What Would I Do Differently?
Well, to begin with, I would not have wasted so much time thinking and believing, “I know better,” and adopting the mindset of “me against the world.” Instead, I should have been open-minded and listened to those who truly wanted the best for me. I don’t regret much in my life; otherwise, I wouldn’t be here today as the person I am now. However, having trust issues since childhood makes it difficult to know whom to trust. You end up trusting nobody and choosing to go your own way because you believe your way is “better.”
What would I do differently? I would listen. I would speak out instead of repressing my feelings, and I would do everything to ensure I am heard because, yes, I matter!
@Sel3ne
Thank you for this post! There are things in my life where I believe today that could have been done differently, also better if I would have taken different steps. Childhood issues, especially trust problems, can prevent us to take good advice because we put everything and everyone in question due to the many bad experiences we made. I am glad you do not have many regrets though and learned to understand that you matter, something I had to learn as well!
@amiablePeace77
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and honest reflection. It sounds like you've also been through some deeply challenging experiences, especially regarding trust and the impact of childhood issues. It's incredibly courageous to recognise and reflect on those moments when things could have been different—this kind of self-awareness is a powerful step toward healing ❤️🩹 .
Thank you again for your openness.🙏🏻
@Sel3ne
I agree! Sometimes it's hard to figure out what to choose and how to proceed.
@Sel3ne I think whatever you do, you can never fully trust anyone and even with everything that we preach here i still believe you cant really trust anyone although you can trust people with somethings instead of everything thats a start and it helps till you learn how to navigate people in a way you understand what you can and cannot tell them for this you try to understand the person and then decide. Its okay not always trusting people but being alone can only get you so far.
@Sel3ne
thank you for this post i only live with a few regrets. but by far the biggest one is i regret things done to my 3 kids before we lost parental rights. i did not know about places that would help me. we did not know about community' mental health places. we did not know about safe houses or about shelters that could help us. we lived within a abusive marriage, but did not know how to get out of it with my kids. we had fear of at the time our hubby. he threatened to hurt us even to take our life away and kids lives. i regret i did not find a safe way to leave him.
the lost of my kids hurts the worst too. truth is it worst then if my children would have been killed. as they out there some place i offen think are they safe our they happy do they have food do they have shelter and many other things too.
but i did after losing them run away from him and get free of him. but to me it was to late they was gone. i not allowed any connected with them i not know were they at even. i do know they was adopted and few years later they was taken from her due to abuse. i could not keep my kids safe. this hurts so much i not talk about it mostly due to many blame me and think the CPS workers are always right and they do what best for the children. but that not always the case sadly.
@Sel3ne I understand this feeling all too well. I lost my “blended family” to this feeling. As a man, I feel like I am a failure due to this. I thought I was making good decisions for the right reasons just to see the wrong outcomes. I learned to communicate better with my partner but it wasn’t perfect, I admit. I thought I was protecting and “waiting for the dam to break”. However, waiting and the thought of “protecting” devastated me at the end. Now my partner is my ex. She hates me, my children hate me and they were who I loved for; my purpose. So now in exile, I will be spending the next two months of U.S. holidays and my birthday alone in failure. I wish that I can “rewind” the past two years but unfortunately I don’t have a Delorian. As “my guitar gently weeps” not in my favor, I reside in my failure. I would have had made the “rights” where I turned “left”. To those who read this, thank you for your time. 😒🙏🏽
