Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In Friday 31st August 2018
Wow, can you believe its already the last day of August? Im sitting up at 1am realizing this is my only time to write the check-in (I am currently Couchsurfing, and my hosts have kept me up late!) because I am likely going to be spending all of tomorrow morning taking out the thermostat from my car / troubleshooting / installing a new gasket if we break the gasket in the process. My engine has been running hot for a mystery reason (I have a new radiator, a new radiator fan, just had a coolant flush, the oil was just changed, no fuses are blown, and nothing is leaking!) and I have to cross the Rockies tomorrow - so Ive got to fix it beforehand!
When you are traveling, things never go entirely as planned. Ive learned this on my 5 road trips across the U.S. Each trip I make, Ive noticed I know more about how my car works because I learn as I go, and I notice I always happen to run into exactly the help I need. For instance: my new roommate is a mechanic, so he has been giving me advice, and the person I am Couchsurfing with tonight just happens to know how to take out a thermostat! He is going to help me with it tomorrow morning.
I am wondering for todays check-in what your thoughts are on what we have our eyes open to in life and what we are on the lookout for. Do you find that your eyes are open to see help that is offered you right when you need it? Do you find it difficult to trust certain kinds of help in particular? As always, share a little, or share a lot♥️
@singercrystalspirit
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@singercrystalspirit
Wow, Im just in awe of your car fixing skills! If youre ever in England I need some new brake pads please :)
I certainly have the feeling that the universe delivers at times. Very recently for me I had a couple of examples of that.
Example 1, Id had a minor car accident but it meant my car was unroadworthy with a buckled wheel. As I stood at the side of the road wondering what to do, (it was after 6 and most businesses shut down for the night around that time in my part of the world. And I also discovered I dont have a spare wheel - who knew), a recovery truck happened to drive by, stopped, offered to help, replaced my wheel and sent me on my way.
Example 2, Im just in the process of buying a new property. I was bemoaning my lack of money, wishing for a windfall. There was a letter on the table in front of me, Id assumed it was junk mail. But something made me open it at that time and it contained details of an investment I have thats performing far better than predicted - so looks like my windfall has come true!
I have to say Ive also had some pretty lousy luck with my house buying, but even then I wonder if it happens for a reason. As in certain properties werent meant to be. I certainly find it a more uplifting way to deal with setbacks anyway, sort of roll with the punches. Then again, there are times in life where it seems to just be a barrage of punches and it can be hard to see any silver lining. But even when in a dark hole, I would always advocate looking up towards the light.
@DeborahUK those are 2 awesome examples
@DeborahUK
I agree I love those two examples! Wow! I have thought about that a lot lately — seeing everything as positive when possible. I think Louise Hay says
@singercrystalspirit i have certainly found that to be true just when something goes wrong someone comes into your life to help at that moment its amazing isn't it
@CaringBrit
Hey! 👋🏼
I am excited you have experienced it too. I really do think it is amazing and I have seen all sorts of theories on it, one of my favorites breaks it down into the laws of physics and that we are literally sending and receiving energy unseen. Thats why its so important some people teach us to focus focus focus on positive things as much as we possibly can. I hope you are having a good day 😊
@singercrystalspirit i am ty for asking hope you are too along with everyone else here if not healing hugs
@singercrystalspirit
Hope everything turns out Ok! A trip across the US sounds so cool
I'm sick and in bed and everything's gross but yesterday was good
@wittySpruce8187
Hey! 👋🏼
Thank you 😊
I am so sorry you are sick! That is no fun. Will you at least get to watch some good movies or shows or maybe have some chicken soup? Take good care. *sending care package over*
@singercrystalspirit
*accepts the care package*
Thank you so much!
Yea I binged the second season of the Good Place bc they finally put it on Netflix
@wittySpruce8187 hope you feel better asap
@CaringBrit
Thank you💜
@wittySpruce8187 <3
@wittySpruce8187
I'm sorry to hear your not feeling good!! 🤒😷 I hope you get lots of sleep!!!! Get Well Soon! 💐
@KLM3278
Thank you!💜 ya ive gotten to sleep a lot which is nice
@wittySpruce8187
I'm SO glad!!!! ❤️❤️
@wittySpruce8187
Im sorry to hear you are ill.Wishing you a speedy recovery
@LoveFromSara
Thank you 💜
hi
I personally find it very difficult to trust help that is given to me. Since I have had such awful experiances with certain therapists, wards and doctors I tend to just neglect the help assuming that it will either be a mistake or there will be strings attachted. However, today I am trying to move past that. My family wants me to enroll in a type of natrue oriented boarding school that specialises in rehabilitation of students who are mentally ill. So my big step today was instead of doubting it and refusing help, I actually went online and checked it out, I then told my mom that if she wanted to she could fill out the application for me. I'm not sure if I'm wanting to do this because I want to finally accept help or if its because I need a new place to live like now. But im trying to be positive through this because things are not looking so great in my life currently.
@lilberry
Hey Liberry. I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time in life. I want to say that i think the fact you checked this out on-line FOR YOURSELF is a real big deal!!!! You took a step in your own treatment and your own life. You can't control a lot of things ya know. But you can control your reactions, and decide to take steps in your own treatment. Way to go! I don't know, but it sounds to me like you're willing to take a chance and again on care. That's a step of trust. So hard to do ❤️ I really hope you like the new treatment place. It sounds really good! I love nature ❤️🍂🍁🌲 Sometimes a new place, change of scenery, really can help!!!! Keep going!!! And remember you're not alone! We are cheering you on 🙏🏻❤️
@lilberry
Hi Lilberry
Im sorry you have had such awefull experiences and understand how that can make it hard to trust and accept help. So what you did with checking this out, being open to it, and then after some research choosing to prepare an applikation is indeed a big step. Really something to be proud of.
We are here to support you too, and to celebrate your steps, big and small, you are not alone.
@singercrystalspirit
Hi!
@sensitiveShade5337
How are you doing today Shade?❤️❤️❤️❤️
@KLM3278
Im so tired and kinda grumpy..
i think I'm having too many emotions, gotta schedule an appointment with my therapist
@sensitiveShade5337
Oh Shade, safe Hug if you want one ❤️❤️ We all have days like that. Maybe seeing your counselor will feel like a hug sorta???? I wish I could make it all better for you. Just know I'm praying for you and I hope you and your counselor can talk your feelings out. Here is a stuffed bear for you to snuggle with!! 🐻
@KLM3278
I just feel so tired of things... like I so want to give up
I can't explain you how I feel, so many emotions and just.. ugh.. I just can't
thanks for the teddy
@sensitiveShade5337
I know it can get so hard. But I truly believe those thoughts we get, are whispered to us by the evil one. You are unique and amazing - you are made in the image of God and there is only ONE Shade!!! You're so loved!!!! Giving up is tempting, esp when we feel overwhelmed and defeated. But I think it's so great how you keep fighting!! You don't give up! You come here! You seek help from others!! That's a big deal! That's engaged in the fight!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Keep on keeping on! Tomorrow just might be the day everything changes! BIG BIG hug from Teddy 🐻
@KLM3278
Tomorrow I'll have to go to a wedding! I'm kinda excited because I will be so pretty but on the other hand I'm nervous about it, will see how it goes!
@sensitiveShade5337
I hope you can have a lot of fun!!!! 🤵👰🥂❤️You deserve to have a relaxing and fun day!!!!! ❤️❤️
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi Shade,
hope tomorrow will be better. Im sure you will look wonderfull in your dress and hopefully have a nice time too.
@sensitiveShade5337
Hi!!! How was the wedding? I'm sorry it took me so long to respond. I didn't realize I would be so exhausted from my trip and that I would be "MIA" from 7cups for so long. :)
@singercrystalspirit
the wedding was okay I was just not feeling in mood.. and its okay
@singercrystalspirit
Hi Singer, thanks for doing this check in enroute.. and its always a bit daunting with your first. Well done!
I've often found that the right people turn up at the time you need them and don't think its coincidence so much, more part of a bigger plan.This is given to us, the connections that may seem to come out of the blue. And likewise we may be there for others. As is said what comes round goes round.
Go well on your journeying. x
I'm fighting errands with energies.
@singercrystalspirit I sorta have both but I find it mostly hard to trust anyone for help I just I hate that I dont trust people cause it lets it all build up in me and it just feels so bad
@CindyIsNotOkay
I think I kind of know what you mean :)
I wonder if it would help to think of it not as all-or-nothing (i.e., "I trust this person" or "I don't trust this person"), but to try to think of it as "I think I can trust this particular person with this particular thing" and see how that goes? For example, you could trust a dentist (specific person) to clean your teeth properly (specific thing).
The kind of help I get is better left alone to keep from making the problem bigger. Some help just ain't worth the effort.
@scarletPear1945
Safe hug ❤️