It can be scary to confront people because....
of what might they think
I find confrontations extremely scary and uncomfortable. They make me nervous so I do everything in my power to avoid them. As youve already guessed, Im very into escapism. Confrontations in general cause tension and strain in relationships. They tend to have very negative vibes, if that makes sense. I personally avoid anything that has negative vibes because I really dont need that in my life. As it is, Im barely getting through days without thinking of topics that upset me.
I am actually very good at confronting people or be assertive. I try to confront in a very calm manner without trying to offend anyone. I have always hated the idea of hurting others but I think confronting a friend, family or partner is often important because it might help you to solve the problem. If a friend or a partner hurts you (and they might not realize it), you need to make sure that you are communicating it to them. I know it's easier said than done for most of us, but I think we must try to confront as much as we can.
It can be scary to confront people because of your worst past experiences with confronting people. But it can be different with different people. You will never know, unless try.
Because it has been inside for so long and the wall that we build around us to stay away from the world has grown so tall that it's extremely difficult and tiring to climb this wall; and if you have once tried to do it and ended up falling flat on your face, then you'd definitely not want to do it again.
If you want to get someone on the other side of the wall, you'll first have to climb to their side and and help them climb out of it.
I do confront problems and don't avoid.
The scary part is always the unpredictability of someone else's brain.
Not all books need to judged by their pages, covers are enough sometimes.
You don't know what their reactions are going to be and how they are going to feel after you've confronted them
Because I run the whole conversation through the Difficult Conversation Generator and come up with every possible version of what they could say and prepare myself for the worst-case scenario. It's exhausting, and occasionally there's a response that I didn't plan for, so then I panic and flail around as I try to stammer out anything at all.
People prefer to talk more than they want to listen. It's annoying.
(Edited by Teen Forum Star @Emily619 to remove profanity)
