Periods of longing-is this normal?

@Queencake2144 I've was in a long relationship and I too feel something like what you described often. After that, I feel sad about not having that in my life too. And rejected that no one finds me good enough to choose me. Probably as time passes, things will be better. In search of answers...

@Queencake2144

My guess is that lots of people go through that, especially when they are younger. It's probably built into human nature to propagate the species.

My other guess is that depending on the media one is watching or listening to, one could get triggered into having those kinds of daydreams and feelings, and then it becomes a habit. Habits with strong emotional rewards can be tricky to overcome. One perhaps needs to change one's mindset about the feelings and the situation. To do that, one would probably have to be mindful (pay attention) about what is going on and label the situation the right way, rather than mindlessly just ruminating or trying to have what one doesn't have.

Of course, having imaginings can also be good in many ways, as long as it isn't to the point where one is experiencing more harm than benefit.

If you search the web for your specific concerns, you'll probably find a lot of good insights and solutions for your situation.

That's all I could think of right now.

Please forgive any typos above.

@Queencake2144

Hey I know exactly how that feels.

I often want to talk about these feelings and these imaginations that I end up making. It feels a sense of completion after sharing it with someone.

I'm here if you ever want to talk about it.

And I don't think this is unusual. We are humans who crave for emotional and physical intimacy. We need to have a social circle. Our mind and body are hard wired for it. What you feel is quite normal. And I think lot of people feel this everyday

@Queencake2144 I am struggling with the same thing currently tbh and have for a long time since I have struggled with social anxiety for a long time. I feel that those feelings will stay until the need is met, so for myself I am trying to be active about messaging people through online dating and taking the initative to ask people to coffee and stuff to eventually have those needs met. Unfortunately, there may always be some gap in time between being single and dating a new person, so yeah I think some type of mindful acceptance around those feelings is what we both could do. :/

I have been journaling a lot and my counselor taught me a technique called noting/naming to be mindful of thoughts and feelings, basically writing down "I notice I am having these thoughts and feelings about xyz" and that does help give some space to the feelings but takes practice.

Hey, I wanted to add to the thread that I’ve been feeling the same way. I have moments where I want to be in a relationship with someone, but what’s been holding me back is I don’t want to get rejected, so I hide my feelings. I’ve been working on this by doing activities and trying to meet people.