Most common reasons couples argue about
Arguements are an inevitable part of most relationships,What do you think are the 3 most common reasons that couples argue about ?
In my opinion:
1. Lack of communication.
Sometimes lack of communication between couples leads to them having misconceptions about each other causing rifts. I think that these misconceptions should be cleared as soon as possible and honest communication should be the sound track of all relationships.
2. Not spending enough time with each other.
People do want to work towards building their career and firming their own sense of self. So they might get caught up in their jobs or studies. Hence, see each other less often leading to couples getting distant. Jobs and studies are important, but I think that every once in a while, couples can remind each other of their importance.
3. Taking out the trash
The argument about who will empty the trash bin!
Agree with those <3 They are some due to arguments can take place in relationships.
Yeah ...lack of communication is the biggest problem
Right on for #1 and #2 with us, although love languages/what spending time together looks like is more specific. #3 would be parenting styles.
@caringLight for some reason I have a feeling my list of things argued about from my last relationship is way too long and intense haha I think we used to fight the most about me not getting enough respect and him not getting enough attention . Lack of communication is definitely a more normal one that I am sure most couples argue about as well as time spent together. Those are good ones I agree @loyalBlueberry6196 #ontobetterthings #movingon
@calidescopeheart Sorry to hear about Calide and those were lovely points. Thank you
@calidescopeheart
Exact same for us, reversed: he wants more respect/appreciation and I want more focused attention (vs. just being in the same room doing different things). Of course, if he feels appreciated he wants to spend more time with me, and if he's spending more time with me then I feel more appreciative. It's easy to get stuck when you're both not getting what you want/need.
1. finances
2. values
3. communication
@EvelyneRose Thank you for your thoughts Eve. Truly they are some of the causes for arguements.
@caringLight
1. Not giving enough time to each other
2. A third person who's creating a zone of insecurity
3. Television :P
@afriendindeed8
Third person yeah they are sometimes create lot of problems... True..
Lack of communication for sure, this is like the main reason. If there is communication, I believe you can work through almost anything. In time, I noticed that is pretty important to have as many things in common as possible with your partner as well. Many arguments can start when you both want to do different things. Similar personalities can be a huge help too, in my experience.
Common arguements:
1). finances
2). poor communciation
3). expectations/roles
@ShawnWilsonLCSW Thank you Shawn <3
@ShawnWilsonLCSW
Expectation is the most important point after communication mr shawn
@caringLight
I think there's always one who's more insecure in a relationship, and that often causes problems as the relationship is unbalanced. Most of the fight my boyfriend and I have is about disagreements or misbehaviors. Everyone is different, and it's hard sometimes to accept the other's opinion when yours is completely the opposite. (e.g. he thinks it's okay for me to watch movie with a guy, so therefore I shouldn't stop him from watching a movie with another girl)
@colourfulBlueberry62 Absolutely! Each person will have a different perspective regarding the rules of engagement. Its definitely worth the conversation as to what is considered appropriate behavior.
In my experience, it has been due to:
1) lack of communication, as in he thought it was alright to not mention something and I thought he'd understand why I felt as I did without having to explain myself.
2) Insecurities, both of us feeling unloved or unheard resulting in resentment for the other for making us feel this way.
3) Fear of the future, usually about finances and insecurities, as well as an attachment and fear of being on our own.
Well... they didn't go very far but what I did find was that communication was a huge thing, and also that trying to change a person can only happen if they other person is willing.. but you've got to love that person and accept that person as what he or she is regardless of the change. Just grow with each other, and enjoy sharing it with one another..
@reliablebutoftenforgotten
Yeah true
@caringLight
1)Communication gap so misunderstanding and that leads to arguments
2)trust issue problem so that again leads to arguments and
3)love each other but never express their exact feelings so becomes difficult to understand each other...
