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Loneliness and conversations with the wrong people

When you don't have much going for you in life, and your lonely all the time, you get kinda desperate.  That is what happens to me and often times I find myself talking to whoever will talk back to me, and often times those are not good conversations. 

As I write this, I'm also thinking about those busy people that have too many people to talk to.  They don't have time to answer all of their emails.  It is hard for me to wrap my brain around it.  Often times I feel like a loser.  Because society doesn't pay attention to me because I'm not dong enough.  I don't have a bunch of talents.  And I'm not that interested in the things I'm interested in.  When you got almost no people in your life, then what is the point of having interests that you can't share with anyone.

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Chefhotlava2 October 22nd

@tryingtosurvive2024 I feel like you’re in my head saying what I feel. I hope we both find the tribe we belong in 

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 24th

@Chefhotlava2  Help!  I'm stuck in Chefhotlana2's head!  🤣

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Lovelight1211 October 23rd

@tryingtosurvive2024 Remember that you are never alone- there are many people out there who feel lonely and most people feel lonely at some point or another. You will be okay and you are stronger inside than you think.

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 24th

@Lovelight1211  Judging from all the responses my threads have gotten, there are a lot of lonely and friendless people on this site.

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Lovelight1211 October 24th

@tryingtosurvive2024 Maybe, if so then they are all here together feeling the same emotion so not truly alone. Maybe there is comfort in that thought.

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GoodTrouble19 October 23rd

@tryingtosurvive2024 I struggle with lack of interest too. It sucks. I want to do things but don’t feel like doing them.

GoodTrouble19 October 23rd

@tryingtosurvive2024 I’ve felt desperate too.

Reaper17 October 24th

@tryingtosurvive2024 i understand where you re coming from but being busy doesnt get rid of lonliness neither does talking to a lot of people because you can still end up feeling lonely. I think when we get scared to put ourselves out there we underestimate ourselves and because we dont pursue those experiences that make life...life this is for you when you hide yourself from people believing they wont respond well to you. We need to show a part of our real selves to other people and in a process of trial and error you find your people.


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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 24th

@Reaper17 How long does that take?  I feel like I've been putting myself out there for 22 years.  lol

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Reaper17 October 24th

@tryingtosurvive2024 to be honest i havent been alive for 22 years but i think this is what life is you keep trying and still try when you get disappointed.

For example i just started uni in another city and i m not a fan of the people here but i know i ll find people i can enjoy myself with so i keep making efforts and when you dont take yourself seriously something i only started now, you have in the effort part of it. I ll pursue interests and find people there and try new things even though every small set back makes me want to run make home. I guess the point is having hope and enjoying the process.

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 24th

@Reaper17  I wish you good luck.

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Hopey9831 October 24th

@tryingtosurvive2024

Hi ! I do so relate to you, in that i don't have a bunch of talents and i'm not that interested in the things i'm interested in and I do oftentimes know that I'm a loser.  Still, there is a place for us in this world, even though we may not be acknowledged by others.  There must be a place for us, otherwise, we would be long gone. 

I reckon we best be our best buddies ourselves ; share your own interests with yourself, talk to yourself, be with yourself.  It may sound crazy but maybe, I think instead of finding another person to talk with (cuz it's just too difficult), to do things with, to understand me, the easiest would be to help myself understand me, to talk with me, to cultivate interests with me (cuz i'm always available for me) lol... I hope you understand what I'm trying to articulate. 🤣  Then, perhaps, I'll find that there is actually a lot going on in my life.  As then, I will find the interests to pursue the interests that interests me and not pursue the interests that interests others, so that they will like and be interested in me. 

😅 ... and now I'm interested in going off to dreamland.  Good night !  I hope you find yourself interesting enough to say that you are no longer lonely. 😘


DarkMessiah October 24th

@tryingtosurvive2024 hey you aren't a loser at all. I'm here for you, I'm your friend. You can talk to me, message me, chat with me whenever you feel like you need someone or are alone. I'll always be here for you!☺️

sunnyApricot258 October 24th

I know exactly what you mean. I’m in the same boat🙏

livbinny October 24th

That you can’t share w anyone but yourseld

totally get it

i feel you

i really do

My conclusion is:

live for yourself

also what I got reminded from one stranger is also:

just fight for yourself not anyone else


✊🏻💔🩵💓

livbinny October 24th

And also, things like going for mindful observation of nature, your diary, or venting the thoughts here, all safe spaces n much better than the temptation of convos that end up meaningless

we all got this

👏🏻💚❤️🕊️💛

one step at time

if that’s a lot

then just let it be n flow