What Would I Do Differently?

@Sel3ne

Thank you for this post! There are things in my life where I believe today that could have been done differently, also better if I would have taken different steps. Childhood issues, especially trust problems, can prevent us to take good advice because we put everything and everyone in question due to the many bad experiences we made. I am glad you do not have many regrets though and learned to understand that you matter, something I had to learn as well!

@Sel3ne

I agree! Sometimes it's hard to figure out what to choose and how to proceed. 

@Sel3ne I think whatever you do, you can never fully trust anyone and even with everything that we preach here i still believe you cant really trust anyone although you can trust people with somethings instead of everything thats a start and it helps till you learn how to navigate people in a way you understand what you can and cannot tell them for this you try to understand the person and then decide. Its okay not always trusting people but being alone can only get you so far.

@Sel3ne

thank you for this post i only live with a few regrets. but by far the biggest one is i regret  things done to my 3 kids before we lost parental rights. i did not know about places that would help me. we did not know about community' mental health  places. we did not know about safe houses or about shelters  that could help us. we lived within a abusive marriage, but did not know how to get out of it with  my kids. we had fear of at the time our hubby. he threatened to  hurt us even to take our life away and kids lives. i regret  i did not find a safe way to leave him.

the lost of my kids hurts the worst too. truth is it  worst then if my  children would have been killed. as they out there some place i offen think are they safe our they happy  do they have food do they have shelter and many other things too.

but i did after losing them run away from him and get free of him. but to me it was  to late they was gone. i not  allowed any connected  with  them i not know were they at even. i do know they was adopted  and few years later they was taken from her due to abuse. i could not keep my kids safe. this hurts so much i not talk about it mostly due to many blame me  and think the CPS workers are always right and they do what best for the children. but that not always the case sadly.

@Sel3ne I understand this feeling all too well. I lost my “blended family” to this feeling. As a man, I feel like I am a failure due to this. I thought I was making good decisions for the right reasons just to see the wrong outcomes. I learned to communicate better with my partner but it wasn’t perfect, I admit. I thought I was protecting and “waiting for the dam to break”. However, waiting and the thought of “protecting” devastated me at the end. Now my partner is my ex. She hates me, my children hate me and they were who I loved for; my purpose. So now in exile, I will be spending the next two months of U.S. holidays and my birthday alone in failure. I wish that I can “rewind” the past two years but unfortunately I don’t have a Delorian. As “my guitar gently weeps” not in my favor, I reside in my failure. I would have had made the “rights” where I turned “left”. To those who read this, thank you for your time. 😒🙏🏽