What do you wish your partner could understand about you when fights occur between the two of you?

@imontheoutside

How much I love him and sometimes I say stupid things in anger. I dont mean even 1% of them :(

I don't create problems out of nothing.. If I tell them I feel a certain eay, it's because I do and it bothers me and I deserve to be heard and for what I say to be addressed by you! (This is totally addressed to my ex. I don't have this problem anymore thank goodness. Haha)

I just want him to know that even a simple 'sorry' can lift my mood... and that keeping things to himself is not helping...:(

That just because we're disagreeing about a subject, doesn't mean I'm disagreeing with him as a person, and my disagreement with a decision he made or a subject he brought up doesn't mean I'm attacking him or upset with him, I'm upset with the situation.

I wish he could be more sensitive & try to see things from my point of view.

I've moved your thread to the Discussion Threads section.

Let's just say I married well outside my class. My wife's a saint with the perfect upbringing and let's just say I had it real rough.

I've got a hot temper, a potty mouth, and the two can team up to create some pretty hurt feelings. I was really stressed and tired working 95 hours a week and doing my best to acclimate to our new son and used the poor girl as a verbal punching bag on my bad days. This went on for the period of a year, and eventually she'd had enough and took our child and left while I was on business in Germany and had no intention of telling me it was coming or had happened.

I wish my partner could see that her demonstration of the issues in our relationship left me without an understanding of the consequences as a result of my negligence to address issues, hence limiting my cause for concern with addressing the matters before she'd had to convince herself over a year to be strong and move away and file divorce.

She should be good

I believe because my husband is always adamant about "staying true to himself", he rarely says sorry for the simple and very important reason of stopping an unnecessarily heated argument. He always has to stand up for his point.

He says he does it to simply express his reasoning/logic for doing something that upset me, but the negative way he drives it home, tone of voice, delivery, going on and on, etc. Makes me think he is showing me he is right for what he did.

My partner should understand me