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With Empathy and Strong Desire I’m here to Listen, Suport and Empower You on Your Journey.
Number of ratings4 Number of reviews3 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Dutch, Romanian Listener sinceOct 2, 2024 Last activein last month GenderFemale PathStep 166 People helped17 Chats44 Forum posts40 Forum upvotes90
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I am currently in my second year of studying for a BSc in psychology. My career goal is to pursue a PhD in Clinical Psychology and become a Clinical Psychologist specialising in substance use disorders, mental disorders, and personality disorders. My passion lies in helping individuals overcome addiction and regain control of their lives. With empathy and a strong desire to have a positive impact, I am dedicated to promoting mental well-being and reducing the stigma surrounding addiction.

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Curiosity, Growth, and Connection 🌱
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Sel3ne
Last post
 December 6th
...See more  I’ve always been deeply curious about life, people, and understanding the world around me. Growing up, I faced a lot of confusion about certain aspects of my life, and that search for clarity and self-discovery sparked a passion for psychology. It’s been a journey of not just finding answers but also finding myself. 💡 Learning the Hard Way For much of my life, I struggled with critical thinking—not because I didn’t care, but because I saw the good in people without questioning whether they were trustworthy. It’s a beautiful trait, but it also left me vulnerable to difficult lessons. Over time, I’ve learned to pause, analyse, and approach situations with a more critical eye. Now, I embrace this balance of openness and discernment, which has transformed how I see and navigate the world. 📚 How I Keep Growing Developing my cognitive skills has been a deliberate effort. I dive into books and immerse myself in psychology to better understand myself and others. It’s not just about learning; it’s about evolving into someone who can think critically, empathise deeply, and envision a meaningful future. ❤️ Connection Is Everything For me, connecting with people means being vulnerable. And while that takes courage, it also brings immense joy and fulfilment. Deep conversations and resonating with others—sharing thoughts, experiences, and emotions—are truly my love language. It’s in these moments of connection that I feel most alive. 🌟 Let’s Connect and Grow Together I’m here to share my journey, learn from yours, and build a space where curiosity, growth, and authentic connection thrive. If this resonates with you, let’s inspire each other to keep evolving.  ⬇️ *  What’s a lesson you’ve learned through self-discovery that has completely changed how you see the world or approach relationships?  *  When it comes to connecting with others, what makes you feel the most alive and truly understood?
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Sustainable Living
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Sel3ne
Last post
 December 6th
...See more The Inner Development Goals (IDGs) remind us that true sustainability begins within. They offer a transformative framework for living with purpose, fostering well-being, and making meaningful contributions to the world. Rooted in five interconnected domains—Being, Thinking, Relating, Collaborating, and Acting—this model inspires us to embrace our fullest potential. 1. Being calls us to deepen our relationship with ourselves. By embracing our values, cultivating self-acceptance, and mastering emotional resilience, we unlock the strength to face life’s challenges with grace. It’s about discovering the power within to navigate the storms of life and emerge stronger. 2. Thinking invites us to expand our minds and imagine possibilities. With skills like critical thinking, goal setting, and creative problem-solving, we are equipped to address the complex issues of our time. It reminds us that every solution begins with a vision and a willingness to think beyond the ordinary. 3. Relating inspires us to build bridges of trust and compassion. Through empathy, humility, and gratitude, we create connections that heal and nurture both individuals and communities. Caring for others and the planet reminds us that our lives are intertwined, and together, we can create a world rooted in kindness and mutual respect. 4. Collaborating is a call to action for unity. It encourages us to work as a team, embrace diversity, and communicate mindfully. Collaboration is a powerful reminder that the greatest achievements arise when we come together, driven by a shared vision. 5.  Acting empowers us to make courageous changes. With resilience, hope, and optimism, we are capable of transforming dreams into reality. It’s about turning intentions into impact and leaving a legacy of positive change. These five pillars remind us that inner growth is the foundation for a better world. Together, they inspire us to lead lives of purpose, compassion, and courage—lives that not only sustain us but also nurture the world around us. The journey starts within, and the possibilities are limitless. Which of the five IDG domains resonates most with you, and how could you start developing this area in your life today? How can fostering inner development within yourself inspire positive change in your relationships and community?
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Being in Relationship with Myself: Cultivating Presence
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Sel3ne
Last post
 Monday
...See more One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned in my journey is the importance of being in a relationship with myself—of truly showing up for me. For so long, I thought presence was about being fully engaged with others, but I’ve realised that the foundation of presence lies in how I connect with myself.  To me, presence means being in the here and now without judgment or distractions. It’s about stepping out of autopilot mode and choosing to notice what’s happening within and around me. Yet, being present isn’t always easy. My mind often pulls me into the past, replaying old stories, or it rushes ahead into the future, filled with plans or worries. In those moments, I gently remind myself to pause and ask: “What’s happening right now? What am I feeling, sensing, or experiencing in this moment?”. When I embrace presence, I notice life in sharper detail—the way sunlight filters through the window, the rhythm of my breath, or even the subtle weight of emotions I might otherwise ignore. It’s in these moments of open-ended presence that I find clarity and connection, not just with the world but with myself.  Being present with myself also requires letting go of judgment. When I notice self-criticism creeping in, I try to acknowledge it without letting it take over. Instead of judging my emotions or thoughts, I strive to hold them with curiosity and compassion, asking,  “What might this be trying to tell me?” It’s not always comfortable. Sometimes, being fully present means facing the parts of myself, I’d rather avoid—fear, doubt, or pain. But I’ve learned that these moments are where true growth happens. When I stay with myself, even through discomfort, I find a deeper sense of grounding and self-trust.   The gift of presence is that it helps me make the most of the opportunities of the now. Whether it’s savouring a quiet moment, noticing something beautiful, or simply allowing myself to rest, presence reminds me that life is happening here,  not in the past or the future.   1.  How often do you take time to be fully present with yourself? What helps you reconnect when you feel distracted or disconnected?   2.  What does being in a judgment-free relationship with yourself look like for you? How might this deepen your self-awareness?  I’d love to hear your reflections and learn from you, guys. How do you cultivate presence in your daily life? 🌿💚
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Openness and Learning Mindset: A Personal Reflection
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Sel3ne
Last post
 December 4th
...See more  As I journey through the Inner Development Goals course, I’ve come to see how essential Openness and a Learning Mindset are—not only as abstract ideals but as transformative forces in my own growth. Reflecting on my past, I realise that a few years ago, I held rigid views and was less open to new ideas. However, today, for me, openness encompasses more than just embracing fresh perspectives; it involves welcoming the discomfort that comes with exploring the unknown and allowing my viewpoints to be challenged. It’s a heartfelt commitment to stay curious and non-defensive, even when my beliefs feel deeply ingrained.   A Growth mindset, on the other hand, is the fuel that keeps me moving forward. It reminds me that every experience—whether I label it as success or failure—is an opportunity to grow. When I reflect on past moments, I notice that the times I’ve truly grown weren’t when things were easy or straightforward but when I leaned into questions like, “Damn, how did I end up here?” “What can I learn from this?” or “How might I approach this differently next time?”   One of the most profound lessons I’ve absorbed is that openness and learning are intertwined. When I close myself off—whether due to fear, pride, or stubbornness—I halt the learning process. But when I intentionally cultivate a mindset of curiosity ( one of my dominant character strengths), I find that even challenges feel lighter and more manageable. This shift doesn’t come naturally every day. I often need to remind myself to pause and ask: Am I approaching this with curiosity or judgment?*   This exploration has also taught me the value of vulnerability in learning. Being open often means admitting I don’t have all the answers, and that’s okay. It’s in those moments of uncertainty that I’ve found the greatest breakthroughs—whether in relationships, work, or personal understanding.   1. When was the last time you intentionally embraced openness in a situation that challenged you? How did it shape the outcome? 2. What practices or habits help you stay in a learning mindset, especially when faced with setbacks or criticism?   I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences! Let’s grow together. 🌱
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What Would I Do Differently?
7 Cups Online Therapy / by Sel3ne
Last post
 November 14th
...See more Well, to begin with, I would not have wasted so much time thinking and believing, “I know better,” and adopting the mindset of “me against the world.” Instead, I should have been open-minded and listened to those who truly wanted the best for me. I don’t regret much in my life; otherwise, I wouldn’t be here today as the person I am now. However, having trust issues since childhood makes it difficult to know whom to trust. You end up trusting nobody and choosing to go your own way because you believe your way is “better.”   What would I do differently? I would listen. I would speak out instead of repressing my feelings, and I would do everything to ensure I am heard because, yes, I matter!
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Saying NO Is Self-Love
Addiction Support / by Sel3ne
Last post
 October 28th
...See more Attend to your feelings when you say No. How do you feel afterwards? You may feel fearful that you will lose a friend. You may think at times that saying NO means not having as much fun. But …where would a Yes lead you? Would you regret it afterwards?  Saying "no" can absolutely be a good thing! It sets boundaries, protects your energy, and preserves your mental well-being. It shows you know your limits and value your time. Sometimes, people feel guilty for saying no, but remember that saying no to one thing often means saying yes to something more important—like your own needs or priorities. Do you find it hard to say no in certain situations?
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