Pay her back?(Reach out)?
I'm here to ask if I should reach out to my ex gf who I was with for 2 years. This upcoming January of 2025 it will be 2 years since the breakup.
It was all during COVID, and while I was a broke college student in a physical therapy program with no car, no time, and definitely no money.
I promised her, from the very first date, which I had to split with her, that I would pay her back when I wasn't a broke college student. She paid her half without hesitation.
She has a boyfriend now. I saw her Spotify playlist pic of them. One who she's been with since 4 months after our breakup. Which means they met earlier then that. The same guy who she said she "didn't replace me" with. And that I "didn't know the full story". She has posted him all over her social media.
She said she thought it was "right person wrong time" due to me being in school, COVID, my brothers issues I had to help out with at home, no car, no money, and her not being in school yet.
She's in school now 4 hours away.
Should I pay her back with a message attached to the payment? I have the message saved on my phone if anyone wants to see and offer some advice?
I've been getting therapy, and yes...I *** up. (If you've seen THE BEAR, the show, *spoiler warning*.......I basically did the Carmen freezer speech to Claire...to my ex's face, when we were arguing about how to deal with her dad's ultimatum.) No cheating or abuse or anything was involved, but I reacted and said *** out of anger and resentment towards her parents expectations of me at the time and took it out on her in the arguments and with my comments. Her parents are old school and expected me to just press a button and be where I'm at now, but back then.
Do I pay her back? I want to. I took her virginity, and she was my first serious relationship. I was her 2nd serious relationship. Her first was in highschool.
Obviously I want her back.
Please let me know your honest thoughts, I can give more detail if needed. But I tried to make it as short as possible