Building Self-esteem Series: It is a Wrap!
Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. Thank you for joining me on this incredible journey towards building self-esteem. This kind of work on growth and development is challenging but incredibly rewarding. I am glad to walk this path with you. I believe we have covered the foundations of building self-esteem and some effective techniques were introduced that make a big difference. I do not want to overwhelm you with more and more information as that can end up in you not being able to apply what we have learned. So it's much better for you to master all that is covered and explore more techniques on your own at your own pace. The end of this series is not the end of your journey, this is just the start. Together we have laid the foundation and now it is time for you to design and execute the details.
I am summarizing all the actionable items from the various posts of this series.
- Identify Your Core Values: These are your maps, you can not reach the right destination if you don’t know where you should go and you can’t tell where you should go if you don’t know what you stand for in life.
- Practice Making Decisions Aligned with Your Values: When faced with choices, use the FAST method, Fair: Be fair to yourself and others. Consider everyone's needs, Authentic: Act in accordance with who you are, with consideration but without apology. Stick to Your Values: Don't compromise your beliefs to please others. Truthful: Be honest and avoid making excuses.
- Develop a growth mindset: Learn to accept failure and setbacks as inevitable and guaranteed part of life. Making a mistake is not the real mistake, its not learning from it that gets us. Same goes for failing. You must fail in order to succeed. It is the only way!
- Reflect on Your Accomplishments: Take time to acknowledge your achievements, big or small. This helps you recognize your progress and builds confidence.
- Set SMART Goals for Self-Esteem: Create specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound goals for improving your self-esteem. These will give you direction and a sense of accomplishment as you reach them.
- Track Your Progress to remain accountable: Monitor your progress towards your self-esteem goals. This helps you stay accountable and celebrate your wins along the way.
- Spend time supporting and helping others: Consistently do acts of service in alignment with your core values. Feed your neighbors, donate to a cause you care about etc
- Write self-love letters: Write to yourself like you are someone you care about, someone you respect, someone you love, someone you are responsible for. Email those to yourself. Read these letters when the going gets tough.
Ultimately through all these actions what you are doing is building respect for yourself, giving yourself reasons to respect yourself and in doing so, you are setting the standards for others to do the same. Once these foundations are strengthened, you can move to exercises that can keep you on track.
Further Resources
- 15 Best Self-Esteem Worksheets and Activities
- The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: The Definitive Work on Self-Esteem by the Leading Pioneer in the Field – Nathaniel Branden
Question for you
What has been the most effective/helpful concept taught in this series?
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What has been the most effective/helpful concept taught in this series?
The values clarification helped me get a better sense of myself, which helps me know if I'm living up to my own understanding of what matters most.
What has been the most effective/helpful concept taught in this series?
@Hope
Thank you for this series as I have found it very useful and informative. The methods which I have found the most effective is developing a growth mindset for self esteem and using the FAST method.
i think the fast method was the most helpful concept to me. i always struggled in making decisions and it helped me simplify the process and prevented me from making decisions where i would feel guilty and resentment later on. developing a growth mindset was another method that was quite helpful. i struggle with perfectionism and reframing my thoughts that my setbacks are stepping stones of my journey was also very helpful. actually, all the concepts introduced here were quite helpful and i am excited about implementing them in the future.
What has been the most effective/helpful concept taught in this series?
I struggle a lot with fear of failure, so the fourth post really resonated with me. Getting into a growth mindset is helpful to bring me some comfort and to get me to unfreeze and move forward.
@Hope
What has been the most effective/helpful concept taught in this series?
For me, it's been uplifting others. Even before this series, I've kinda felt that helping others makes me feel better about myself and makes me feel like I have some use in this world. But I had never really realised that it can actually build self esteem. Knowing this, I can try to do it more, as much as I can. Accountability and setting SMART goals too has been helpful, that sense of accomplishment actually makes me feel better.
Thank you so much for this series, Hope. I really appreciate all the efforts you've taken for this.
@Hope Sounds amazing! Thanks ☺️
@Hope
fer of failure
@Hope.
I guess the growth mindset part was most useful
Thank you so much for the series and all the work out into it