November 2019 Community Update: A Return to Community
I will be writing a series of monthly posts titled Community Update throughout this year and into 2020. This is the first in the series.
When we first started 7 Cups, we were primarily focused on our community. All we cared about was building a tribe of people that deliberately cared for one another. We were able to maintain this focus from 2013-2016. Then we started running out of money and had to find ways to sustain ourselves. We were successful in that, but it also caused us to lose sight of the importance of our community. We are now, finally, in a spot where we can return to community.
There have been a number of recent changes. I know that it has been difficult. The opportunity in going through change is that it allows you to re-set - or start again - in a new direction that ultimately ends up impacting the trajectory of where you go. Think about this like raising a child. The right teacher or mentor, at the right time, can make a big impact and change the future life of that child as a teen and adult. Knowing that change is an opportunity to re-set does not make it easier, but it does provide a frame to better understand the picture of what is happening.
The first thing we want to do is conduct a deep assessment of our community strengths and weaknesses. What are the things that come natural to us? Where do we excel? What are we uniquely good at? We need answers from all of you on these questions so we can better amplify our strengths.
You typically make much more progress in life by building on your strengths. For example - if you are just okay at playing an instrument, but you are great at writing, then it makes a lot of sense to build up your writing skill, because that will help them get a lot further in life.
We also want to assess our weaknesses. Where are we not performing as well as we need to perform? What are our biggest limitations? What are we unaware of ? The key point of asking these questions is so that we can better understand them so we can then deliberately address them.
How do we address them?
We do it through a system called OKRs or Objectives and Key Results. For example, lets say we want to increase the quality of our emotional support chats. Wed create the following OKR:
Objective: Significantly increase the quality of emotional support chats.
Key Result 1: Increase helpful chats by 5% each month
Key Result 2: Decrease dropped chats - chats where the member or listener stops engaging - by 5% each month.
We have used an OKR system for the last several years. We, by working more closely with the community and community leadership, have an opportunity to align on our objectives to make more progress and better help people. Ill be thinking on how we can best do that in the coming weeks.
In the past times of transition, and in this recent transition, there have been several of you that have been encouraging. You have said things like: I know this has been tough. I appreciate the hard work and know that you and the team are trying. We are getting there one step at a time :). This means a lot to me and to everyone on the team. It fills up our love tank and gives us fuel to keep moving ahead. Thank you!
Throughout 7 Cups history, particularly during transitions, there have also been smaller groups of people that provide feedback in less helpful ways. I believe that they have good intentions, but the style makes it difficult to hear the feedback. I want to step back and provide guidance here on how to best provide feedback so it can be better heard, understood, and acted upon. This is called the sandwich approach:
-Bread - say something positive
-Meat - address the negative issue/item
-Bread - say something positive
When difficult feedback is provided in this way, it makes it much more easier to metabolize (pun intended).
Think of a time when someone has given you feedback. When it comes off as judgemental or angry it is much harder to hear; when it comes off as - I am here to help you, we are on the same team, here are some things you are doing good and here are some items you can do better - then it is much more effective.
Here are a number of things you can do to immediately help:
1. Complete this survey on our strengths and weaknesses. Please take your time and answer thoughtfully.
2. Commit to telling community leaders (community managers, ambassadors, mentors, mentor leaders, peer support, mods etc.) that you appreciate them and the hard work they are doing. I am committing to doing this several times a week and am going to work to make it a habit. We have hundreds of volunteer leaders in our community that work very hard to make 7 Cups a supportive environment. It would be great for them to hear how much they matter to all of us. (and though I'm mentioning different community leaders here; please also be sure to also express appreciation to our kind-hearted listeners. They are also showing a tremendous amount of compassion and service to provide care to all of us.)
3. Post in the 3 key things thread - many of you are doing a tremendous amount of work on 7 Cups and very little people can see it. If you post in this thread, then you can begin to see all the work that is being done AND you can find people to better support in their efforts. This can be 3 key things you did in a day, week, or month. It is meant as a simple way to share what you are doing. For example, today I posted:
-met with community leadership team
-drafted a return to community post
-created survey to better understand community strengths and weaknesses
We will be releasing details on badges soon that will be related to 3 key things.
4. 7 Cups is not going anywhere AND we welcome your beams! Leading 7 Cups all these years has been extraordinarily rewarding. It has also been really tough. There have been a lot of painful bumps in the road. The past is the best predictor of the future, so my guess is that it will continue to be rewarding and, at times, it will also continue to be painful. This has been true for me, for my wife, for our team, for our community leaders, and for our community. If you think, meditate, send good vibes, pray, send beams, and/or well wishes, then we will gladly take any and all of them! I believe this helps and we would collectively welcome the support!
To close this November update, community is a top priority for the remainder of this year and all of 2020. We are focused. We need your help to build on our strengths and shore up our weaknesses. We have come very far since we launched in 2013. We have a long ways to go!
Thank you for being on this journey with me!