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Daydreamer47
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Hi I am a 27 year old woman from the USA. I love nature and animals, art, theater, and music.

I have social anxiety and depression.

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Texting boundary triggers
Trauma Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hi, I have been struggling with using online dating sites where some people expect to text very frequently and quickly or will lose interest or think you are not interested. I am in graduate school full time, plus have depression and very severe insomnia and tbh am hanging on by thread mentally, have felt very lightheaded sometimes due to lack of sleep, so the idea of somebody being mad I am not texting every single day is so triggering. I really rely on my alone time and usually sleep like 14 hours on Saturdays. I also grew up with very emotionally abusive family especially emotionally abusive mother who did not respect boundaries (a lot of screaming, coming into room without knocking and yelling at me, if I didn't want to go to a party would throw a tantrum until I agreed to go etc) so I have a hard time with setting boundaries because I am afraid I will be yelled at and won't be safe. I've been trying to advocate for myself, say that I prefer to meet in person or phone over texting or to limit to quick check in every few days only. The person I have been talking to actually respected hearing that, which made me feel better. However, I am getting more triggered reading stuff online seeing so many people online say things like "it only takes 10 seconds to respond" etc and I start to feel invalidated and ruminate and talk to myself to try to remind myself why my feelings and boundaries are valid but it's just really triggering me a lot and makes it hard to date when people show this behavior. For the love of God don't reply with advice, just want reassurance/validation. Please respect that thank you.
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Check in Space for Day and reliableSky9730
Depression Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 February 23rd, 2024
...See more @reliableSky9730 [https://www.7cups.com/@reliableSky9730]
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Check-in Buddy Space for Day and Aderes2
Depression Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 March 2nd, 2024
...See more @Aderes2 [https://www.7cups.com/@Aderes2] How is your week going?
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Check-in Buddy Space for Day and jesusredeemedme2425
Depression Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more @jesusredeemedme2425 [https://www.7cups.com/@jesusredeemedme2425] How is your week going?
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Loneliness buddies?
Depression Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 February 29th, 2024
...See more I think I tried this before but maybe didn't followup. If you want to chat as buddies to help each other feel less lonely I can start a separate forum post (members can't use chat). Thanks. Day
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Family therapy
Trauma Support / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 January 5th, 2024
...See more Hi all, I finally had family therapy with my mom yesterday (she came onto my session). I am feeling very triggered by it today, and I couldn't fall asleep until about 5am. I am able to watch my classes from home, but I had wanted to go in person, but I just decided to take care of myself and watch from home. My mom was super emotional and kind of acted like a 5 year old child who is being told they can't have a toy. She didn't take any accountability and just painted things as I have a problem and have been shutting her out and she is "losing her daughter" even though I explained that we have a difficult relationship and I have been setting boundaries for my wellbeing. She wasn't able to show empathy towards me or really acknowledge anything about how I felt. I tried to explain I had a hard time growing up and was really shy and she was just like "you had plenty of friends". I guess I need to try to remember that I tried my best to articulate myself and my emotions, and I can be proud of that. Maybe things will improve in future sessions... or I will have to be really strong about boundaries even though she is so manipulative and just end up only talking to her like 3 times per year idk. Day (I posted this also in family community, but seems like it might be appropriate here idk)
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Family therapy with my mom
Family & Caregivers / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 March 24th, 2024
...See more Hi all, I finally had family therapy with my mom yesterday (she came onto my session). I am feeling very triggered by it today, and I couldn't fall asleep until about 5am. I am able to watch my classes from home, but I had wanted to go in person, but I just decided to take care of myself and watch from home. My mom was super emotional and kind of acted like a 5 year old child who is being told they can't have a toy. She didn't take any accountability and just painted things as I have a problem and have been shutting her out and she is "losing her daughter" even though I explained that we have a difficult relationship and I have been setting boundaries for my wellbeing. She wasn't able to show empathy towards me or really acknowledge anything about how I felt. I tried to explain I had a hard time growing up and was really shy and she was just like "you had plenty of friends". I guess I need to try to remember that I tried my best to articulate myself and my emotions, and I can be proud of that. Maybe things will improve in future sessions... or I will have to be really strong about boundaries even though she is so manipulative and just end up only talking to her like 3 times per year idk. Day
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Gifts and Love bombing
Family & Caregivers / by Daydreamer47
Last post
 February 18th, 2024
...See more Hey, I got really upset today because my parents sent me flowers, because I told them my cat has cancer. My mom has been emotionally abusive in the past. I have told her many times that her behavior hurt me and that I feel stressed spending time with her, but she just selectively forgets and insists on giving gifts. I also told her before that I have mixed feelings about gifts from her because of our past conflicts, but she said I was being negative and dismissed me. I did tell them about my cat because I felt like I needed to not avoid telling them, but it feels like now the floodgates have opened where she is pushing to connect with me and disregard my boundaries about not wanting to connect with her again. I sent her an email expressing how I feel. I did thank her for the flowers but expressed that what I really need is a verbal acknowledgment of my feelings of hurt. I feel like she most likely unfortunately will take it personally again, but I feel like I'm tired of being walked over and I need to just keep repeating "I am still hurting; I am still upset" even if she never accepts it because I deserve to stand up for myself and take up space. Thanks, Day
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