints on letting go and improving your life to be the best you!

This is going to be a super cliche answer, but put yourself in their shoes. Think about how they feel about you and what you did; do you want them to be mad at you? I was mad at my first ex for a long time, they broke up with me and then fell in love with someone else, but should I be mad because I hurt or happy because they are learning to live? The biggest thing to understand is that we leave people because we want to, or vice versa. Think about the why before the anger boils deep inside.

I talked to my friends about it. They would always try and turn the bad times about him into a joke so I would be laughing instead of being mad. Or listen to R&B music while I go for a run but that’s not everyone’s personal cup of tea. I like coloring also ( I know it sounds like such a childish thing to say), so I did that for almost hours on ends sometimes. Again everyone have there methods , just don’t use violence cause that will only help for a couple minutes then your back to feeling hurt again

Letting go of pent-up anger takes a lot of time and effort. A person must go through a painful process to fully heal. Anger itself is hurting, and keeping it inside will make this feeling a lot worse. So, the first thing is to let go. Let go in the safest way. Acknowledge the hatred, and be aware of the possibilities while having this feeling. Control. Control the situation to avoid any further damage to oneself or to the people around. Second, find the safest / best way to release one's anger. Avoid creating a chain of actions while being mad because it will lead to disaster and regrets. Finally, accept. Accept that certain situations need closure within you. Whether the situation is confronted or not, the relationship ends for a certain reason, and anger is one of the byproducts. Pent-up anger is a double-cross- a ticking time bomb ready to destroy when triggered. Healing this emotion takes great time, power, effort, and a whole lot of intellectual and even moral strength. So good luck. You can do it. Travel, meet new people, and learn a new skill if you have the chance. This will take you somewhere. Your anger and your ex won't.

Find a way to express it. In dance or art or something that you enjoy that you feel really communicates with your soul. Paint in all red, dance to metal music, sing every empowerment song you can think of. Find your way to express anger through any sort of outlet. That's really helped me in the past, being able to take the anger inside of my body and mind and place it somewhere outwardly. When it was outside of my own mind, it was easier for me to walk away from all the anger, to leave it far behind me.

It can be very cathartic to let go of pent up anger toward an ex. When a relationship ends and one is left with anger is can be quite cathartic to write a good bye letter to your ex. In this letter write all of your frustrations, disappointments and reasons why you feel anger. Sign the letter, read it out loud and take time to feel the emotions reading the letter brings up. Sit with the emotions as they are all okay to notice/feel. Register what the emotions are but don't be concerned about being overly attached. If you have a place where the letter can be burnt safely; have a good bye ceremony and burn the letter and say good-bye! (Or good-riddance if it was really bad.) If you are in a place where you can't burn it safely take the letter and tear it to small pieces! Bye bye! Following the burning or tearing of the letter to your ex let go of the anger you feel say good bye to it. Congratulate yourself for saying good bye! Follow up by forgiving your ex (and yourself.)

It's hard to let go of anger towards an ex who has hurt you. The truth is that over time, the anger goes away. Reminding yourself of what you are looking for in a partner and how they weren't the best match for you helps you in letting go of that anger. Choose peace and happiness for yourself over being angry. In my opinion, we can't stay angry forever and staying angry won't contribute to our overall happiness. It's better to let go of things we can't control (other people's actions toward us) and focus on the things we DO have control over. Choose happiness, choose yourself, choose peace.

I was the textbook victim when it came to my ex. There was a lot of emotional pain that I had to see before I could begin my forgiveness path. While learning more about myself through learning about self awareness, I was able to see how much I had contributed to my own choices. So the short answer would be 1. recognize and focus on the anger - give that part a name, such as betrayal or hurt 2. Once you know what you are dealing with, breathe. It takes a little bit to process. 3. You don't have to forget but finding peace is what is important - not giving your ex anything. This forgiveness is for you to feel better, not them. 4. this is a bonus. Change is hard for anyone, and anger is part of this change. It will get better.

Holding onto negative feelings poison our inner self and threatens our well being. Anger is energy and it can be transformed into something positive. By taking good care of your own self, loving yourself and dedicating yourself to your passions and interests, you will be able to let go of those feeling cos you'll be to busy doing something great and extremely rewarding. This way you'll bring joy into your life and into the one of those around you. Smile and life will smile back at you. Don't let your past define your present and your future. Let the light shine upon yourself.

It's really easy to let feelings of hurt and anger build up toward an ex. But it takes a lot of energy to keep that hostility and anger directed at them, which takes away from your own life. For me, it took accepting both our roles in whatever it was I was angry about (and acceptance does not mean making it ok, but realizing that yes this is what I did, this is what they did, and yes it sucks kind of thing), and being compassionate toward myself. As I was gentle with myself, and realized how hard it was on both of us, and that I was wasting energy spitting venom at my ex, I was able to let it go. It's not an easy process! Recognize the good, recognize what made you angry, and acknowledge that it's ok to feel angry and hurt. But your ex doesn't deserve all that energy anymore. Focus it on you and turning it into helpful energy.

Write it all down what you want to say to your ex and never really send it.Doing this will make you feel much better and maybe not entirely but it will lessen your anger for that moment. Thats one way to vent the anger out.Also, try to keep a diary and focus on the thought flow after you write your feelings down . This will work slowly but it relaxes alot and one fine day you will woke up and never even realise the problem existed. It may sound old school but meditation and writing a diary will always workout in the long term process. Do not beat yourself up. Be very kind and learn to love yourself.

Well, I learnt that forgiveness is not accepting what happened to you. It is accepting that it has already happened, not that it was okay for it to happen, but it has happened so what are you going to do about it? Once this is understood, you will not hold any grudge for anything or any situation. Because you will learn how to let go of the past, or anger so that it doesn't hold you a prisoner. My advice? Yes, they made you angry, but they also made you stronger, better and showed you exactly what you don't want. Someone once said, the best revenge is never taking revenge but actually letting go, moving on and creating the best version of yourself and forgetting about the past.

The good thing is you recognize and own you have pent up anger. Next, identify what the anger is about. Try to determine if it is about one thing or multiple things. Once that has been determined, write it down, say it out loud. If you did something to hurt your ex ask for forgiveness. Then, ask for permission to say why you are angry with him/her. After, that you may feel better. The goal is to get to the underlining reason(s) for the anger. Talking with your ex may also allow him/her to reveal any anger on their part. You may find out what you were angry about was caused by lack of communication.

As a person who had pent up anger towards several people I found it very helpful to write a letter of forgiveness. It may be hard but write a letter of forgiveness on paper or an online document, then burn the paper or delete the document. I personally don't recommend burning anything as it can be very dangerous but if you feel safe enough and that it is the best choice I am unable to stop you. Also meditation and breathing activities on here have been known to help with people who are feeling distressed or simply just need a distraction.

Acceptance is freedom. Do yourself a favor and let go of that anger so you can move on with your life and better yourself. If you keep that anger in, then it will only stop you from reaching that full potential. My ex cheated on me and I was angry for a long time. I spent so much of my time and energy thinking about him and what I would say if he messaged me again. It just made me miss him more and become depressed. By letting that go I was allowed to go meet new people and improve my life by working out more and focusing more on my hobbies.

Find a way to move on. Once you’ve done that, you have found a sense of freedom from him/ her. And I know this is easier said than done. You need to distract yourself, and do things you love! Relax. Play with a pet, talk to an old friend, eat some chocolate! Find what makes you happy, and do that! And, at the end of the day, you need to understand that in life, you lose some people, and it can be hard. But in loss, you will find someone new, be that in a relationship, or even making an awesome new friend! All the best x

Deal with the anger first, don't bottle it up too much but also find a positive outlet for the anger (rather than punching a wall for example). You need to be able to express yourself and work to make yourslef feel better :) Deal with the anger through time and eventually you will begin to feel better. Time is also a great healer, so keep in mind that whilst some things may feel too difficult to deal with at that very moment, over time it will get easier and a positive outlet may become clear. Good luck from me as always!

One of the best ways to do this would to, if you have anything of his/hers, get rid of it in someway. Either give it back or donate it somewheres. After that or if you only have memories with them, ty to replace them with memories of good stuff. Like with your friends or people you love. It may be hard, but one of the best ways to let go of something like this would be to try to get them out of your life as much as you can. Then it’ll be easer to forget them and go on with letting go of your anger to them.

Well in my case , even tho he used to be my best friend we had no day we didn't talk for a couple of years, then we decided to date..but one day he just ghosted me no explanation ..not a good explanation anyway.. I started to think about the time we were together ..the positive memories .the way he made me feel while together ...he was very gentle and considerate...a gentleman .so even tho he hurt me and made me feel worthless...there are some good memories ..plus he helped me start drving school, I quit smoking for him and I also lost a lot of weight because of the love I had for him...even tho it is painful..I wish him the best ...

The best thing you already did, is to excommunicate, that person, and he/she is an " ex" now, so they dont exist physically in front of you anymore. The next work that remains to be done is to distance them emotionally too. Lets start that with , releasing that person, by forgiving for all they did to you. Its not easy but it is necessary. Its important for you to be free from any such attachments with that person in thought and deed. Whatever betrayal, mistrust they meant to you, is over now . They are out of your bounds , once you release them and be free yourselves. Look at every thought that comes to you about them, with no emotions - as they meant nothing to you. This is one sure way to engage your emotions in a better way, which can lead to changed behavior and give you more control on your reactions like Anger or hatred. Go for it !!.

That pent up anger is not entirely directed at your ex. Your anger is directed at a version of your ex you hold in your mind. You are angry at the deeper emotions you feel toward her - betrayed? Confused? Unappreciated? Unworthy? Self-doubt? What is it about her that connects with the hurting place inside you? You have pent up anger because there are deeper issues inside you that you have not faced and come to peace with. Maybe it is a archetypal thing. Your ex represents all ex's or future ex's. Of letting someone into your life and getting hurt. Of being surprised that you didn't see it coming and worrying you may not see the warning signs in the future. etc.

I recently experienced a break up two years ago (4 year relationship) and this year (1 year relationship). I was angry, sad, unmotivated, depressed, and lost. Something that I personally did was watch motivation videos on Youtube! I remember this one video I watched. One of the individuals stated "You would never allow a thief to enter your home and live there rent free, so why do you allow thoughts that steal your joy to enter and live inside your mind? Let it go". I don't mean let it go as in go punch a wall or something. I mean it as literally just let it go. From personal experience, letting go of pent of anger only leads to bitter situation. Here I'll give you an example. One time my ex (Relation that lasted 4 years one) broke up with me for the first time during the 4 years, I was only around 16 years of age. However, when she did break up with me at that time over the phone since it was long distance, I threw my chair and knocked down things in my room in anger (I was very immature). That only lead to a more bitter situation. So the lesson here is to just let that anger go, leave it in the past, don't let it get in the way, if you allow the anger to "invade your mind like a virus it will only affect your life in every other area". The best revenge I have learned is just to move on and do nothing. So.. this is how I let go of pent up anger towards an ex. I really hoped I helped you.

Letting go of pent up anger can be hard thing to overcome especially if you had strong feelings towards the other person. There are a variety of different things you could try to help you overcome this feeling. one of the many ways would be to talked to your ex let go all of your emotions tell them how your feeling why your feeling this way. Or if your not a very good at confronting a person face to face you could always send them how you feel in a text message or letter you could choose to send it or to burn it whatever works best for you. Talking to friends or family also help and forgiveness can set you free.